All I want to do is retreat back into my shell. I loathe how I am. I loathe all I am. I'm very lonely and don't even have a friend.
2006-09-16 05:56:28 · 11 answers · asked by longdistancejon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats how i used to bb so don't feel bad. all you have to do is like start some meaningless small talk with them and they'll probably respond . if they do you can respond to what they said to you and after you guys have talked awhile ask the person's name and they'll ask yours. and then you might ask where they are going and they might invite you. so it'll go something like this:
you: i love your shoes where'd you get them?
the other person: bebe they were on sale!
you: good buy! you know i used to have some shoes like that
the other person: really?
you: yea but they got ruined by my dog! Good for nothing mutt!
the other person: (laughs) well my dog ans your dog should get together b/c they would practically be in love or something
you: (laugh) hey i didn't cath your name what is it?
the other person: Charleese. And yours?
You:stacy... well see you around.
the other person: see ya
that's it
2006-09-16 06:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by disiple in training 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
practise talking on the mirror pick a subject ,the gender and the environment and just get talking, you can even do this every time you are alone and when bathing, with time you will find your confidence grows and to try it out just greet someone and do it with a smile if they reply with a smile on their face ask a question like where can i find the libray or a certain supermarket.you keep doing this to train yourself becoz by shying away you don't get the confidence remba practice makes perfect and don't pick on yourself becoz what you see urself is how others treat u.Ther is somebody inside you jus relax and let that person come out u will be amazed at yourself and be4 u know it you will have alot of mates
2006-09-16 19:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you will get the confidence is by atcually doing it. I have been there all it takes is your self to get out there and start communicating again.
Try going in a chat room, or even better camfrog where you can talk live to people online with your cam and mircophone.
Don't hide away life is too short!
2006-09-16 13:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by VernHead123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one person i know who could stand up and talk in public. He is a guy i went to school with and he was a preacher. All the other people i know panic. You are not the only one. Try to to be people you are used to and talk about things you know if you have nothing to say it is no crime to keep quiet and if you keep you can never say anything that is incorrect or that will embarass you.
2006-09-16 13:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by cool runings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try. I get that way sometimes, but I remember that I'm not trying to impress somebody, if they don't like me, then that is their problem, not mine. Try to find a friend at a place that you share a common interest. If you like music, try a music store. If you like gardening, try someplace that sells gardening supplies. There are millions of people out there, it should not be too hard to find someboday that would like to be your friend. Just be friendly, honest, and don't cling to the first person that is nice to you.
2006-09-16 13:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by James R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to put yourself in situations with lots of friendly people and they will be willing to make a friend, most of the time. I used to be shy but i started making conversation with people who looked lonely and boom! I have lots of friends now.
2006-09-16 13:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by good girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer i find is to read, books on jokes, riddles and even trivia and amazing facts keeping on telling funny jokes or amusing stories preferably about yourself keep it simple, you'll soon become noticed. Good luck
2006-09-16 13:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to talk about something you know a lot about and are confident when talking about . Over see what people are talking about and just side in to give your opinion if you know lots of ideas about it.
2006-09-16 13:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by constajc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems difficult to get the confidence to talk with people, but it isn't, really.
Find something you like to do, like paint, or skateboard, or help at a shelter or soup kitchen, and you will find people who like to do it too. Then it will be easier to talk with those people as they want to talk with you!
Good luck!
2006-09-16 13:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am moved by your situation ...
ok try out this....
first think you are the first ..and the best...
if u wanna have some practise go 2 yahoo chat ...
chat with more buddies... be easy if some1 does not agree to make u as your friend then .... please keep on trying...
i am saying for your good please follow man..
2006-09-16 13:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by ashes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋