my friends say she is just using me and playing games so i'll ask her to marry me, i need some opinions about if long distant relationships can work out.?
2006-09-16 03:15:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a woman in your own country.
It's less expensive. More likely to work out if you come from the same culture.
If your friends think she's "playing games" with you she probably is.
2006-09-16 03:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by LL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people think you can know someone better in person. Of course, you can have more fun together and experience things together, but there are no guarantees that a person you are talking to face to face won't tell you the same lies as they can on line.
Only you can be the judge of her intentions, trust your own judgment and look to your heart. Life could be so simple if we didn't spend so much time watching our backs and looked forward to the future more. Of course you should be aware of the pit falls in any relationship, but just because you met on line it doesn't mean it won't work out, if you take the time to take it slow where necessary...
2006-09-16 10:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by CC...x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether she is playing games but you have to be prepared for the fact that about 90% of people aren't who they say they are on the internet.
There is no way you should be asking her to marry you until you've spent a great deal of time with her in real life.
2006-09-16 10:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distant relationships do work..
my boyfriend lived 3000km from me for 1.5 year..
now i finally moved to his country and all is fine.
however there are many people who use internet to fool others.
and its not even a metter of "online" relationship, but its generally weird to marry someone you never hugged or kissed, someone whom you never met.
invite her to live with you firstly and then if all is ok, marry her and be happy.
dont listen to ur friends much in love questions, because it is just u and that woman... nobody else has been through the moments you both have. listen to your heart...
2006-09-16 10:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Magnetic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how long you have been chatting to her - is it weeks or months? If it has been months you probably know her quite well allready. Have you talked to her on the phone? I know a couple that met online (him Danish, her from USA), they got married after knowing each other for 7 months. They spoke on the phone a lot and got to know each other even better that way. Then she came to Denmark, and they fell in love and decided to marry.
2006-09-16 10:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by southernrightwhale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alrigth, i have a friend who's going through the same and i'llask you the same thing i asked her, do you know her when she's mad/angry/depressed? Have you seen her like that? Have you been with her when you are going through difficult times? Have you seen her in the morning, when she just woke up? Have you seen her at night? Does she brush her teeth? Dang, there are tons of things you don't know about her and you are thinking about the M word? C'mon, spend some quality time with her before, and then talk about marriage.
2006-09-16 10:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by MICHAEL G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, i agree you need to know her as a real person first. how do you know she's not a fake in the first place? for all you know she may be a underage girl or worse, a guy!! long distance relationships seldom work out as there's loads of issues involve. it'll be hard and lonely for both parties. but i believe that if it is meant to be, things will work out eventually. when there's a will, there'll be a way. all the best to you!
2006-09-16 10:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by dreamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself a few questions..
does she live in a country that has a bad economy?
does she work in her own country and can she support herself when she gets to your country?
does she have children?
Is she looking for love or a green card?
long distance relationships can work if you are both serious and I know it sounds bad but many woman are looking for a better way of life and will try to find a husband on line.
2006-09-16 10:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter corresponded with a Brit for over a year before they met. They're married now and child on the way. Seem to work for them
2006-09-16 10:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by rikv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now, THINK have u seen her? You need to make arrangements to meet and have a nice lil outting for a couple of days and see whats that like. If it go well, then do whats on ur heart. Don't rush! Take ur time to see if she playing games with u.
2006-09-16 10:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by cilstubbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋