I don't really feel comfortable asking this, but I just wanted some honest, frank opinions, and I don't feel that anyone I know can answer my queries. I'm particularly interested to hear from people who've lost loved ones through suicide and those that have tried it themselves. This isn't a cry for help, and it isn't a bid to get attention, I just need some advice really.
I wanted to know if Suicide does affect those left behind negatively. In most cases I can see that it would be heartbreaking, but what if the person who commits suicide isn't a nice person? What if they are someone who just causes problems and misery? Would it not be a better thing for them to just not be around anymore? I've never known anyone whose taken their own life or tried to, so I can't really relate to what those left behind must think, but I struggle to think that people would be worse off if I wasn't around.
2006-09-16 07:56:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I can't exactly ask people directly what they'd go through if I was to die, but I'd be interested to find out wether it would be beneficial to the majority of people I know. I wouldn't be leaving any children behind, I have no debt and I don't think it would inconvience anyone much. I'm not seriously considering it, I just think of it as a back up plan. I don't want to hurt anyone, so I'm wondering if there is any way to quantify the hurt I cause by being alive and quantify the hurt my suicide would cause to gauge wether it is a viable and empathetic solution.
Background information for anyone who is interested, I'm 19, married and have been treated for depression twice, once at 13 and once at 18. I've tried medication and talking therapys, but both times the depression passed of its own accord. I've never attempted suicide, only minor self-harm when I was 13 or so.
Thanks to anyone who can offer any advice or tell me of thier experiences.
2006-09-16 08:00:39 · update #1
I lost a daughter 12 years ago to suicide and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, Suicide if a loved one often brings guilty feeling to anyone who loved than bueause we feel that we could have prevented it in some way. You can never stop a person who is set on suicide no matter how hard you try.
I have suffrered with anxiety and very deep depression because of her suicide for many years. I feel taht in some way I let her down. This is the month she comitted suicide and I also lost a son this month 2 years ago to murder so September is really a hard month for me,
I have considered it myself and then think of the misery that my other children would have to go thru again and I don't ever want to see them have to suffer thru that again.
Suicide does not affect just the person that does it, it affects all the people that loved them and it affect them for a long time.
2006-09-16 08:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Linda L 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from personal experience....my ex-love from many years ago died of a drug overdose earlier this year. He caused me a lot of pain when we were together, but I feel very distraught over his death despite the fact that I have since re-married and now have a fine husband and life.
His family has been left reeling. They blame themselves. This is especially hard for them because they lost their eldest son (natural causes) in 2001. His dad never recovered and then just died a few weeks ago. Many think it was from the grief.
I don't know if you are a religious person or spiritual in any sense, but I believe that it is not your job to choose your time of passing. God is bigger than it all. I would suggest you surf the web and look at websites that deal with grief and loss. Just reading some of the stories will make you realize that suicide is not the answer.
2006-09-16 08:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers experience strong feelings of stress, confusion, self-doubt, pressure to succeed, financial uncertainty, and other fears while growing up. For some teenagers, divorce, the formation of a new family with step-parents and step-siblings, or moving to a new community can be very unsettling and can intensify self-doubts. For some teens, suicide may appear to be a solution to their problems and stress.
Depression and suicidal feelings are treatable mental disorders. The child or adolescent needs to have his or her illness recognized and diagnosed, and appropriate treatment plans developed.
A teenager who is planning to commit suicide may also complain of being a bad person or feeling rotten inside.
I have a friend who's brother killed himself. That was back when I was in grammer school. I'm 39 years old now and that still impacts my friends life as well as her mothers and other siblings. What seems to hurt them the most is that they feel they are the blame because they didn't know how bad he was hurting on the inside. He wouldn't share this information so they had no way to help him.
Click on this link to learn more:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/suicide.html
2006-09-16 08:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shawnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost two members of my family to suicide, and it really impacted our whole family structure. My Stepmother's cousin and my cousin were the lost ones who removed themselves from our lives. All I could think was; how could they be so selfish? There isn't anything that either one of them couldn't've come to our families about. If it was really that bad, why couldn't they come to those who love them most and ask for help with whatever it was they were going through. It could've been finances, self esteem issues, sexual orientation pressures, anything... we wouldn't've cared what the problem was, it would've been better than not having them at all. They decided it to take the easy way out and leave all their crap and baggage and guilt on us. That was really unfair. It made me upset and angry. It has been almost 10 years for one and even more for the other. I am sure you can tell by my tone that I am still working through it. So, not only does it hurt us, it has a long term impact. It may be over for them, but it still plagues us ever birthday, christmas, fourth of july, death day, you name it. For every person, even those "not liked" there is still that person's parents, grandparents, best friend, family, significant other, etc. You would be surprised how many people one person touches and how your life impacts those around you. When my dad died(Heart attack), I know he felt that he didn't have that many friends and we had a small little church in a nursing home that we used for the service. We had over 300 people show up just by word of mouth. He would've been shocked, he would've expected family and the list of friends he could count on two hands not people spilling out of the church.
One person means more than they could ever possibly know.
2006-09-16 08:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is selfish and doesnt do anyone any good. You need to get help and stop thinking thinking that you are a bad person. Everyone makes bad choices and nobody is perfect. But that doesnt mean they should kill themselves. Think about the hurt you would cause your husband and you parents and all your friends and family. It is SELFISH. So just be thankful for everyday that you are alive and doin good. and get some medicine or some therapy for your sadness. GOOD LUCK and i hope you get everything figured out.
2006-09-16 08:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter the person suicide is always bad, some may not leave anyone behind, or maybe they were a bad person, but all the same, suicide is a sad thing, and I have never known anyone to think anything different.
2006-09-16 07:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by hahaha 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, almost everyone has though of it. But why would you end your life if there are so many great things you can do?? For all you know you could be the person who finds a cure for HIV. i used to think of it when i was 15 but know that i'm 22 i have experienced great thinks like friends and trips and other stuff that i would have missed out on. Plus, think of you're family. I though it would be better for them not to have one more mouth to feed and a body to clothe. if you really think about, they'd be soooo depressed that they might think of it themselves. Life is worth living, you just have to get outside and do it. have a WONDERFUL life.
2006-09-16 08:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lanny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've tried suicide and am sad I failed!
I think you would get different answers from everyone, I can only speak for myself but I do feel like my family would be better of without me!
In a good or bad way it always affects those left behind, I'm sure of that!
I think nobody deserves to die, excepts terrorrists and other people like that.
I think suicide is a personal decision but it can be because of others!
2006-09-16 08:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by BleedingAngelSecretWounds 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for a person to lose a loved one from suicide, it would be heart breaking -- and that person would feel some guilt that they did not see the signs or they were not able to help the person before it was all too late.
for a person who's not good, to attempt suicide. i think we should not judge a person based on what we think -- it could be that the person has been suffering mentally and this has changed his/her personality and made it worse -- therefore we think that this person is "bad", and probably it's just bothering him/her, he/she just had to end it.
both people need medical attention because suicide is never the best solution to anything.
2006-09-16 08:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
suicide is never the answer. the people left behind would miss you incredibly, you said you have three children, they would have to grow up without their mom around. you really should give therapy another chance. it takes awhile to find out the right combination of drugs for a person that will work. please stick with therapy. you deserve to live a full and happy life. there is alot of information at David Olivers website go there.
2006-09-16 08:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by nana_bad_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋