At 7, your son is a good age to start helping you to buy his clothes. Take him to a shop that only sells boys clothes and let him choose a special outfit. If he has a say in their purchase, he will be more inclined to wear them.
I have a cousin who used to wear his sister's clothes around that age (it started around 3). He's 22 now and not the least bit gay. It turns out, he got a lot of laughs when he did it at 3 and a lot of other attention when he kept doing it.
I have another cousin who was waaaay into Barbie, he styled her hair for hours when he'd visit us. He is gay and has the most amazing hair/clothes salon you've ever seen. I've never seen him wear girls clothes though.
It sounds like you're really giving your son the time and attention he needs :-) and you're concerned about stressing and scaring him. He's a lucky kid with good parents... he'll be fine.
2006-09-16 09:30:30
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answered by Canadian_mom 4
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Some people are just wired this way. It is not a disorder that a psychologist or a psychiatrist can address, and to subject him to this sort of attention will tell him that there is something very wrong with him, and that the way he is upsets mom and dad.
If you value his self esteem and sense of self worth, do not make a big deal out of this. If it is just a phase, it will pass. If it isn't, he will be facing a lot issues regarding this without your well intentioned disapproval adding to his burdon. If this deeply offends you, do nothing to enable his behavior, but neither should you condemn it. If your concern is more for his personal adjustment as an individual, create an environment where he can safely indulge his proclivities, and discuss where and when such behavior is acceptable. Either way, he will need your love and support, and no amount of negative attention will change his wiring. Disapproval WILL, however drive him to indulge himself in secret, and will drive a wedge of distrust between you and him.
I enjoy cross dressing. I am a moderately successful craftsman, an officer in a men's service organization, and a loving, heterosexual father of two fine sons. I indulge myself in private, and aside from the self loathing and confusion I experienced in my youth, due in a large part to the negative attention from my parents, and the psychological treatment I was subjected to, it has not in any way affected my place in society. Spare your son the agony I experienced. Support and love him without condition.
2006-09-16 05:56:44
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answered by yellowcab208 4
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Listen, most of you people want to change him when he's fine just the way he is. He's a little kid! Maybe he will grow up to be transgender or gay and there's nothing wrong with that! A psychologist would say he would grow out of it. But if he doesn't, that means he transgender or gay and what you have to do is deal with it!
Read the book, Luna by Julie Anne Peters if you really want to know more about this.
don't try to stop him unless you want he to hate you for the rest of your life and the rest of his.
ps- Sorry this is I'm really harsh in this, but this is what I believe in doing; doing what's right. He's your son, love im for who he is, not how he dresses like. If he's born gransgender or gay, you can't fix his brain to make him more boy-like.
2006-09-16 07:54:28
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answered by Me 1
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I wouldnt worry about it!! At his age he's probally just curious, especially if he watches mommy get ready. My nephew went through the fingernail polish stage. He's just fine now!! Girl things are so much brighter and prettier in most cases that may be why he's drown to them! Now as far as going out in public I'd have to put my foot down! I think when kids grow up so close in age they just enjoy doing alot of the same things. Every little boy that grows up with a girl or around girls tends to enjoy baby dolls! If anything he'll be a great dad some day!! I wouldnt worry at this point!
2006-09-16 05:41:50
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answered by gacowgurl16 1
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Discourage it all you can - especially the wearing of the clothes - by buying him some special male clothing that all the other boys his age are wearing. And find him his own room if at all possible - he may be a "little" confused as to the "all" the differences between him and his sister.
2006-09-16 05:40:28
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answered by dmspartan2000 5
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If its possible get him his own room and let him choose how to decorate it..like take him to the boys section of a toy store and let him choose a few things to play with....but im guessing they share a room because they have to...so separate their room and decorate his side. Also i recommend that you take him to a child psychiatrist the doctor will know how to talk to him so he wont be stressed. hope this helps and good luck!!
2006-09-16 08:24:44
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you NEED to take him to a psychologist. A good child psychologist won't stress him out. You need to find out what's going on with him in order to understand your role as his mother. This may be just a stage he's going through. However, seek professional help .
2006-09-16 05:40:16
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answered by clarity 7
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First of all, how long has he been doing this? Second maybe you should think about giving him his own room. Finally..he is probably just going through a stage, or he may being doing it to get attention, he might need his own space to give him individuality and not realize it himself. Don't jump to conclusions = CPS, give your child some understanding.
2006-09-16 05:43:24
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answered by 2¢ 4
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your sons not nutso, and he's probably not gay,and if he is gay than that's alright but all you've gotta do is support him in that case, either way just make sure he knows not to go around outside like that especially until he's old enough to understand that people will mostlikely make fun of him if he does. Kids are cruel and his friends found out about that they'd probalby laugh at him. But if that's what he wants to do at home than who cares? He'll probably grow out of it and if not than it's his personal thing and you just have to help him out, not be negative about it. This doesn't mean he's gay either so just ignore people who say that.
2006-09-16 06:44:08
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answered by talktome 2
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Simple. Don't let him wear his sister's clothes. It's your fault for
letting him go out in public like that. Get him a seperate room and
encourage him to play with other boys his age.
2006-09-16 05:35:07
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answered by *GoldenGirl* 2
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