I'm a christian and I feel that if you don't fornicate with the person that your going to marry(fiance') for the rest of your life, then how do you know that you'll be satisfied in the bedroom for the rest of your LIFE. Men love sex don't you think that the night of your wedding when you go on your honeymoon and the first time you do it, and it SUX, aren't you gonna be kinda,,,,, upset?
2006-09-16 05:39:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should definitely experiment with sex before marrying someone, because you are right. What if you are not physically compatible with that person? If neither one of you has any experience, then you have only vague ideas about what to do--and no ideas about how to fix what is wrong. In fact, if you are shy about sex, you might not want to tell your husband that he is doing something wrong and embarass him or hurt his feelings. When sex is good, is makes up about 10 percent of the relationship; when it is bad, about 90 percent. Don't go into this with your eyes closed; you will regret it.
And don't let anyone tell you that you are a babymaking machine and not supposed to enjoy sex; the only ones who really believe tht are men, because they don't have to go through it.
2006-09-16 05:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have both never had sex, then sex with your new spouse is the best you've ever had. You'll both learn how to perform together. By the way, sex is not the most important part of a relationship over time. I love to share that intimacy with my husband, but there is so much more to life. Think about what you are implying: if you are don't have great sex on your wedding night you'll wish you had married someone else. Do you know that according to modern bride magazine, only 60% of couples have sex at all on their wedding nights? They are too busy with the ceremony, the reception, and everything else. It ends up being consummated the morning after.
2006-09-16 05:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Sex is the lowest common denominator of human interaction. Any man and woman can do sex. But to truly love your mate is more difficult and takes continual effort. It is most important to get to know your prospective mate on a person to person level. When you feel comfortable being with your fiance and don't want to be without them, and both of you feel the same way, then you can get married. Sex with the person you love will be good just because it is with the person you love. If you feel a bit awkward at first, that is okay. You will work together and learn what works for each of you.
Fornication is never acceptable and relationships that are based upon sexual excitment will fail unless they can develop a more meaningful relationship based upon caring, sharing and true love for one another. Sex is not the foundation of a marriage, but the cherry on top of the dessert.
2006-09-16 05:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by rac 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fornication isn't a good idea. On the other hand Christian sex doesn't have to be boring, it is intended to be a beautiful thing between husband and wife. In a married realtionship you and your partner should be comfortable with one another to talk about what your likes and dislikes are in bed. Look at it this way, if it isn't that great at the beginning you should have plenty of time to work on it and find out what works for both of you. Part of the fun for me and my wife has been the experimentation to find what works. Hope this helps.
2006-09-16 05:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by hinoroam 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dear angelsuns,
I am not judging you but have you ever read Matthew 7:21-23? The Bible also tells us in Hebrews 12 that if you are a child of God and in sin (fornication, stealing, disobedient to your parents, etc.) the Lord is going to chastize you! Please believe me that when God spanks you, you will surely know it! The Bible goes on to say in Hebrews 12 ...that if we sin and do not receive chastisement, then we are not saved! The Bible says that this individual is a bastard--illigitimate!
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2006-09-16 06:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear false witness of Jesus,
The word of God speaks clearly, on sexual immorality, (fornication) 1st Cor. 6:9
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers, Nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat.
(I know his word has fallen on deaf ears.) (spiritually dead)
You say, men love sex, these are the men that are in darkness and have nothing to do with God and hate God. Do you love God or hate him? I think you know the answer.
2006-09-16 11:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by You are loved 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but in the bible knowhere does it state that it is okay to fornicate just to test out your man's sexual preformance. Sex is basically just for reproduction not pleasure. There is no justification for fornication in the bible, you will burn in hell. You as a women are basically a baby making machine and your pleasure in the bedroom doesn't matter.
28: If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29: Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. Deuteronomy 22:28-29
2006-09-16 05:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
because the guidelines interior faith says that "as long as you repent, all sin might want to be forgiven" (not quoting, in spite of the undeniable fact that it fairly is the message) christian or catholic. it really is bullcrap. we've thrown god's artwork again in his face, and also you imagine that there is going to be repentance? the easy reality lies right down to this, we do not stay by employing god's word anymore, we stay by employing guy's word. imagine about it, each and every bible it fairly is outlined at present has been translated and revised what number circumstances? Can each person take a seat there and say of their logical concepts that the message has not been contorted in any respect? faith is a magnificent difficulty, i love any faith, yet you may not structure something as powerful as faith. There are not any guidelines. prepared faith has finished not something yet placed the skill of the international into guy's hand, finally destroying himself which includes his personal greed. What about different christians, there are extra issues obtainable than in basic terms pedophilia. What about the televangelists? they are the biggest scam artists contained in the international, you imagine it fairly is ideal? Or the media? Or each and every thing else? in basic terms look at Society and see the traditional of existence prepared faith has formed.
2016-11-27 02:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by akerley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to correct the first answerer sex is for pleasure and for reproduction,but it is not to be had outside of marriage,the bible says that Fornication should not be named ONCE among those claiming to be christian,and you shouldnt worry about such things,its Love that make Sex better and intimacy,dont be carnal minded but spiritual minded and abstain from fleshly lust that wars agains the soul
2006-09-16 05:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by holyghost130 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What are you worried about sex for? Christians reproduce by raiding wart-hog litters anyway so it shouldn't be a factor.
2006-09-16 06:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋