y dont guys prefer girls who are not thin? i mean if u like gilrs like them u cloud help them improve their habits + give them motivation + give them all the love they need rite? I mean being fat doesnt mean tht person wont and cant ever loose weight!!...
2006-09-16 03:17:33 · 26 answers · asked by outtanicks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunatley I think it's just a matter of attraction. Men are not attracted to women who are fat. If being fat doesn't mean that a person can't ever lose weight, then why aren't they? Why wait to find a guy that will help you improve your habits and give you motivation? Why not do that for yourself, you should want to be healthy for yourself, not for some guy.
2006-09-16 03:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by deepadot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about attraction. When we first meet someone, boy or girl, we know nothing about them. So we are all programmed to find certain things attractive. Some guys do like overweight girls.
More guys like girls who are not fat and the reason is guys are always, always attracted to a girls body and face in the beginning.
Once they get to know you that all changes but in the beginning that is what is important for guys.
Girls have their own version of this. You know there are certain types of guys that you find attractive and others you do not.
So what being overweight does is to distort your looks. You may be a very hot girl but when you are overweight it is not so obvious.
Are you familiar with the HBO show, Fat Actress? She is a very good looking woman but not on that show.
But once a guy gets to know you the looks are not all that important. Your personality can make all the difference.
Be open and friendly to everyone you meet and you will see a big difference in how your treated.
I do not know your circumstance. Sounds like you have been rejected more than once, or boys have made fun of you. That will change when you become a woman and you start dealing with men and not boys.
2006-09-16 10:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that there is any less attraction or more attraction based on the size.nowadays i see models skiny and almost skeleton like , i guess its because to give them more dress options to show off on the ramp.the eyes, the talking and the time of sacrifice matters more in cases of attraction.personally thin girls i would hate to go for a date out they would be over conscious in eating also eliminating the other aspects of pride and consciuosness that i am some super girl and the whole world is after me.loosing weight for a longer duration of life on earth is necessary i guess but again its better to be dead before you are too old to be of any use anywhere.there is also a big difference between fat in a sluggish manner and fat in a fit manner.seriously if you are looking for guys with this frame of mind you are missing out the real quality that is out there.real caring guys existed and will exist but may be with this easiness growing around in getting dates and beds they are going to be very less in number.almost all skiny girls get laid very often and this truth is out there with the men all over the world.its really your choice to be an animal with the animalistic instincts to follow or wait with your humanity to be answered at the correct time.so far as dating goes i guess guys without extra cash sometimes take skiny one's out thinking they will make a decent bill at the restaurant and they know the game so it will be less waiting and getting what you are looking for without spending much in the process.
2006-09-16 11:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by sourajit n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you say is right. But I have to say you sound like you are asking this question for YOU. The reason why people want thin people is because this world says that's what looks good and the world says that's what we should want. That leaves a whole lot of us out and alone - including myself. You don't want any one who can't see you for you and uses the world to tell them what they want. This is another no brainer but a hard one if you are already looking at someone who is looking at you through the world's eyes. You've got a choice to make - be patience and see if they will change in your favor but no, waiting you life for someone else to change - well we all want to change but few of us can or it takes an extradinary length of time. Or, and this is the choice I wish I had made many times in my ife, cut your loses and know that there is someone out there just for you who will accept you as you are.
In short and to close, love yourself and if others can't see you for sweetness and the very best thing that could happen to them, then settle for the friendship you hopefully already have - it's a good thing - but move on!
2006-09-16 10:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right. Love should not be based upon a girl's fatness or thinness. But, love does not starts suddenly and never for an unknown person. To start with, it is the physical attraction which plays a bigger role. Moreover, the choice of physical attraction depends upon the opposite sex.
So, do not worry, some body will certainly come for your rescue.
2006-09-16 10:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by ars32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this and think about it...
What you are suggesting is that women who carry more weight and, therefore, don't fit the media stereotype as 'attractive' could be a good project. That is not motivational, it's patronizing and insulting. Maybe if you have enough self esteem, your body type becomes irrelevant. Not everyone finds the same body type and weight attractive anyway because not everyone believes the hype of the media...
2006-09-16 10:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by CC...x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in the wrong place my dear. Come to Africa women with fuller figures are more appreciated here, definitely not the skinny ones. I'm not a lesbian but bigger women are more fun than the skinny ones. The skinny ones have to worry about their weight, how much they have eaten, if their butt looks too fat in this or that etc. Bigger women are just being themselves and they enjoy the food more than these ladies that watch their weight and I think the bigger ones also have more respect for their bodies, those that think or know they're sexy SOMETIMES they are easy. So don't let your weight (that's if you're big) put you down. You will find a guy who will like your weight sooner or later.
2006-09-16 10:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What give the guy the right to take over a girl's life, improving their habits etc. You should love the person for who they are and not try to change them.
2006-09-16 10:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that guys always think that far ahead. The question is, what kind of guy are you looking for? If you are looking for a guy who is smart, self confident, has self worth, who wants a girl with values, who is also self motivating and fun to be with and not insecure with herself, then my opinion is, you are headed in the right direction. If you are looking for a Jock, without any train of thought besides himself and football...that could be difficult.
You need to please yourself first. Do whatever it takes to be the person, you are and work on the things you want to do to improve your own self image and the rest will follow.
2006-09-16 10:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like someone because they are not thin, to thin, or black or white, or yellow, that is because of a failing on you.
I read a poem once where it was said that a man who falls in love with a breast , a thigh, or a butt, deserves that and no more.
I married my wife ( who was on chance heavy) because I loved the personality, THe abilities she had. I mean, if you marry a supermodel, and then they get into an accident, or gain weight, and you loved them for their looks, where does that leave you?
I guess its a matter of this:
Are you in love? or lust?
a relationship will not last built on lust.
2006-09-16 10:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋