i am in love with a girl, and found out that she was cheating on me. how do i get her off my mind? i think about her whenever i do anything! i dont want to feel like this anymore! i am going crazy! i feel like crap all the time! help me please!!!
2006-09-16 04:38:23 · 23 answers · asked by eecc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TIME heals all wounds. In few weeks/months, you'll be able to laugh it all off.
You can start off by throwing/hiding away anything that will just remind you of her. Then get a hobby (volunteer for a social activity,collect stuffs,clean cars, etc) or anything that will keep you occupied than sour grape on your failed relationship. Go to a gym and/or try to improve yourself more (pursue masterals if you've finished college, take special courses/certification, etc).. in a way, you're helping yourself unconsciously move on and people who knows you both will realize you're stronger and more productive and independent without your cheating girlfriend.
Who knows, in this way, you'll find someone A LOT better which will make the getting-your-mind-off-her way faster. Goodluck! =)
2006-09-16 04:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me about a year ago. I couldn't stop thinking about him. Everytime I saw, well, just about anything made me think about him and I'd go crazy at the thought of what he'd be doing with the other girl. I couldn't stop thinking if all he told me he felt for me before was a big lie. I realized that the only thing that helps is time. If you meant anything at all to that person they will come back, as cheesy as it may sound. People make mistakes and I'm not exactly sure what happened in your case but talking about it and getting your feelings out there really works, it'll get stuff out of your chest and out of your mind like you'd never imagine. It's not easy getting over someone you're in love with until you finally see that there are so many more people out there and there is someone better for you. Keep busy with other things, hobbies, work, friends, go on dates or take a mini vacation with a close friend and spend time with family. Go places you usually wouldn't go to that you never went to with that person and date around. It's normal to feel like crap and think about her constantly but don't give up on the rest of your life because of it. Good luck!
2006-09-16 11:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that same feeling, but in a different situation. Find a close friend that you can trust with all your secrets. A friend that will keep their mouth shut no matter what. I'd prefer a girl than a boy to tell my secrets to. I talked to her about everything. I let it all out. She made me feel better. No I don't think of her as much as I do. I only think of her when I listen to R&B songs. My situation is a girl that doesn't even know I'm there. I want to talk to her but I can't. You'll only understand if you knew my religion.
2006-09-16 11:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Samir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been betrayed ol' boy. It's hard to get over a betrayal that's a cheating one. I have only been cheated on once and it is no picnic. I guess you just give it time and it will fade. After awhile it will be so ugly to even think about it and you'll shove it out of your mind as soon as it rears its ugly head. You'll get better at doing that as time goes on and eventually that awful stab in the brain will go away. That's as near as I can guess about it short of therapy.
Just remember, YOU weren't the cheater, take comfort in that. Take the high road, don't dis her to others even tho it wants to be the first thing out of your mouth 24/7. The best way is to let them find out on their own what a cheatin' a**hole she is. Do your best not to obsess, the more you obsess the worse it gets unfortunately. Beat it out of your brain, spend the obsession changing the broken record in your head. Get busy, do things to occupy your mind. It will be a half hearted diversion but after awhile it will actually kick in and work for you.
Linda
2006-09-16 11:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You bastard. Man are more valuable than women. How can you be so depressed of such a woman. The value of women fall as they grow old. The value of man rise as they grow wisdom. Think that she doesn't exist or you have never met her ever. If she doesn't exist, how can you crazy for her. It's just a mind's desire.
Want more simple? find a better one.
2006-09-16 11:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by AAA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time and you will think about her less and less and it will hurt you less and less with time. We all want our pain to go away instantly but it doesnt happen that way, unfortunately. Time will heal you. Keep yourself busy with friends, things you like to do, etc to try to take your mind off her. Good luck. You will feel better in time....
2006-09-16 11:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding things you would like to do. A new job, hang out with some of your old friends, and meeting someone new
2006-09-16 11:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although i dont know exactly what to say to you about fixing this in your heart, i want to tell you that you are not alone in hurting right now. i just lost the love of my life...and my heart is really really broken also. be gentle with yourself and do things that make you happy....but allow yourself the time to heal, too. i am sorry you are hurting.
2006-09-16 11:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by echolily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "only" way to get her off your mind is to find someone else.
2006-09-16 11:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone hurts you, it takes time to heal. You'll be ok someday and you will find someone much better than your ex. Good luck to you!
2006-09-16 11:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋