How do you stop loving someone when they tell you that they don't have feelings for you like that anymore? Just because they changed and don't love you anymore does not make you stop loving them. I am in love with someone I hate. What do I do? I have tried to move on, I had a rebound. I just can't get the person out of my head. Does anybody have a cure for this depression and anger? We were togther for 3.5 years, and within a week the person was in another person's arms....... I hate life.
2006-09-16 04:01:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you kinda feel betrayed, confused, and heartbroken?
Get your mind off him. He wasn't good enough for you. Any guy who gets over a 3.5 year relationship in under a week is a jerk. (Unless he's miserable about the breakup too, and trying to get over his feelings...which doesn't sound like the case here...). You can find a better guy. A guy who won't just get over what you thought was a meaningful relationship in a minute. Don't worry about him. :-)
2006-09-16 04:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by kachelsachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love feelings for this person will eventually fade out over time on its on... soon as you let go..... and move onto other things~!
Even after the love feelings fade, most people still maintain a little bit of fondness for that person, and that is understandable, and its ok. Just grow and mature beyond the point of obsessing the loss!
The important focus now should be that you grow towards other events in your life, so that the dissapointment of your loss does not keep you frozen at a standstill!
Develope other interest and other friendships. Direct your thinking away from the loss when the deppresing thoughts arise! Immediately think on other things to replace the depressing thoughts. Admit that the relationship is OVER.....and MOVE ON!
You will not be able to move forward if you choose to keep thinking about the loss and the disappointment!
2006-09-16 11:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Vickie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur ex is in another person's arms within one week. It means that he's already not in love with u anymore long before he broke up with u. The only cure for this is time. It sounds like a cliche, but it works. One day u'll look back and see how silly u were now by being depressed over someone who doesn't know how to cherish u for who u are. He's the one who's supposed to be sad for losing such a great person like u. Do cheer up! Hope everything will turn out fine for u. Good luck!!!
:-)
2006-09-16 11:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you suddenly lost an arm, of a foot, went blind, or some other terrible problem, you would not get over that in a week, or month.
First realize that This kind of loss is similar.
That you are hurting, shows how much you loved.
I don't think its possible to forget someone.
I heard a qoute just the other day
"forgetting someone you loved is like remembering someone you never knew"
THere is hope though,
It will fade over time, it will not be as painfull forever.
I can't say when or how long. but try to remember some hurt you had before, something like a broken bone, or a bad fall or something. You never are sure when it was healed, and sometimes it sill hurts, but you don't think about it all the time.
Don't try to replace him. He is not going to be replaced,
if you lost your hand, you cant get a new one, but you can learn to do the same things in another way,
you may down the line learn to love someone else, but for their own qualities, not because you need someone to feel the gap.
I know it hurts, And I am very sorry for you. PLease hang in there.
When I hurt the most, I try to help others who hurt, taking away their pain takes mine with it.
2006-09-16 11:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some closure. You should ask if he'll indulge you in that and let you just sort **** out in some lengthy conversation about your relationship and make sure he'll be honest with you... have him let you know exactly why you two are not together anymore and why it is over and then maybe you can finally wrap your brain around it and get past it all and move on. If not, if he is not willing to do that for you, let him know that it will probably make his life more difficult if you don't' just hash things out now, and then if he still refuses, then you'll have to work on this by yourself. Good luck.
2006-09-16 11:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the wrong person for you and when you stay with the bad ones noone else can come into your life. You are wasting your time with this one so leave be thankful you got out while you could and move on and find the right one. Love is so hard. It hurts all the time. and you will be hurt again but she is not the only female on earth. Give yourself some time and it will get better.
2006-09-16 11:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I hate life too, but the alternative sucks.
They say love and hate are the 2 closest emotions. So it really isn't rare to find them together in ones head concerning the same person..The biggest problem here is really your ego. It's causing you to obsess primarily because of your loss of control.
Don't go expecting another relationship to help you. You need to stand in front of a mirror and confront yourself. Understand it has nothing to do with the other person, it's all you.
2006-09-16 11:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by MALIBU93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, i am sorta in this situation, but not like this, see the person im in love with, well i neva gotta chance with him, he says he loves me, but i guess it's not enough to be in a relationship wit me, and im torn up inside, cuz it's like all i want is to be with this person, but i guess he doesnt feel the same, at one point he did, cuz we did go out, twice but only for like one week, and then he jus ends it!!!!!!! i cant even say i hate him cuz i dont i love him wit all dat i am, i wish i had a cure for this pain you're goin' through, cuz if i did, i could be cured but sadly i dont. With love i dont even know if there's a cure! i guess just maybe within time you'll heal, all i can say is that im real sorry for your pain if there's anything more u wanna discuss with me, if u want a friend to talk with im here, email me at eshavonnetucker@yahoo.com anytime. God bless.
2006-09-16 11:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a good healer. Keep yourself busy and interact with others to keep your mind more on what you are doing now so that you focus less on the past. Live more in the now, your past will fade.
Try not to use harmful things like drugs or alcohol to heal your heart, these things only mask pain not cure it.
2006-09-16 11:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to take it easy and find someone else. Tell that person good bye where you express feelings and just talk. Tell them you wan to be friends.
2006-09-16 11:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Pre lives on 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋