How can we ask for monetary gift in our wedding?

Answer 1

You can't. There is no way you can ask for dough in a wedding invite w/o comming off as a boarish oaf. No way. It's rude and tacky on SO many levels.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you're it today...This question is asked over and over, and the answer is that no matter how many people do it and no matter how many people say it's fine...It's just not proper etiquette to ask for monetary gifts! Should someone ask you what you most want or need, it's perfectly acceptable to say 'money' but otherwise it's just rude. Again, I'm sorry, but I'd rather have a bad gift than bad manners.

Answer 3

Asking for a monetary gift is very rude, especially if used to assuage costs of the wedding. Not only are you stating you decline anything they might think you want or need, but you expect a cover charge for sharing in your celebrations. If you get gifts you do not need, returning them is permissible if you assure the giver that you find the gift amazingly useful.
It's time people stopped turning celebrations into opportunities to troll for cash. Why not have the bride and groom hold styrofoam cups in the receiving line?

Answer 4

Just include in your invitation that all gifts are welcomed and monetary gifts are preferred. I had seen this on my friend's invitation and did not get offended because I know that weddings are expensive and can be a financial setback. It also takes away the guessing game of what would be a perfect wedding gift.

Answer 5

You don't - that is extremely rude! Gifts aren't a "requirement" for a wedding, but most people bring something special to show their joy for the couple, and help them getting set up. Please don't ask for money in any way, in the invitation, or hint to people about it - because that is just tacky beyond belief. If you haven't enough money to throw the wedding, you had better scale down. If you don't have enough for a honeymoon, don't go on one now. Got the idea?

Answer 6

for my wedding, most of the gifts that we registered for were given at the bridal shower. the day of the wedding there were a few gifts on the table, but mostly there were envelopes with $$ inside. i think it is just known to give the bride and groom money on their wedding day. it's easier than going shopping again too.

Answer 7

it would be rude to ask, but i saw a clever way one couple handled it. they had a mailbox, painted white and decorated and with their name on it, on a table at the reception, with some envelopes beside it.
maybe someone else can tell you how to get word out, so people wont' buy gifts and then see that you want money, too.
tough one.
but generally, if you want money you have to spend money. if you have a sit down reception with a 5 course meal, a band, open bar, and dancing, spend $50,000 or so, then you can expect money.

Answer 8

Don't let anyone convince you that registering for towels, dishes, etc. is somehow more thoughtful than money. Your guests will appreciate having a simple and polite means for giving you the gift you really need. Register at www.rainfallofenvelopes.com and then ask your closest friends to inform others.

Answer 9

IN your invitations, you can NICELY say that due to the high cost of weddings nowadays... that you would prefer monetary gifts in place of physical gifts.

Answer 10

By not registering anywhere.
People automatically know to bring a gift, and that the best gift is $$. You do not even have to say it. It is assumed.
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals.