My boyfriend's mom doesn't like me at all. She has only seen me once, but we haven't been able to talk and she already says that she doesn't like me. She is always looking for him and calling him so that he does favors for her around the house and stuff, and i feel she does that so him and i don't hang out. I really can't stand it anymore to the point that i dont think our relationship will last for a long time. She's always getting into his business and he allows it. She also criticizes me to try to make me feel horrible without even knowing me and sometimes he allows it. Don't get me wrong, he is a good guy and we get along really well when his mom is not around. I'm just tired i have to put up with this situation all the time. So what do you think? Should I stay w/ him or not?
2006-09-16 07:13:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't bother reading all that crap but I will tell you this, her "mom" can kiss your @ss and that's all there is to it. Seriously.
2006-09-16 07:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by bunbury 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me, sort of. My now-husband and I got together when we were in HS and his mom was the same way towards me. Only, there is a difference here, most likely, in the fact that she didn't even raise her son until he was 8 and then didn't even pay too much attention to him until he started working, so that she could spend his money. When my husband and I got married, she was just plain awful- to the point where we were on the verge of divorce. So, we completely cut her out of our lives...and were able to move away, and now we couldn't be happier. Of course, how you can handle your situation depends on your age and your bf. If, after you calmly explain your feelings to him about this he continues to blow you off, I would get rid of him, but if he is concerned over your feelings and agrees to try to remedy things, then I would stick with him- he may not even realize how isolated his mother is making you feel.
2006-09-16 14:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by < Roger That > 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would still be with that person.. It's her son you spending your life with not with her... Have a talk with your boyfriend about the situation you have with his mom and how you feel so uneasy about his mom... You have to feel bad about your boyfriend.. He is in the middle right now.. One is you and one is his mom the two that he love... How will you feel to be squeeze in the middle... Just give him time ... If he love you he will try to find things to make his mom loves you,.... But remember he's the one you go home to not his mom...
2006-09-16 14:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should find out why his mom don't like you, and see if she would still act the same if you and your boyfriend where just friends. If that don't work. Try getting your boyfriends dad or another relative on your side.If nothing works. You should not stay with him.
2006-09-16 14:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by JOSEPH ALEXANDER A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy really loves you, he will not listen to the negative things that his mother says about you. If the situation is making you feel bad, then perhaps it's time to end it.
2006-09-16 14:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to be with your boyfriend or with his mom? try to avoid her as more as possible, but if she is involved in all his business and lets her do that, i would run far from him, 'cause he seems like mama's boy, and it is going to be for the rest of his life.
2006-09-16 14:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuck! Dating a mommie's boy only gets worse with time. Eventually he'll want YOU to be his mom.
You can find a more grown-up guy, I'm sure.
2006-09-16 14:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Evenstar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its up to u u need to tell ur bf that u really like and his mon is just getting in the way of u 2 realtionships if he agrees with u then stay with him if he makes a big argument out of it tells hiis is over
2006-09-16 14:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tazkeyah A 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay, moms are naturally protective of their sons. you have to work around it. she'll just have to live with the fact that you love each other
2006-09-16 14:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 1st time around my family hated him-I married him. Next time-his family hated me-again,I married him!
2006-09-16 14:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋