i'm living with a bf for yrs but he mentally cheated on me nothing more but it hurt, i now havnt had sex with him for 4 yrs , is this normal not to crave **** from somewhere else?
2006-09-16 02:32:04 · 24 answers · asked by cheryl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes when a woman gets hurt emotionally, she shuts down sexually. For many women, sex is an emotional thing, not just a physical one.
You obviously can't get over what "he did" to you. You have a few choices:
1. Continue to punish him, and torture yourself.
2. Get into couples counseling and work it out.
3. End the relationship and let yourself heal.
Personally, #1 doesn't make MY list, but you gotta do what feels best for you.
2006-09-16 02:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can tell you one thing, it is overreacting for you not to give him any sex for 4 years just for a 'mental' cheat. If he didn't really cheat on you then he sure as hell has by now. This is not a healthy relationship. There is no openness, no trust and no sex.
2006-09-16 10:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After not having sex with you for 4 years just because he thought about another women, he's still with you? Don't you think you punished the guy enough? And now you want to sleep with someone else?! Look at what you've been doing and sort out your relationship instead of looking to make things worse. Or if you don't want to be with him (which you should have decided long ago), then set the guy free.
2006-09-16 09:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is mental cheating? First I've heard of it... Sorry to sound harsh but if you haven't wanted to have sex with him for fours years i hope you don't think he has held out that long... If there's no spark between you anymore, walk away and find real happiness with somebody you can trust and make love with...
2006-09-16 09:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean mentally cheated on you, if you mean he's thought about other women so have most men. I think four years is a bit harsh. Why don't you separate if you don't want a relationship with him?
2006-09-16 09:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by predator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Punishing him for 4 years, I hate to say it but it sounds like you're punishing yourself.
You need to see somebody, you have a small time on this planet.
If you are punishing yourself here you probably do it to yourself everywhere, wake up.
Love yourself and do the right thing by yourself the rest will follow
2006-09-16 09:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't have sex for 2 year with my ex i didn't crave it till i walked away i now love sex with my new bf so i think you go talk to some one about this or finish this as its not fair on either person
2006-09-16 09:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by REBECCA B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater, regardless of whether the cheating was mental or physical. He's shown he doesn't respect the trust you gave him. Dump him and move on, find someone who'll love you and only you.
2006-09-16 09:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he hasn't done it with you in 4 years, he's done it somewhere else.
if he had to explain he mentally cheated on you, that sounds very dubious. Like trying to throw off a scent.
it's definitely not healthy to carry on this way. You should leave if you can't change the situation you're in.
2006-09-16 09:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How can u live without sex for so long? What r u doing with him? Leave him and find something real
2006-09-16 10:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋