My sister just had a baby, James, on Tuesday. My sister and I have never been really close but whatever. Well, she had the baby on Tuesday and never called to tell me. She called my sister-in-law and everyone else except me and my mom. I sent her a card saying congrats but that is it. She called me today screaming at me saying I was a terrible because I didn't call her like everyone else. I didn't even know what hospital she was in. I offered to take her daughter for the day, with the exception of 1 hour cause I had a meeting. Do you think she has a right to be mad? How is it fair that she called everyone else to say she had him but not me or mom. Im just really confused...
2006-09-16 07:51:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why dont you tell her that she was inconsiderate for not calling you in the first place and that had you known she had a baby you would have sent flowers or something like that. let her know that because of HER oversight of not calling you, made you feel slighted and you felt she must not have cared if you knew that she had baby or not.
dont be a wuss, let her know she has no right to be angry for her oversight.
2006-09-16 07:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably insecure about herself at the moment because usually new-mothers have an emotional rollercoaster, and since you and your sister haven't been really close, it might explain the call. She was probably expecting you to come visit her, she probably wants you two to be close as well as you want it.
Set aside some time for you and your sister to spend some time together, and tell her that offer still stands to take care of her new-born.
It really wasn't fair though she didn't call you and your mother, um, i really don't get why she didn't call your mother, but that's aside the point. She might've not called you because she could've been nervouse that you might not come to visit her, or you might not care at all about her. And when you didn't show-up, it might've gotten to her, and that could also esplain the angry phone-call. Like i said before, just try to set some time aside to spend with her and her new-born. It could really help.
i give you all my best wishes and love. Good Luck!
2006-09-16 15:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be more to this story than meets the eye...because your mother should have known when she was about due, when she went into the hospital, why the son-in-law didn't call your mother to tell her, etc....does your mother not get along with the son in law?.....don't think she should have called you yelling if you didn't know what hospital she was in, seems something is up where your sister and mom is concerned......
2006-09-16 14:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she had the right to be mad at you because she didn't call you to tell you what hospital she was even at or to tell her that she had the baby. Sounds like she forgot to call you and she expected that other people would have told you about it and when you didn't call her she probably felt like you didn't care about it. It's just her, she will get over it eventully
2006-09-16 14:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sherrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is young and dumb.she will grow up some day and regret the choice not to call her sister or mom. I don't think she had any right at all to yell at you.At least you sent her a card,that is more then what I would have done.
2006-09-16 14:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is not how a sister acts. she was wrong. But you be the better sister and go and love your new niece/nephew and love your sister. It is a bigger person that forgives and moves on
2006-09-16 15:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right. But that's life. She is your family and you have to love her. You don't have to let her bitchiness ruin your day though. My family is JUST like that! :-) Learn to let it go over you. Water off a ducks back!
2006-09-16 14:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your Ma eed to have a 3-way meeting with her if you want to re-establish a relationship.
2006-09-16 14:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is nutz...stay away from her.
She just wants you to be there when she needs someone to abuse.
Tell her to find some other person to be bi=polar with.
2006-09-16 14:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by sent_from_heaven2me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing like that. she is sensitive.
2006-09-16 14:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by prince47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋