So there's this boi. I love him with all my heart. I have been in love with him for about a year and were really good friends. We have never been bf and gf, but he says he really likes me and I really like him. He has asked me out a bunch of times but I keep saying no..I have 3 reasons why. #1 he is my bestfriends x-bf, #2 he is going out with anoth one of my bestfriends and #3 I like being friends with him and I think that if I go out with him something will go wrong and ruin our relationship all together and I REALLY dont want that to happen. I love being really good friends with him, i dont want to go out with him..but the problem is..is that I can't stamd to see him with another gurl besides me. Im very confused on what to do..I LOVE HIM!
2006-09-16 04:37:04 · 11 answers · asked by saweet_chick_lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, here's the deal. Time and only time is going to tell whether or not your two end up together that way. But, right now, based on what you're describing, it doesn't look good. What's established is your mutual interest for one another, that's important. But if you have your reservations, those three reasons you listed (those are good, you sound like a noble friend), then there's not much you can do.
If it happens it happens, but if I were you, as hard as it is to say this--keep your options open. You live once, try to experience different romantic interests and pursuits and who knows---maybe down the line things will go your way. But don't focus totally on that, get out there and meet someone else. Another guy will likely make you learn or feel things you never known about yourself prior. As corny as that may come across, I think limiting yourself to be subject to the affections of one person will drive you crazy.
I had my moments with the infatuation and from my experience they didn't bode well. Good luck to you and hope if things do work out with you and him that it doesn't ever flatten your friendship.
2006-09-16 04:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by axelf57 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your saying, whether you realize it or not, that you love this guy. I say take a chance and go out with him; unless he is the type of person who cannot be friends after a relationship, and/or your friends will hate you for it. Take it from someone who has been there and done that; friends don't necessarily last forever either, no longer than relationships with the opposite sex; so you have to weigh the benefts and risks by your own ideals, unless you want to explain more here. But I say go for it as long as he will be faithful and you feel you will be happy.
2006-09-16 04:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by catgoturtongue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, you are confused, and I can see why. This guy has already gone out with two of your best friends. He's making the rounds. I am sure he finds this as a nice little conquest game. Keep him as a friend and everytime you start thinking of him as more than just a friend, occupy yourself with something else. Start going out with other friends. Date other guys. Stay away from him, believe me. If you go out with this guy you are going to get hurt. What does your friend that went out with him already think about him now? How does she feel about having another friend going out with him now? And how do you think she will feel if you go out with him too? Do you see what's happening here. This guy is having fun. You girls are going to end up not being friends anymore because of this guy and then he will have moved on to another friend and you'll be left out in the dust.
Think with your brain and not with your heart on this one.
2006-09-16 04:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you may start by asking how he feels. And ask your bestfriend if you have permission to go and try to get together with this guy. Just talk to them and see how they feel on the whole situation. Maybe you do want to date him you are just affraid of risking your friendship. In that case you have to choose. Are you willing to risk a friendship for a boyfriend or would you rather just keep it safe and watch all this horror.
2006-09-16 04:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by 5454 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW girlfriend.. you do sound confused... since you turn him down when he asks you out and he is dating well i would think you would be happy just to be his friend.. he doesn't sound to faithful to anyone and you would not be happy in that kind of situation.. girlfriends are forever and a man comes and goes .. remember that .. could be you just don't like to share his time not that you really love him in any more than a friendship way.. .let him go enjoy your life....
2006-09-16 04:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like being really good friends with him, but you odn't want to go out with him, try just going to a simple event that you could go with. A movie, or a basketbal game. Nothing physical has to happen but you can enjoy just being together. I also think if you love him, you actually do want to go out with him, but you don't want to hurt your friends. I think if you explain to your friends that you love this guy, if they are good friends they will be ok with it.
2006-09-16 04:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Zasm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Klaatu barada nikto
2006-09-16 04:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to go out with him you dont love him.
if ur best friend approves go out with him
he has a girl friend, so technically you cant go out with him right now
if ur relationship ruins ur friendship. it wasnt mean to be.
2006-09-16 04:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is you should remain friends with him. I wouldn't recomend going out with him. If he would be willing to cheat on the girl he's with to be with you, who's to say he wouldn't do it to you.
2006-09-16 04:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by teddybear5686 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you better go out with him, or you will always wonder the "what if " question.
2006-09-16 04:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋