My son is afraid of monsters and asked me if they were real, because he was scared they were in his room. I told him there was no such thing as monsters, but I had to be honest with him and so I told him it might be wolves or criminals sneaking around the house or something. I don't want him to be naive but now he's crying alot and wont go to bed. He's in 2nd grade, what should I do?
2006-09-16 06:55:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Congratulations...You have now traumatized your son.
2006-09-16 06:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You could try getting someone else that won't need to be so "honest" to put him to bed from now on!
See, it's not what you should do now, it's what you shouldn't have done in the first place. A lot of little kids are scared of monsters but now the kid is scared of wolves and criminals too, because of your "honesty". Isn't a second grader a little young to be worrying about wolves and criminals? Do you live in an area where there are wolves ?
2006-09-16 07:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by worldhq101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Andrew!
I think the best thing to do is what you have done. Yes there could be someone around the house and wolves etc. but why say those things to an impresionative mind. If he sees someone he will tell you.
If he is having dreams and calling for you then make a game where you put on armour and attack the monsters. Tell him they leave when they know that dad's protect their sons! They also hate back rubs. It makes them run away. SO you rub his little back and solve the monster situation, have a loving moment with your son and he rests in peace with the love and protection of his dad the Warrior!!
2006-09-16 07:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your son is perfectly normal.
just tell your son that there is no way that anyone or anything can get into your house, because your house is locked up and secure at night. walk him around to all the doors and windows and have him help you lock them before he goes to bed. also, when he is doing this have him go outside with you and walk around the house, to look for anything out of the ordinary. tell him that you two are the men of the house and need to make sure that it is safe for everyone else. this should give him a boost of confidence that you trust him to help you protect the rest of your family. you shouldnt have any more problems with him after this -- it may take a week or two to accomplish this -- but as we know rome was not built in a day and neither was a man.
do, however, refrain from telling your son about wolves and criminals -- call them big dogs and bad guys -- your son will be able to relate better to this reference.
2006-09-16 07:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all- don't tell him there are wolves and criminals sneaking around the house. It's good that you told him that there is no such thing as monsters. Now you should tell him that he is safe inside his home. Every child should feel safe inside their own homes. You should tuck him in every night and let him know that he is safe, because you will protect him.
2006-09-16 07:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did you volunteer that info to him?? Explain it a little better to him. Let him know that if anyone breaks in that you will hear it and handle it and that he will be fine. Also tell him that it is unlikely that a breakin will happen. Put a nightlite in his room or in the hall with his door open. My daughters have gotton my son to where he is scared of the dark now-at 7-when he never was before. I leave a small lite on in the living room & it shines in his room all nite. He's fine with that. Good luck.
2006-09-16 07:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you for real?? or just clueless??
OK look, 2ND grade is a bit young for "keeping it real" and taking that approach. Being is child is in essence being naive. That's what kids are.
OK look here is what i have seen work. Get a spray bottle and put some water and vanilla extract (a little bit for scent) in it. Tell him is magic spray. Spray the area and tell him it keeps all monsters, wolves and criminals away (yes we as adults know this is not true BUT for his sake PRETEND!)
2006-09-16 08:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reassure him. What i did was tell my son that if he has nightmares think of me. When gets scared, i would go into his room and show him that noithing was there.Empower him with ways of dealing with any monster -real or imagined-troubles.He is in third grade this year and is doing fine. Peace.
2006-09-16 07:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take advantage of what I call "moster spray"....in basic terms a sprig bottle you get on the dollar keep packed with water and lavender extract. till now mattress we spray everywhere with an outstanding mist of Monster Spray (I made a funky label for it on the computer and positioned it in with a bag of groceries and tell them "look what i chanced on on the food market!")- contained in the closet, under the mattress, and everywhere else they are afraid they may be hiding. Then I positioned em to mattress. they provide the effect of being to purchase it...i've got no longer had a single monster scare considering all of us started (plus it makes their room scent nice!)
2016-10-01 00:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by blumenkrantz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ususally it is good to change the enviroment of his room a little, like draw some superheros (that keep the monsters away) or make his room have good lighting so that he has a good overview, so that there ar eno dark corners. if he complains about monsters tell him, that if he laughs, the pop into thin air... he should take care what books he reads and wat films he watches, good luck, i have a little brother...
2006-09-16 07:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by sabinaauchi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that was stupid of you! now he's going to be terrified that a wolve or criminal is going to come into his room! tell him that his room is prefecttly safe and you will keep everything abd away from him
2006-09-16 07:07:32 · answer #11 · answered by Zoey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋