How do you figure out if a guy is interested in you beyond a one time fling?
Do you have like a "trial period" to (1) get to know him (2) test if he's really into you?
2006-09-16 00:25:05 · 12 answers · asked by ßella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a guy is serious he will normally not get in to a fling.He will respect you and treat you with care and diligence. You can know it in a meeting or two. No trial period specifically. The test is simply to assess whether he is treating you like a piece of flesh or respects you for what you are!
2006-09-16 00:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I have no clue. Every relationship I have ends worse, so I must be doing something wrong. However on a whole, I only sleep with men I connect to mentally. If I can't have a conversation with him till 2 am in the morning on various topics and feel like only an hour has passed when its really been 6, then there is no chance of sex ever happening. I have never been one for looks alone.
Also, smell counts. I really have a weird thing about someones scent, and unless it is something I find intoxicating, its a no go too. I am not talking about someone with BO or sweats heavy or anything. People have a regular scent and I have to find it attractive to me in order to be sexual with someone.
So that's my take on picking someone...hmmm looking at it, no wonder I have few dates and stay single alot.
2006-09-16 04:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by â?¥ Lady Isolde â?¥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bella, that's the problem ; you don't look for a sex partner you look for a friend with who you share interests with and can have a fun time with. it's not just about the intimate sharing of bodies.find out what is in the head- by talking and the longer you have a open conversation the more knowledge you have of how this person relates to the world. don't just look to be satisfied sexually the mind is a large part of the process and the more you know the more fullfilling the partnership is
2006-09-16 00:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by wick3dwench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now first i will give you my point of view on your question. I am a boy so it is not geniune feminin answer. OK
To choose a sex partner remember one thing you must respect your slef for who you are and you must know that your love is as much as commited to you as you are to him.
but here there is a fine lining.
If you just want sex.
You can act really sleezy and sensual infront of him. Buit this makes you look desperate for sex and makes a look that you don't respect yourself. Sure you'll get 'sex' but trust me you don't want to live like that.
Trust me sex comes as a part of sex not the other way around. When you love the guy and if your love is genuine, trust me sex will become a part of life.
But be carefull don't let sex over rule your love. Sex in not the only thing in relationship.
But in the end it depends upon the type of men you are in love.
Some respect women for who they are and some are perverted just to have sex. You will know which is what
The sexually perverted will check other women when he is with you.Talk to you only about sex and give you hints that he just wants you in bed.
The other type is the one around. You know his arms are good for you. His love to you with a view of your mental image rather than sex. For the first type of men sex will happen from theri side spontanseouly.
If it the other type of person well it is going to take a little time. But trust me you never sure who takes the first step.
2006-09-16 00:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by nick360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for a sex partner or a partner to share your life with. You will at some stage find someone who is attractive to you and the other way around. At some stage in your relationship he will want to have sex. Do not give in to him. I can guarantee you that if he loves you and you refuse sex you will know that he loves you and is not only looking for sex.
2006-09-16 00:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is interested in you beyond a one time fling you will know by your gut feeling. If he respects you and is interested in what you like and dont like, if he tries to get to know you and spend time with you besides booty calls, if he introduces you to his family and friends. I'd say he's interested in you :)
2006-09-16 06:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by James C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trial period definately then there is the personality and chemistry thing as well
2006-09-16 00:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want 1
2006-09-16 00:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mystery Guest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fart in front of him. If he's totally grossed out and hence doesn't accept you for who you are, forget him. If he laughs it off and doesn't mind, he might be Mr Right.
2006-09-16 00:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by dave_taylor1900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the lolly pop test.
2006-09-16 00:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋