My brother gave them temporary custody of his son when he was in trouble and they wouldn't give him back. There was a nasty nasty court battle that lasted two years. My parents won and my brother lost all rights. My brother won't swallow his pride and call and make arraingements to visit his son who just turned 11. In the meantime, my brother and his new girlfriend just had a baby girl. This is my brothers 2nd kid. I hadn't told my parents about the pregnancy because my parents won't allow me to discuss or say my brother's name in front of my nephew. If they don't want my nephew to know the little everyday things that go on in my brother's life, I have been reluctant to tell the big news. Who's being the most rediculous? I know it's a sad situation and I want to be part of the solution and not the problem. My brother has not talked to his son or our parents in a year and a half. He's getting married to his girlfriend in march and has legally changed his last name.
2006-09-16 04:09:32 · 8 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know what, it really sounds like your brother needed a fresh start away from people who was supposed to be his family to get things going OK. So I think, from the sounds of it, your family perpetuated an idea of him in their head and built on it... it is called labeling... it causes people to begin to think of themselves in the manner that they aren't because people keep telling them they are that way...and it sounds like you guys need to leave him the h*ck alone!!!!! Mind your own business. He obviously didn't want to be found, or to carry the family name because he didn't respect it. Quit harassing him. Obviously the family needs to take up a hobby and quit finding their entertainment in gossiping.
2006-09-16 04:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your description of your parents reaction is exactly the reason he doesn't try to contact his own child. He lost rights to his son what else can he do. Your parents decided on that. He has moved on with his life and obviously is happy. Your parents forfeit their right to call themselves parents to him and definitely grandparents. After what they did with his first child I don't blame him for not wanting them to be a part of the new addition. He gave them temp custody because he need their help and trusted them to do so. In the end they used it as an opportunity to steal his child. Stay out of it. If he wants them to know then it is his perrogative. If you tell them then you have your own agenda and for some reason need to interfere. Either support him or stay out of his life.
2006-09-16 04:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should NEVER speak bad about the father to the son. They should encourage them to have a relationship. Your brother should not take his anger of his parents out on his son. What a mess. Now there's a new baby involved?!? Leave it up to your brother to tell them since it's his business. The grandparents don't want to hear about it anyway.
2006-09-16 04:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by SexxyPrincess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the parents don't want anything to do w/your brother why would they want anything to do w/the baby? Sounds to me like your parents are being selfish. Sorry that you got caught in the middle, hope everything works out.
2006-09-16 04:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 01:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind your business and let things work out for themselves.
2006-09-16 04:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i guess if you feel the need to tell them you should
2006-09-16 04:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yup
2006-09-16 04:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Tiger Long 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋