I am 35, just divorced and feel too old to find love. I can not get around to dance halls and bars like I use to. Am I too old? Would anyone find me attractive?
2006-09-16 04:59:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are not too old. There is always hope. Good luck to you. I recommend healing yourself first and getting over the broken heart before dating again though.
2006-09-16 05:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope 35 is not too old to find true love, because if it is then I'm totally screwed. I'm 40 and I've been divorced for about eight years and I'm still looking for it.
You're not too old, but I know what you mean. It's a lot harder to date as you get older because you can't really hang out at the clubs or bars without people thinking your either an old perv or some kind of sad case.
There will always be someone who finds you attractive, so don't worry about that. Just be an outgoing, talkative and friendly guy and the women will notice you. (I always notice a guy like that).
2006-09-16 05:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are going through what many men go through after divorce. You feel unloved. I have friends that have divorced, and for about a year they cry and moan and groan to anyone that will listen. 35 is not too old to find love. By just going through the divorce, you are sad. It shows in your actions, and most people probably don't want to be involved with someone like that. But it will pass with time, and you'll find love screaming at your door. Men tend to get more attractive as they age, unlike women, HA HA! So it will happen, feast or famine. You are in the famine stage right now.
2006-09-16 05:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by DallasGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bobby, absolutely not! You are never too old to find true love, even after a divorce! I have been there and you can do this - besides, 35 is young...you are not over the hill or dead, believe me.
I was 39 when I left my first husband after years of aggravation with him. I dated a few men periodically, went on some awful blind dates (truly awful, really) and spent an awful lot of time alone contemplating my navel and finding out who I was. It was a period of self discovery, reflection and analysis. I put myself into therapy to learn how to resolve my grief from my divorce and learned how to forgive myself and my ex for the mistakes we both made in our marriage. One person was not solely to blame, as we both were responsible for our actions. I let my anger go and wished my ex husband well in his new life with his second wife. To this day I have NO regrets for our life together, and thank him for our time together. He taught me many things and brought me to where I am now.
Was it hard? Yes. Stressful? Absolutely. Sometimes I was lonely and hated myself and my life with such a passion I felt crazy. Sometimes I thought I made a mistake and should never have left, but I was very unhappy with him and knew I had done the right thing for myself. Sometimes I felt like I was positively ancient and so far over the hill no one would ever find me even remotely attractive. Some men were intrigued and others were terrified of me because I was successful: made good money, owned my own home, car, etc. I dated men who were fun, some who were toxic, and many who were pretty confused. In time I came to know what is was that I needed. It was a hard time.
One day, after a year long relationship I had ended (thankfully) I decided to join an internet dating club. I was cautious at first but wanted to give it a shot. I wrote an HONEST profile about myself, what I looked like, what I wanted and needed, etc. The response was tremendous - some men even responded just to thank me for being real. In less than a month I would come to meet my second husband. He was not my type by any means physically (nor was I), but we were soul mates. We could talk about anything and everything and learned we were kindred spirits. In each other we found our kindred spirits and the only person who ever understood us. We married 6 months later and today we are celebrating our 6th wedding anniversary. Oh, and PS- We are both 50 and life is grand!
Get out there! Believe in yourself and the qualities you possess. Just because you are divorced does not mean you are a failure, or a slug or unworthy. You are merely human - a person travelling your own path. You may find that some women are superficial and expect you to be rich etc...let them go. There are many women out there who are sincere and want what you want, true love and companionship.
Trust in this and it will come to you. Let go of your fears and anxiety and just be...who you are.
With best wishes from a fellow traveler!
2006-09-16 05:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your very Handsome and thats Bullshit about being too old,I,m divorced sense 1990, And i didn,t find my true soul mate till I was 40 yrs. old and I,ve been with him 5 yrs. Now!But you don,t even want to met partner in bar or club,Trust me,I,ve Bartened for over 20 yrs. and Those realatoinship last 1 out of 100! My sweet friend start looking to meet nice woman in supper market,Beach,Cffee shop,Parks,ect!I know theirs somebody out there if your really ready,But are you![recently Divorced?]Maybe you need healing Time,If case just have flings as a rebound,Till your Hearts Ready,But be up front with the person when having rebound relazine ship! Good luck Dear,Hollywood!
2006-09-16 05:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by hollywood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No 35 is not too old, and neither is 95. There are other places better suited to finding love than dance halls or bars....... mutual friends, evening classes, social groups, church groups etc.
2006-09-16 05:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by worldhq101 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never to old to find true love so and stop feeling sorry for yourself cause a women whats a man that is confident so get out there and find you a woman which you will. Good Luck
2006-09-16 05:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!. It's never too late to find true love.It took me 41 years and a very messy divorce before I found my true love and we just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary last month on our way to forever.But above all remember this the harder you look for love the more difficult it will be to find,just enjoy your life hang out with friends and when you least expect it the person of your dreams will walk into your life.
2006-09-16 05:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are calling them dance halls, then yea you are too old. I think the last time they had dance 'halls' was in World War I.
2006-09-16 05:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by XL HaHa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're only 35 - you're still young! You are never too old to find true love!
2006-09-16 05:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by italiana2683 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋