I can't leave my b/f, I love him and can't stand without him. I lost my virginity for him because I love him. I have been with my bf for about 2 and a half years,he never hit me but he did touch me while quarrelling or while teasing me. He is one of those guys that wants things to be done the way he says or else I am grounded
For ex., if I don't want to make sex because I'm afraid to have unprotected sex during my ovulation, he won't make any sex for about a month or so rather than use a condom or else he will make sex after ovulation is over but he ejaculates inside as to punish me for not letting him before (that's what he told me) and such other things.
He doesn't like to let me go out with friends, in fact I never did go out with any friends except with him. I have spoken to him about taking the pill or making the ring but he definitely doesn't want me to take either
He promised me he won't do it again but he promised me this more than one but it was invain. What should I do?
2006-09-16 01:47:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Leave him. This isn't love that he's showing you...its control. You are in an unhealthy, controlling relationship that's going to lead into abuse very soon. Not only will you end up pregnant by this guy, but you will also suffer severe psychological and possible physical problems with him. Is this the way that you want to be treated? Don't you think that you deserve someone who is loving, caring, kind and understanding towards you? Does he think he is your parent or the police to 'punish' you and why do you let him do this to you when you know that you wouldn't want your best friend treated this way...so why let yourself be treated like this. Get out of this relationship if you want to save yourself.
2006-09-16 01:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this your dad or your boyfriend?
and is this how you want to live the rest of your life?
if not then i think you have done the right thing and let him go
now it is time for you to move on with your life and with him not being a part of it
believe me the jealous types are never satisfied. if he doesn't trust you then whatever you give up for him will never be enough
he sounds controlling with little regard to you, your health and feelings - whatever you thought you saw in him basically boils down to him using you like a possession rather than being part of a mutually loving and supportive relationship
i think he needs help (but not from you) if he keeps 'promising' things will change
a sorry isnt enough - a person has to live out their lives differently to be sure that they really HAVE changed. if he isnt prepared to do that then he will always treat you the same way
2006-09-16 02:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He won't let you see your friends? If he can't understand that you are a person and you need a life, and you need friends in your life then he is an insecure loser! Don't listen when he says he "wont do it again". Make him prove it to you by showing you.He won't let you go on the pill? Honey is it just me, or is it YOUR body. He cant decide that for you, neither can anyone else.Tell him what he needs to do if he wants to be with you. Losing your virginity to a guy is no reason to stay with him for the rest of your life. He needs to know how to treat you with respect!
2006-09-16 01:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by plaibebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away,
He sounds very self centered and it will only get worse as time goes by. If he loves you or even cares for you he would put your feelings first and treat you with love and respect. He has also proved he lies. Don't trust him. He has no right to discipline you or ground you. Stay away from, him he don't care about you he just cares about himself and wants you as an object not as a partner or friend because partners and friends have equal say and consider what helps and builds up each other. GET AWAY - LEAVE HIM AS FAST AS YOU CAN. NOW
2006-09-16 02:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who doesn't have such control issues! This is a form of abuse (even if he isn't hitting you). You deserve something better than this! This is not normal behavior. It sounds like you are young. Go out and have a good time with your friends. They will be around long after this loser is gone!
2006-09-16 02:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by muffin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 09:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to control you. This only gets worse. I don't think you really love him and he does not love you. If you take him back then the control only gets tighter and it will get bad. Leave him alone you will be ok. There are other men out there who will want you the way you are without turning you into what he wants you to be.
2006-09-16 02:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him alone, he has too many issues,and it is only going to get worst, by him braking of with you, he is doing you a favor, and if you are going to be having sex, then you are in charge of your body, so you are in charge of protecting yourself. There are many birth control methods on the market, make an appointment to go to the doctor. Please leave him alone, find you someone who will respect you.
2006-09-16 01:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need help with you lack of self respect. no man tells you what to do unless you allow him to treat you like a dog. Get out of this relationship before its too late he doesn't love you he is using you he controls you and you allow him to....
2006-09-16 03:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should be ecstatic that you've broken off with him. Start living your life now.
2006-09-16 02:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋