My ex is almost dependant on me. we met at work, and when ever I get a break he rushes up to me to say Hi. He calls me too much, and whenever I sign on AIM, he im's me before I can even see he's on. We've been friends for 6 years, what should I do? I might end my friendship if nothing helps!
2006-09-16 04:53:01 · 11 answers · asked by kdm1594 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being friends for so long would definately make things harder. You need to simply tell him that you need a little space. If you want him as a friend so bad, and he wants to keep you as a friend also then he will understand where you are coming from. I hope that helps in some way
2006-09-16 04:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by punkprincess0111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously when you two broke up, the notion of "let's still be friends" is in the forefront of his mind. He's more than dependant on you, he probably thinks you're his best friend... when the reverse is obviously not the case. Ending the friendship would probably be the last resort... it'd be tough with him at work all the time. You have two options: confront and discuss or slowly avoid... it's up to you to choose. You can have a frank discussion about this... tell him that you're very busy (make a cell phone call at work during your break for example), and that he needs to understand that you need space sometimes... hopefully that'll get him to not be so obsessive. Or you could slowly avoid him... go somewhere different on breaks, change your AIM name and export your buddy list to your new name and tell the people you're IMing that you're using a new, private name... some might say just block him on IM, but he'd get suspicious if you were offline all the time and ask you at work.
If I were the guy, a figurative slap to the face (i.e. confront and tell him straight up that you need space), would be the most effective... it just might cost you a friend for awhile until he figures it out.
2006-09-16 12:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Paris P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has an obsession with you which I can understand how he isn't letting you easily move on. He isn't letting himself easily move on either. He needs some help. You need to let him know how you feel and tell him if he doesn't back off then you will have start making him back off by telling him that you can not be friends with him, add him to your ignore list on your messenger or even go as far as a stalker's restraining order be put against him. Hope things get better you.
2006-09-16 12:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Novotny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for your ex to stand on his own two feet.
You may have to end the friendship if that what it takes. On AIM set it up so that you are invisible to him and then you can choose when to talk to him.
2006-09-16 11:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it, he sounds like he has no intention of looking for someone else and the fact that you give him the time of day he still feels that he has a chance. Let him know and avoid his im's and give him the cold shoulder at work or he will keep being persistent
2006-09-16 11:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might have to end the friendship. For your sake as well as his. He cant stay dependant on you.... but will as long as you remain friends. He cant move on because you are still friends. Quit being his friend so he can move on.
2006-09-16 11:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i guess just have a word with him and let him know what a pileon he is on you and you dont appreciate he fact that he is so dependant on you and tell him that you want him to stay from you...only when you keep him away will he learn to take care of himself and be independant!!
2006-09-16 12:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup ex usually means ends friendship too.
2006-09-16 11:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward and tell him that you need some space. Define that for him. Tell him what you told us, and let him know that he is beginning to annoy you.
2006-09-16 11:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this sounds like borderline stalking, be wary of this guy and let him know enough is enough.
2006-09-16 11:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by k s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋