When and how should I say it? I know that she will be disappointed, because I was brought up to be a catholic, but I don't want her to go to sleep every night praying for god to save my 'soul', etc. How did you deal with this?
2006-09-16 04:10:22 · 39 answers · asked by Agne 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't know what the best course of action would be for you because i don't know what kind of person your mom is. I can give just a bit of general advice about it though.
I would let her know you have studied it a lot, which i hope you have, and your mind just cannot accept that it is true. Answer her questions sincerely and just have a dialog with her to let her know you aren't just becoming an atheist to rebel or because you haven't thought about it. If she respects your intellect then she shouldn't give you a hard time about it.
Here is a site that you can go to get advice from teens who are likely dealing with this issue themselves.
http://www.freethinkingteens.com
2006-09-16 04:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by AiW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start by telling her that you're going out with a boy of different colour/race/religion from your family. Go on to discuss the fact that you couldn't get married until a little infection you both had was cleared up, he came back from prison and what should you name the baby. After she's got over the shock, admit that it's not the case at all but it was easier than saying that you're an atheist. In all the relief, she'll probably be delighted :-)
Seriously, just tell her. What can she say, after all. If she doesn't like it, you'll have to make it clear that you're no longer superstitious.
2006-09-17 07:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to assume that you are a '"teenager", still living at home. So listen-up! Don't tell you mother your an "atheist" - you probably don't understand ALL of the ramifications... (do you think we evolved from Apes?).. so why don't you just tell your mom that you want to "explore" other religions. Just like the computer your working from - your brain is constantly "downloading" .. wait a few more years and ask yourself that question again. Don't "label" yourself so young in your life, you'll find out,if you haven't already, that people will do that for you....One thing a young woman should practise, is "mystery" - the more private you are about yourself, the more mysterious you become and the more attractive to look to the opposite sex, even your girlfriends! Always keep people guessing..To label yourself as an "atheist", will surely loss you friends, and more then likely close the door to new ones.
2006-09-16 04:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need to tell her? I mean, I'm all for honesty, but religion and personal beliefs are extremely personal, and quite frankly, how often will the subject come up? She will pray for your soul every night anyway because of her beliefs (and the fact that you're her child) so why not just leave her in peace and be satisfied in the knowledge that you are comfortable with your beliefs and she in hers? The only advantage I can see to telling her would be to start a lifetime long argument that noone will ever win.
2006-09-16 04:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless she brings the subject up you don't have to tell her anything. If it ever arises, just tell her you don't have the same beliefs as her and leave it at that. She should respect that you have different beliefs and if she is disappointed, then, sorry, but that is her problem, not yours. She will pray for you whether you tell her or not because of her beliefs and because you are her daughter.
2006-09-16 04:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't hurt most people to believe a fallacy. There is really no reason I can think of to tell her. I never go to church or do anything religious with my family, but I never felt the need to come out and tell them.
I see there are a few people actually trying to give advise and they say the same thing. Those trying to proselytise are total shitstains.
2006-09-16 04:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you have been convinced by undeniable proof.
Below is my logical proof of y god doesn't exist, which managed to render my parents speechless with nothing to counter my argument.
1. God exists (premise)
2. God is omnipotent (premise)
3. God is benevolent (premise)
4. Benevolent beings are opposed to all evil. (premise)
5. Benevolent beings will act immediately with no delay. (premise)
6. God is opposed to all evil. (conclusion from 3 and 4)
7. God can eliminate evil completely and immediately. (conclusion from 2)
1. Whatever end result of suffering, God can bring about by ways which do not include suffering. (conclusion from 2)
2. God has no reason not to eliminate evil (conclusion from 7.1)
3. God has no reason not to act immediately (Conclusion from 5)
8. God will eliminate evil completely and immediately. (conclusion from 6, 7.2 and 7.3)
9. Evil exists, has existed, and probably will always exist. (premise)
10. Items 8 and 9 are contradictory; therefore, one or more of the premises is false: either God does not exist, or he is not both omnipotent and benevolent or there is a reason why He does not act immediately.
2006-09-16 04:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by =_= 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's tough and depends how much you care about your mother's feelings. Besides what's wrong with having someone pray for you? I'm an atheist, but good thoughts are good thoughts.
2006-09-16 04:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sylvia 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is your beleif, nd she has here. Does nonharm for her to pray for you, because that is how she feels, and is her faith.
She does not need to know your feelings, just don;t go to church etc, and keep quiet.
We should value all our beliefs, and not take standpoint of only ours counts or is best. (except for of course people who have very vile beleifs like racism, misogyny etc of course)!
Whatever gets u through, that's what counts, and it is not a very good reason to potentially damage the relationship with your mother, and family.
Ignorance is blis, and best left as it is, thing is she cares for you babes, that's why she prays for you, an expression of love and wish to protect you,
2006-09-16 04:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First grow up and move out on your own, while at home respect the rules of your parents. When out on your own then listen to that little voice inside of you and live life with as much happiness as you can.
If god tells you to be an atheist in that little voice that makes you feel the way you do, it's for a reason.
2006-09-16 04:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by dam 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋