Why is it so hard to get over an ex when you know it's for the best?

Question

He lied to me with every breath he took.......I feel like I have been dating a stranger for the past year. Hell, there's probably more that I don't even know about. I know I don't want to be with him, but it's hard because I will be giving birth to his child next month, and I know he won't be there for it. Just kinda sad, that's all. Any suggesstions??

Answer 1

i know how u feel u really care about him and then u find out it is over i just got over a bad break up to andhe is already off and has another gf so forget him get out hang with ur friend try not thinking about him i now this is corny but it is all 4 the best and things will work out. hin leaving leaves space for another guy 2 come into ur life. like i always say guys r like light bulbs 1 goes out screw another one right in
dont woory it will be ok
i hope all goes well 4 u

Answer 2

I know how you feel because i am in your shoes too. my baby father is in the military and that is how we met. however, i didn't know he was married, he told me he was divorced. but come to find out that was a lie, i was searching through his things in his house because i had a dream about him and another woman with a baby. i knew he had two other kids but anyway i found the divorce papers alright. UNSIGNED! i was devastated, how could he lie to me! then i found out i was pregnant! FROM A MARRIED MAN! HOW gross of him. i felt so disgusted. but through all of that and the lies, i still care for him. i long for him but then i remember a dog will always be a dog. he is a liar and for me to think maybe there could be something between us would be insane. because if he did his wife like that, he would do me like that more and more. he won't respect me. but the hard thing is now too, is that we have a child together. i told him he don't have to worry about being a father to my child because of his situation and besides i don't want a boy teaching my son how to be a man when he don't even know how to. but, he siad he is not going anywhere and that he will support our child. but MS. keep it like that. cause i am going to tell you now. in our situation, you will see that your babyfather will try tp whisper those sweet *** nothings in your ear just to get some , you know what. and that is all they want. they think just because you all have a child now, you and him will always be sex partners. but not! stand up, and say hell no. this is about the chhild and leave it like that. oh and to make things run smoother, don't hold conversations too long because you will be talking about each other and **** like that. meaningless **** to you now. because if he felt the way he is telling you, then he would never had broke your heart. good luck and if you ever need someone to talk to . then i a here. bless you

Answer 3

Oh my God I was like in your same exact boat girlfriend, my baby is a month old now. My advice is to get over it though, my ex is a huge jerk and he always will be. Some guys never change and it's best that you keep moving forward because now you will have a little one to worry about. Don't let him make you backpeddle in life because it's not worth it. Just worry about yourself and your baby, let him rot in hell with my ex. They can keep each other company in the devil's armpit.

Answer 4

hey little miss how dose it feel to have that little bundle of joy growing in your belly.(smile cause i am). im sorry to say but your focusing on the wrong thing, that guy that stranger, is no longer. this new life is the future. i know it hard, hell its hard even when your not carrying someone else blood in your body,i guess what im say is look to your baby for love, they say a baby's love is unconditional and i think in one month you will soon have it

PS what are you having lots of love for you and your baby.....dont worry be happy (smile)

Answer 5

If he lied to you that much then why bother??? You and your child are probably better off!!! Neither of you needs to be around someone that lies that much!!! So, much that you don't know what is truth and what is not!!! Next thing you know you are questioning yourself!!! Keep a stiff upper lip, and keep going.

Answer 6

its deff goin to be hard....because you want your child to have a father and you seem like you dont want to raise this baby on your own which i sure you dont cuz i know i wouldnt want to either.....if i were you and i really wanted to break up with him i would try my best to do in a kinda of way dat leaves things good between us so we can still be friends and everything and he can still take of his child every now and then ya know.....but ya know if he will really leave you with his baby than hes not worth keepin around.....you dont want your child comin up around bad influences like dat.....ya it will be very hurtful and everything.....but doin da right thing alot times can be painful.....but yet rewarding.....just imagine you gota beautiful baby comin into the world....so be thankful dat you got a precious gift out of it....and dont worry if you trust and believe in God he will make everything ok....and you know what it is ok to pray we all need it:) and ill pray for you too:)

Answer 7

Your carrying his child and even though its over there is a life that you two created and will always be linked to one another b/c of this.

Answer 8

my friend is going through the same thing. you have to get through this or your child will grow up wanting they're dad even if they realize he was a jerk. you must have loved him very much or you wouldn't fell this way. you will find someone else in this world that will be better then he was.

Answer 9

He just became a habit.It's hard to close a chapter in your life,even a bad one. Have a great life with your baby

Answer 10

hey there a lot of single parents out there so your not alone.I'm one of them and I'm a guy.sometimes you have to deal with it and accept it and move on.I know its easyer said then done.But you can't reliy on someone you can't trust.I feel for you.