ok here goes. my fiance and the father of my unborn childjust came back from marine bootcamp cause of medical reasons and well in his letters he was happy to be coming home to spend time with me but since hes been back hes really mean and not wanting to do anything with me he gets real angry at me for no reason its like hes not happy with me i feel like after the baby is born hes going to leave me with the baby and im too scared to ask him cause if i do he'll get upset. and call me names
2006-09-16 03:12:57 · 8 answers · asked by spongebrat_sexychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that something happened at boot camp that made him feel inferior or maybe just having to leave did it. He is taking it out on you. Give him space and reassure him that you and the baby need him and that he is important.,,,and ask him please do not yell or call names. You may have to be patient and do not react... just be passive ....but not a door mat. Something obviously happened . I am sorry.
2006-09-16 03:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. What are you scared about? That he'll hurt you or that he'll break up with you? If it is he will hurt you, then the relationship isn't the right one for you and you need to get out.
If you are scared he will break up with you, well that's no reason not to have the conversation. You need to know what is going on with him.
He came back from bootcamp for medical reasons. What were those medical reasons? Maybe he's upset about that. He obviously wanted to be in the marines. Is his chance now blown because of those reasons?
There seems to be a lot more going on here than you are telling us.
2006-09-16 10:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels like he let himself down and the people he cares about by not making it through bootcamp. You are his security and he naturally releases his frustrations on you. Tell him that you love him and that you feel like he doesn't want you around. Also tell him that you are proud of him for trying to join the marines and that it isn't his fault he couldn't complete bootcamp - it was medical issues. Then, be patient, and give him time to come around. It takes a lot out of a person emotionally to deal with the changes he has experienced. In time, he will come around.
2006-09-16 10:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a man:
I imagine its this way:
Here is the marines, a "real mans" operation,
But now I;m not tough enough to hack it.
IT kinda quesitons my manhood. ( silly isnt it)
I'm pissed of about it. Those other guys may be teasing me now.
( oh, what did you have a hangnail? gotta go home to mommy?)
I really wanted to be a marine, now, I am not sure what I may do.
I;m confused, and I don't know where to focus it.
at this point, it may be that he needs some focus, A hobby, maybe something "manly" or tough for his ego.
if there is nothing else obvious going on, I'd pad his ego a little, ( but not so much that is obvious like, wow, you are such a super man for opening that jar for me)
and two, he may be scared about what responsibilies come from raising a child. I was too when we were about to have our baby.
especially if the marines were money he was expecting to use for that.
2006-09-16 10:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mentally, he's still there. Maybe he feels like a let down because he HAD to come back.
Give him some time, but let him know how he is treating you.
2006-09-16 10:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a matter of how he treats you!
and! how you feel??????
if he treats you badly!
just think how he will treat the child???
no matter how a woman loves the man in her life!
he will not change!
a woman is willing to change for the sake of the relationship!
but!
men are not!
you can talk to him!
i doubt it will do any good!
if he does not treat you right!
think how he is going to treat the child?
put the needs of the child 1st.!
2006-09-16 11:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him RIGHT NOW and get the Hell Out. There's help out there for you and your baby. This situation can only get worse. Please take my advice and leave. You'll save yourself and your child years of misery. Good Luck Child.
2006-09-16 10:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on baby
2006-09-16 10:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋