I am in a long distance relationship. I came to work in a foreign country to earn more and save for my wedding. I plan to formally propose when I go back. I enjoy my work, and I also enjoy the culture and atmosphere here. I have a colleague that I talk to during work hours, and I think I would like to go out with her. (I know it's a flimsy excuse, but I would like to get to know her better.) I think she would agree, I catch her looking at me sometimes. I have told my girlfriend about this crush I have for this lady. Am I cheating?
2006-09-16 02:19:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm yea, cheating is anything that you wouldn't want your significant other to do. How would you feel if she were doing the same thing or if the shoe was on the other foot? Now I'm not saying don't be happy because you could very well end up loving this person more but don't string current girlfriend along while your having your cake and eating it too.
2006-09-16 02:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, no, you aren't cheating because you told your girlfriend about these feelings (call it infatuation, crush, etc.) for another girl. But still, beware and be aware of the consequences that you might be facing in every action that you do. For now, it may be a simple crush or admiration. Stress out to your girlfriend that you don't know what will happen while she is away. Don't make her assume that everything as plain and simple as an admiration would always stay the same. It may or may not complicate things. Anyway, it is in the present that you have the choices to choose and decisions to make. Just bear in mind that in every action, there is a consequence. Be honest enough. =) Good luck and God bless!
2006-09-16 02:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your girlfriend said after you told her about the crush... You've already stabbed her in the back perhaps she has the stamina to handle a little push or twist of the knife you did it with. If you follow through with this she will probably expect it now though. In fact she more than likely is waiting for it. After all how can she stop it so far away. It's easy to hurt people when you can't see them. Also, if you need to ask... You already know the answer.
2006-09-16 02:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be saving for a wedding and ready to propose on one hand and in the other you are wanting and lusting for someone else. Is this cheating..well flip the table. If your girlfriend told you she had some crush on a guy she worked with andyou found out she wanted to go out to get to know him better would you call it cheating? Would you be mad? Would you still be thinking of marrying her?
2006-09-16 02:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well physically you are not cheating but you are headed right down that road. and how did you think your girlfriend felt about you telling her you got a crush on another woman? how would you feel if she told you that knowing where this crush and you may end up ? you are not ready for marriage you want to explore a little more. well at least you are not married as yet so you can do as you like. just remember the shoe doesn't feel so good on the other foot. good luck
2006-09-16 02:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't do what you're doing with your co-worker in front of your girlfriend... then you shouldn't be doing it.
If you simply want to 'get to know' this co-worker... Go out with a group of friends / co-workers. Don't make it a date!!! You have the woman you plan to propose to back at home!! Respect your girlfriend!
2006-09-16 02:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if you are even thinking about going out with another woman, then yes, you are cheating cause you no longer see yourself with the person your supposed to love, but with other women. If you are thinking about going out on your girlfriend, then yes, you are cheating.
2006-09-16 02:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exainime your heart and consider the lady back home. CRUSH-smush, lead with your big head and not with your little head. We men can lie to ourselves and ask questions we already know the answers to. Sometimes to releave our guilt we ask ony to hear what we want to hear and deep inside we know the real answer.
2006-09-16 02:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did your girlfriend say? If you are going to just be platonic with this person, I would say, no. But if you have other ideas, you may as well stay there, and forget about getting married to the woman you "love".
2006-09-16 02:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Steve R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask then yes you are. If you are planning to propose and interested in another woman. Maybe you shouldn't propose. Here's your sign.
2006-09-16 02:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by lil bit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋