okay her goes. My girl of 9 years has intentionally witheld info from me. she told me the kids were not doing school this year but last night I found out that they were being tested for kindergarden. I say that was the same as lying. To be more specific our daughters are starting school we both agreed that we don't want them in school around here because its too rough. so they go to her moms NEW house. I don't know where her moms place is so I got mad because not knowing hurts.
(one day i might wanna peek in on the kids, or pick em up from school or something) her ma doesn't want me 2 know where she lives because I am not to fond of her.
remember every action has a reaction...........
kids school near us >>>>>>>> lot of bad unhealthy habits
kids school near mom >>>>> daddy's needs permission to C kids
break-up >>>>>>>>>>>>>> 4 misarable people & unanswered ?
So there is the story in a nut shell
question
WHAT DO I DO ?
Am I wrong for thinking that way ?
2006-09-16 02:07:00 · 7 answers · asked by mybiznotyours 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not wrong in being upset but here is what you need to do and why:
1) Make up with mom even if you don't like her for the sake of your girl, the kids, and your own happiness.
2) Explain to your girl that you only want what's best for her and the kids and that you were hurt that you weren't part of the decision. You understand what and why she did what she did but you really want to be her partner and want her to be your partner which means deciding things together.
3) Don't break up work it out. Your relationship will be stronger for doing it. People today don't put enough time into working through differences. In working through differences you really get to know the other person. Every time you successfully navigate a disagreement it becomes easier and easier.
Good luck and put the kids interests first, you'll be happy and everything will work out.
2006-09-16 02:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by white_yack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure. If they weren't going to start school what were you planning? Private school or home schooling? Yes, she should have told you but I don't think that the relationship should end over this. A relationship is ALL about compromise. And as dumb as it may sound, alot of kids go to schools that aren't so great but the reality of that is they learn alot about street smarts and I don't mean that they will do bad things but that they will see life as it really is and won't be sheltered. I think the two of you really need to sit down and talk and not yell and argue but really try to understand the others feelings and reasons for wanting or not wanting this. The kids will be the ones that suffer the most from the break up. Good Luck!
2006-09-16 09:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, those are the facts, and you are not wrong. However, is that how you both choose to bring your children up. Under lies and secrecy. Those are pretty bad habits too. And being taught by the parents. Also, if the lying and secrecy continues that is the type of person that they will choose as their life partners. Because it was good enough for you. You and your girlfriend are setting the ground work for some bad results in years to come.
2006-09-16 09:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to back off from wife.
later, when she can see you are stable man .. then she will happy let you see the kids.
you should help wife with money, it show her you have care for them.
2006-09-16 09:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and get a search out.thay are your kids to and if you dont know where thay are thay were kid napped.
2006-09-16 09:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to move out of bad neighborhood.
2006-09-16 09:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all
2006-09-16 09:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by EL Big Ed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋