the other day my b/f text me over 50 times, so i know he definatly like me because otherwise he wouldnt have bothered in the first place. However that night i told him i loved him... he just said 'erm ok' so i dont think he loves me back. we have been going out 6 months. I think that we have broken up. i still think though deep down that he does want to be with me, what changes in a few days? he just said he'd been thinking about things (meaning me and him). i want to say something that will make him believe me how serious i am. i dont want to let this one go. we have a great time when were together. i really do love him.
2006-09-16 03:01:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe he is not so sure of saying how he feels. Go out for a nice meal have a chat about how you both feel. After 6 months if he does'nt love you then he probably wont fall in Love with you as thats a long time. Maybe he is afraid of saying it. Maybe he is unsure. Tell him it's ok to have doubts as long as he is truthfull. Be patient but don't be a mug... goodluck with cupids arrow and remember maybe the wind has blew it off course it may just take a little longer then expected to hit him!
2006-09-16 03:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him then tell him you love him but understand if he is unsure of his feelings just now, 6 months isnt long and if you are willing to wait then he may fall in love back. He sounds confused so give him space and time. If you enjoy each others company and have fun together then whats the rush in telling him he loves you? I am sure he cares about you so be satisfied with this for now. However dont let him mess you around and treat you badly, you are entitled to know where you stand. If he doesnt want to be with you then theres not much you can do im afraid, you cant make someone be with you. I hope this works out for you x
2006-09-16 10:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men feel the love thing at a much slower pace then women do. I would lay off saying the "I Love yous" for a while, you may have freaked him out a little. Guys get wierd if they feel like they are being smothered with too much "feelings" from a girl. It sounds like he does like you but not as deeply as you like him. Give it sometime. You've been together for 6mos now, if things continue to go well I'd give it til 10 or 12mos and if he's not coughing up the "I love you" by then, then maybe you should move on. Good Luck
2006-09-16 10:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by deepadot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him u love him cos thats comin on 2 strong then u could possibly lose him. But do tell him u wanna be with him in a way thats more than friendship. U've got nothin 2 lose cos if he says no u can still remain friends an not feel 2 stupid cos he wont kno the real extent of ur feelins 4 him cos then u will only have told him that u want a relationship, an not that ur truly besotted with him!!
2006-09-16 10:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by 13Special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys back off a bit when u tell them u love them, even if they feel the same way, they rarely say it back. Guys are made out to seem as though they are emotionless and if they say 'i love you', ppl think they are lying. SO your man may just need a while to think about it, give it a few days and ask him to meet you for a chat; the worst that can happen is he ignores you completely, and if he does, then move on and up girl.
2006-09-16 12:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a teenager..as you did not give your age. Never move too quickly in a relationship regardless of ones age. Take time to get to know each other without rushing. Rushing causes mistakes. Better to make good choices than to try to fix mistakes! Why can't people just have close friendships first without putting pressure on another person to immediately commit? And..how can one commit to a relationship when they don't know that person really well. And, if you are young, you don't need to be making commitments in a relationship so young!
2006-09-16 10:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Vickie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a book .. . . .
Men are from mars women from venus, by one John Gray - Link to amazon below.
In this book he talks about man the caveman, it is an interesting piece as you realise that men are solitary and non-demonstrative in nature and that they are "tied by elastic" to the back of their cave, when they come to see you- make the most of it, when they want to be alone, leave them to it.
This goes the other way too of course, womens nead for interation is greater than men's and the man needs, over time to learn to adapt to this and give the time.
My wife and I are slowly learning the balance between my caveman mentality and her need for communication. It takes time but if I come in from work and sit at the computer staring hard, or sit on the sofa with my books, she leaves me alone. If I get in and she looks like "bloody murder" is immenant I havce to learn to put away my desires and communicate, even if I don't feel like it.
Trouble is someone has to start it and persevere - will it be you.
2006-09-16 10:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by historicslunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone tells you that the two of you is broken up, you have to except it. and move on with your life. the next time stay friends for a while, so you can get to know a person. You will find someone else to love.
2006-09-16 10:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He texts you and a bunch of times and you think that's love?
Now you have opened your heart to him and he's laughing at you.
He's immature and still a little boy. Remember, girls mature years before boys, you might have feelings all he has in an erection. stop with the "I love you stuff." He obviously does not love you. I know it hurts, but stay away from him until he grows a bit more mentally. He's laughing at you.
2006-09-16 10:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men's minds work completely different to ours. I would think that he was a bit spooked about what you said so it might be best to let him know that have strong feelings for him but that maybe you were a bit overwhelmed with them so may have jumped a bit. If you back off, it might be just what he needs to feel that you aren't moving faster than him.
Good luck!
2006-09-16 10:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋