I am an engg.4th year student n have got a job too.I love with a person who is 35 yr old ,i am 25 yr old.he loves me very much but he is not in favour that i do job.he says that for doing job we have to live separately and that he dont want.he has his own buisness and he says that if you want to do anything ...you can help me in my buisness.but i dont like to do that.At the same time my parents are not agree for our marriage so i have to revolt against them too and that is very difficult for me, i love them so much. One more problem is that he lives with a big family and i want to live with him alone.I am not against his family but i dont like to live with so many people.? i know that he loves me very much and not marrying with any other girl even after very much pressure from his family and his society.He is in mid thirties so he want to marry as soon as possible..but his conditions are that i wont do job and live with his whole combined family.Now suggest me what should i do...
2006-09-16 00:49:42 · 10 answers · asked by sugandh_bhu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You already have your answers. Everything he wants from you is not what you want for yourself. How happy do you think you're going to be living the life he wants you to, and not the life you want for yourself?
2006-09-16 00:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the list of cons in your very own question.
1. He is ten years older than you.
2. He is telling you, you cannot have your own job.
3.Parents don't want you to marry him. (They have a much longer life vision that you ) pay attention to their experience. Don't "revolt against your parents."
4 He expects you to LIVE WITH HIS FAMILY
NOT GOOD AT ALL.
5.HE IS UNDER PRESSURE TO MARRY, YOU ARE NOT.
This is not a good relationship. It has many to many flaws from the very beginning. Be friends DO NOT MARRY.
Good Luck in your decision. Make the right one and remember it will effect the rest of your life.
2006-09-16 08:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are in west and he is in east.
If he has his own job, so he can buy a new house for your marriage. so my advise to you don't deign of being in your own house, if you did, you will always be deigned in everything.
If he loves you so much as you say, so he has to love you as you are without orders .
Think a lot before you marry someone against your parents, because if you fight with him or his family you have nobody to go to. it sounds like you will marry against your parents and he doesn't want to separate of his family home? IT IS NOT FAIR, ISN'T IT?
2006-09-16 08:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sousy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you tell him that you love him. But you are marrying him not his family. And that since he wants to marry you then he needs to understand that this also entitles that he accept that you want to work
He may become your husband but you are your own person. I think if he doesn't listen then he doesnt truly love you and he isn't worth it.
It doesnt sound like you'd be happy any way in that sort of relationship. i suggest you listen to your famly if he doesn
t respect your wishes and break the engagement off
2006-09-16 07:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sister if you have to ask, then you don't need to marry him. He's to old for you anyway. You need to find somebody thats around your age and not 10 years older than you. If you marry him, he will probably think he can control you and you should not let that happen. Dump him before it's to late.
2006-09-16 08:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not walk, RUN....as fast as you can AWAY from this man!!! You are setting yourself up for misery if you marry him. There is a reason your family doesn't want you to marry this man. Listen to them (and your heart). Don't do it....
2006-09-16 08:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubt about marring and living with his large family DO NOT DO IT.
2006-09-16 07:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you need to focus on ur career. if he loves you he will accept you as you are. if he does not then forget him and you will get another one. dont worry. marry the one who loves you more than you love him then you will be happy.
2006-09-16 07:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no don't marry him. There are too many of you now and marring him will undoubetdly bring more.
2006-09-16 18:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubt about marring and living with his large family DO NOT DO IT.
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I Agree to this one. You shouldn't marry if you doubt about it.
2006-09-16 08:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by deshanto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋