what reason could you have for continuning to spend time with this person?
2006-09-16 01:15:17 · 26 answers · asked by Sasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex.
2006-09-16 01:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That actually happened to me. Fortunately this guy is mature enough to accept that I do not have any feelings for him, but guess what he is still pursuing me from time to time which somehow gets irritating especially since I told him I have a boyfriend (which is true) and also I'm not interested so now I'm not sure whether I want him as a friend anymore. If he can come to terms with it then I don't see why you can't be friends. If you're both comfortable around each other then you can still be friends, I don't see why not. Otherwise you donn't need an excuse, the fact that you're friends is reason enough to spend time with them.
2006-09-16 01:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love them as a friend would be a good enough reason. But I'd ask if perhaps being around makes the situation hurtful for the person in love, and then either continue the friendship or not. If it is hurtful to be around you because they're in love and the feelings aren't returned, then it's best to leave them alone. If it doesn't make the situation worse and they are content to hang out and be friends, and not try anything more, the stay friends.
2006-09-16 01:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were always told that the best relationship is when he loves you more than you love him. Now, I realize that's very sexist and kind of mean as well. I had a relationship where he was in love with me and I merely liked him. He was good company and we had fun when we went out. For some reason, I could not feel love for this person. He knew this as well. We used to joke that when we were old and if we were still alone, we'd get married and spend our senior years together. What is the moral here? We COMMUNICATED. He knew I wasn't in love with him but still wanted to be with me. Cut to the present. We have since gone our separate ways. I don't know where he is but I am with the love of my life and our love is mutual.......and ultimately, that is the best.
2006-09-16 01:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess there is no reason to spend time w/ them, if that's the message ur trying to get across to them.I do however, don't think it's entirely impossible for two people to hang out together although one has deeper feelings for the other. It's all about respect. If this person can respect that there are boundaries in ur relationship, then I don't see what's the problem. Just be consistent about ur feelings; don't send mixed signals.
2006-09-16 01:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't love someone doesn't mean that person isn't a friend, goodhearted etc. As long as that person knows what's up as far as your feelings then the only reason I could see not to spend time with that person would be if the person in love couldn't deal with it.
2006-09-16 01:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always use this person to make yourself feel good. Self-esteem is important.
If this person stated as much("I Love You") and you don't feel the same, let them know. A little hurt is better than leading someone on.
Infatuation is probably the case here.
2006-09-16 01:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by medic_7083 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this person know, gently that you don't feel the same way about them, but that you would like to be friends with them anyway, if they think it's possible for them. It might become too painful for them to stay friends with you, so try to understand that.
2006-09-16 01:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you r really very sorry but that u didnt have such feelings like that but tell them u have always considered them as a very good friend.So just tell them I want to be with u as a good friend only & I wont take this seriously I just want to talk with u and share my opinions as usual as u r one of my good friends.
2006-09-16 01:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sadhana S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you started out as friends.. the friendship itself would be worth keeping. however you have to set the record straight first. tell that someone that there is a limit to the relationship and you can't cross that line. who knows? maybe you may learn to love that person someday, the way she/he loves you. risk nothing.. risk everything.
2006-09-16 01:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by x l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its pretty sad that you can't answer that question yourself...because if you have to ask a question like that then i really think of a reason to "spend time"...other than that i dont think there is a reason...do the person a favor and forget about him/her...so he/she can move on...poor guy/girl......
2006-09-16 01:19:32 · answer #11 · answered by narfanator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋