He is always talking down to her, and never giving her praise. This has gone on now for while, and my daughter has gotten to a point that she has lost respect for him. She is 12 and they are always locking horns, with me in the middle...Any advice?
2006-09-16 03:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by DeniseM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Leave HIM! I had a step-mother do this to me and my dad was too weak to stand up for me, even when she said horrible things to me and about my mother. I will never forget it, and even though years later, she has apologised, I cannot forget or forgive totally. It has always been something that made me very upset and it always will.
2006-09-16 03:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by muslimah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a stepfather. I raised my so-called step child as my own since the age of 18 months. It was hard at first, and my wife would try to interfear. My mother-law told her to let me be a father. He became a fine youngman and until he got with the wrong croud. He is on drugs, a stupid gang member and out on his own. Yes him and I have locked horns from time to time. But never have I be-littled him. Try talking to your daughter alone and ask her mom & daughter personal questions. I have an idea that your little girl is in a stage of physical development. Your husband might resent her becoming a woman and not his. Talk to your daughter without puting words in her mouth. Above all, remember she is your blood. Hope I help out a little.
2006-09-16 04:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand your ground for your daughter. She needs to know that you are her mother and you care that he is doing this to her. You should have put a stop to this long ago. My husband is step father to both of my children. He never had children of his own with his first wife. He fell in love with my daughter but he gives my son a harder time. He does not talk down to him but sometimes when he says things to him i do not like i correct him right then and there. Tell your husband that you have had enough and you want him to stop or you are leaving him. This is your daughter and you do not want her to grow up like this.
2006-09-16 03:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot love your daughter then he does not love you enough. Cause if he did he would have accepted her as his own. If you stay with him it will just make the child to grow up as a rebellious child, maybe turn into drugs, sex, alcohol and so on. She's crying out to you to help her and leave him. He's not worth it. She's just a child, why should he put a 12 year old down. Loser.
2006-09-16 04:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter comes first,she didn't have a choice of what family to be in,if the stepfather can't respect your daughter,how can she respect him.you need to talk to him and give him a choice,either he wants to be a family,with everyone or not,make sure you tell your daughter you are always there for her.
2006-09-16 03:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would sit down and talk to him. I don't think this is something that is just because he is her stepfather but just because of who he is. If he cares about her he will change the way he treats her. He may not even realize he is doing it.
2006-09-16 03:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by tod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the hubby to back the f*ck off. He's got no business talking down to the girl. Tell him if has nothing positive to say that he should shut the f*ck up!
Tell your daughter not to do anything to bring on his nasty words. She can talk civilly to him or not at all.
They both want to lead, but can't figure out how to do it and they stick you in the middle of it, therefore, you lead them.
Sit them down and tell them they have to talk civilly to each other or they shouldn't speak at all.
Especially jump the hubby's crap, but not in front ot the kid, he's an adult and should be acting like one. (Sorry, it ticks me off, some times, that adults can't act like adults.)
2006-09-16 04:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to back off. Take up for your daughter. It sounds like he doesn't respect her. tell him he needs to start treating her like she is an important part of his life!
2006-09-16 03:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 1st priority would be my child.. never ever would i let any man, not even God Himself, mistreat my child.. i don't think you should be asking strangers, you know in your heart of hearts what you have 2 do.. get your daughter a pet 2 help her through the damage thats been done.. she really needs you..
2006-09-16 03:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to the both of them, he needs to know how she feels and vice versa, and they both need to know how you feel.
2006-09-16 03:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by coconutsmh86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋