I have been through a divorce recently and am really feeling unsure of myself, especially sexually. I would really appreciate some honesty about this.
My wife had been seeing other men for about a year and I was feeling pretty inadequate about my 'skills.' I don't know if it was out of wanting to be even more upset, but I went on some sites that were really for men and women to 'hook up,' and saw a lot of pics of guys that seemed reeeeealy well-endowed.
My penis is 6" long, which I know is average and is 6" in girth, which I always thought was on the fat side.
I now don't feel like anything special and am wondering if any woman will ever be 'impressed' by my equipment again.
What I want to know is: am I decently 'built?' do you think that guys are enhancing the pics they post of these boards?
am really feeling bad, and just need some honesty from folks.
2006-09-16 04:36:59 · 29 answers · asked by james p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From everything I've heard, it's not the size of the wand that matters. It's the magic in it.
Don't worry about size. Self-confidence and lovingness matter a lot more than size ever will. Heck, you know you're at least average, so why should you be any worse off than 50% of the guys on this planet?
2006-09-16 04:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see absolutely nothing wrong with the size of your penis. From my personal experience, I'm more concerned with girth as opposed to length (I'm not saying you have a short one, because you don't). It could be 10" long but if it's as big around as a pencil, it's not going to do anyone any good.
I know how it feels to have someone you love cheat on you. It makes you question everything about yourself, and I know at the time it's hard to see it, but you just have to remember that there is nothing wrong with you.
I've looked through some of those "hook up" websites too, just to see what's out there. I would say the majority of those pictures are fake. I don't know that many women with six-pack abs and perky boobs, and I don't know any guys who are built like Long Dong Silver. If those people really looked like that, I doubt they would need to resort to the internet to find someone to hook up with.
Trust me, you will find someone who thinks you're special both as a person, and as a sexual partner. Don't let what your ex-wife did to you spoil you for someone else.
Good luck!
2006-09-16 04:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
no matter how big ur penis is when your wife is cheating on u the one who is evil is she, not you. even if she wasnt satisfied with u in bed she could be honest, break up and only then get some other men.
you shouldnt lose so much self-confidence, just because you met a wrong person on your way. if she cheated you it would have happened anyway.. regardless of your dick size.
coming back to sex problems, i can really honestly tell you that size usually matters. however it doesnt mean that you cannot satisfy a woman to the highest extend with a short one... Man be creative, you have so many extra toold on ur body for help (if needed at all). just be open with ur partner and ask her what she wants and how she wants it...
and dont think the world is full of long-dicked guys.. you are not worse than million of men. BUT i greatly dount that women like such self-unconfident men. Keep your head up, the world is opened for you!
2006-09-16 04:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Magnetic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James...your penis size is fine. In fact, it sounds about like my husbands....We have been married 10 years and have great sex...I love his penis. The fact that your wife was sneaking around with other men has a huge deal to with you feeling inadequate...When in reality, you shouldn't be feeling this way at all. Women don't cheat just to get a bigger penis...it's lots of other reasons but I know men immediately start wondering if their manhood was the issue. You need to focus on your personality instead....go out there and meet women, mingle, flirt....show them who you are. I'm sure when you meet the woman you decide to get intimate with and you show her attention...you take care of her needs as well as your own, she will be no doubt satisfied with what you have. If all of us women were out to get the biggest, best penis we'd be searching forever as there are few penises that are truly overly-large...most of you are about the same with a few slight differences. Enjoy what you have, you can't change it and use it to the best of your ability. Good luck !!
2006-09-16 04:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like "thick" average to me. I don't think the guys with short ***** would post them on the web. The totalilty of human sexuality is not based on penis size. From a practical side learn how to perform cunnilingus well (I suspect that there are a lot of women that would happily volunteer to teach you), let your woman have her orgasm first and she will not care how big your member is.
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2006-09-16 04:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real good woman is one that will like you for who you are on the inside and not how built or well-endowed you are on the outside. I understand how you must feel about your looks. Hell, I am 6 foot 6 inches and only weight in at 160 pounds. But I am married and I know she likes what she see's in me inside and out. So, don't give up hope.
2006-09-16 04:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Novotny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Satisfying a woman isn't about penis size(yes some women do prefer big ones but that could have something to do with their 'equipment'lol), it's about understanding her and knowing what she wants and will enjoy. If you make a womans mind happy you will make her body happy. By the way you probably wont fid true love on the sites with naked pictures haha.
2006-09-16 05:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by hightechredneck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had a 20" member, and the woman hates you it dont matter.
if it bothers you a lot i seen a condom on the net that had an extension buil into it for a few extra inches.
honestly, i dont think you will be in a serious relationship and have it end because of your size.
best way to please i found is to work her to climax before entry,
then its extra sensitive, before you get started.
but it may help you to read up on techniques for your mindset.
it ends up what you both like though.
last thought:
would you be more impressed by a man with a 10 lb sledge who dont know or care what to do with it? or a three sledge and works for you?
2006-09-16 04:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal, be glad of that. There's nothing worse than a big man who thinks all he has to do is be big and has no technique. It's what you do with it that counts. It's normal to feel bad about a marriage breaking up no matter what the circumstance. Don't worry about your size. Time will let you heal and move on.
2006-09-16 04:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a womans point of view the size does not matter (to me at least) its all about the way you work it, and yes i think the pics are made to look bigger, arent most photos retouched? Hang in there you find someone who will love youre mind body and soul good luck
2006-09-16 04:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋