what can you do please help me
2006-09-16 00:50:18 · 19 answers · asked by kaitlyn n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would talk to my parents- you need all the help you can get!
2006-09-16 01:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am a 16 year old with a baby? I'd give it my best shot. I wouldn't put up the kid for adoption, that's for sure. I'd get my high school diploma and if I could afford it, go to college...making sure not to party and do things stupid but focus on a good career choice. If I didn't have the money to spare, I'd find out about scholarships, student loans etc because being educated makes a big difference and lets you have a lot of career choices. If I wasn't intent on studying after high school, I'd get a good part time job, try to live with my parents so that I'd have their help and save for the baby and just keep working hard at being a parent and a working mom. No adoption certainly because if I was old enough to make the decision to have sex...then I'm old enough to take the consequences of sex. Besides I'd know I'm not alone. The United States, at 48.8 births per 1,000 women aged 15–19 in 2000, has the highest teen birth rate in the developed world. Watch the movie; Riding in Cars with Boys is a 2001 film based on the autobiography of the same name by Beverly D'Onofrio, about a woman who overcame difficulties including being a teen mother to earning a master's degree from the span of 1961 to 1986.
2006-09-16 08:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should take a bit of extra time to explain yourself better. For people to be able to help you, they need to understand what you are asking.
Are you a 16 year old mother, asking what you do?
I’m assuming that is what you mean, rather than being 16 years old and having a baby.
Anyway, what you do is be a mother to a beautiful baby.
If you don’t know how to do that, perhaps you should be asking your mother to help you.
It isn’t any use me telling you that 16 years of age is too young to have a baby.
What’s done is done, and there isn’t any undoing it.
You get pregnant… you have a baby… you learn to be a mother.
I’m sorry, but unless you throw in some extra information to explain your situation, I really can’t think of all that much to suggest to you.
Have you finished your schooling?
Do you live at home with your parents?
Is the father of the baby willing to help you?
Are you getting support from your parents?
There are just so many things you haven’t told us, and if we are to be in a position to be able to help you, we need you to add extra information to what you have given us.
Sorry I can’t help you at this time !!!
2006-09-16 07:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's young, but the job can still be done. You can still have fun with your friends too but must keep in mind that your decisions will not only effect you now. You really should speak to a social worker. They want what's best for you and your baby. They can help you provide daycare while you still attend school---so PLEASE stay in school. You have to educate yourself before you can download info into your child. Hang in there. You will love being a mother even at age 16. I was 19 now 36. Love every minute of motherhood even now.
2006-09-16 10:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out how you had the one you have and never let that happen again until you are ready.
Then, do everything you can to be a wonder of a mother to the one you have.
If you cannot do those two things, let your child be adopted. Life is hard as hell. What you are about to do is going to make it very hard indeed.
Give both of you a chance...but decide first if you can or cannot do the two things above.
2006-09-16 07:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by itwisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years old???? ermmm if u are a singaporean u can only have baby in 18 years old but never mind ... are u going well with the boy who do that thing with u??if the guy is rich or is working and is kind to you , you may chose him to be ur husband. get marry before u have baby...if u don't like the guy u may make a abortion u noe what i mean ...
good luck to u
it ur choice of ur future
2006-09-16 08:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r 16 & u have a baby & u don't know what to do....
means u did some sin....
& now u r facing problem!!!!
IF u had folowed religion, u never had to face this situation.....
NOW u can do is just pray for forgivness & raise the baby yourself...
If you do what others do, I mean, give the baby to a childcare center or give it to orphanage,
your baby will grow up in to a more sinner person...
& the sins will be put on your shoulders as UR child is diong it.. & U did not stop him from doing this...
2006-09-16 07:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by just curious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, in general this is a terrible situation. If you (or your parents) can't take care of the child, put the child up for adoption. Adoption is so much better than abortion! If you abort the child, then your killing another human being. Did you know that a newborn baby has a heartbeat before you even know that you're pregnant. Life is amazing, so please, please, don't consider destroying this little life that you've created. Put the child up for adoption. God Bless!
2006-09-16 08:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have the baby then there are only two things to do. firstly you can let your family take care of the baby while you finish your studies and get a decent job. or you can give him/her up for adoption .abortion is out of the question. you brought the baby into this world and it is your responsiblity to take care of it. dont marry just for the baby, unless it is with the baby's father.
2006-09-16 08:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider my options and maybe give it up . if i could not give it a good life and there are parents that could i would think about it . i seen too many teenage girls keep their babies and they want a life and the baby gets left out . i see the grandparents the one mainly raising them. but 16 is so young good luck
2006-09-16 07:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you have a baby already, you try to support your kid, you go to high school, if you dropped out. hopefully you have family thats there for you. secondly, go to college, or join the military in the military they help you with everything, they pay for you to go to college, they help you with your child, they help pay bills, day-care, rent, health inc, food, and what ever else you may need.
getting married at your age may not be the right thing to do, but its your life, and your child. i know you wants what best.
2006-09-16 08:02:07 · answer #11 · answered by navyenlisted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋