I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago because he moved to the US. Yesterday he sent an email to my best friend saying he doesnt love me anymore and he doesnt feel anything..and that he is going to ask this other girl to go to the school dance with him.
I love him so much, and I thought he loved me too...I dont kno if I wanted him to move on..or what :( Im so confused. We broke up because we HAD to, not because we wanted to.
Do I block him and never talk to him again, or do i act like Im fine with everything?
2006-09-16 00:08:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I emailed him everything right before I found out..I told him eveyrthing that was in my heart, everything I felt...
2006-09-16 04:25:01 · update #1
It's over.
That's why you broke up with him.
Why spend any more emotional energy on him?
2006-09-16 00:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God. I'm so sorry for you sweet girl. You seem sooo nice. That's terrible for you. It happened to me many years ago. It took me a long time to get over her. It's so horrible. I know exactly what you're going through. You need to fill that void with someone who is on the same page as you. For him to leave you tells me he wasn't on the same page as you. He's going to regret leaving a nice girl like you!!!!!! That bum!!! Go on a dating website and try to find a nice local guy. Try not to get burned again, or if you do get burned make sure you reserved something for yourself next time. You can't put all your sincerity into a person if you're not sure that person's gonna be hanging around. You probably thought he was really cute right? It sucks, but don't let it confuse you. If you need someone to talk to then send me a mail. I'm good with advice. I have 4 older sisters.
2006-09-16 00:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything in life... comes down to choices. You didn't HAVE to break up... there were so many other options. LIKE... if he was the center of your universe... you could FOLLOWED HIM, gone with him.
Did he ask your best friend to TELL YOU he's moving on?
It could be that like YOU he thinks he's GOT TO.
Sounds like this moving thing wasn't appropriately negotiated.
With all that said... You got to make up YOUR MIND. Is the SPITE of cutting HIM loose (yes spite)... worth not having him in your life in any capacity? Is it... for you... if he can't be your lover, you don't want him at all?
I personally believe that the same types of GAMES you're playing now... are what got you in trouble in the first place. YES I SAID GAMES. What ever happened to the truth! It sounds like you were DEVASTATED by the move and subsequent MOVING on. So why not QUIT THE GAMES and TELL HIM what's in your heart?
"Do I act like I'm fine with everything?" WTF? Are you fine with everything? Doesn't sound like it.
In your next relationship... try to be a LOT more honest.
2006-09-16 00:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont act as if you are fine let him know how much he has hurt you but tell him your get on with your life any way and what ever happend with you both was nice and it will be a memory for you but life goes on just dont hurt your self because of him he obviously didnt think a lot about your feelings to do this to you tell him how guttless it was to send an email to your friend and not you he needs to grow up
2006-09-16 00:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by private 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you were the one who broke up with him, the only reason I can see for him sending these messages to you is that you broke his heart and now he wants to hurt you too. Just resign yourself to the fact that it wasn't meant to be and take comfort in the fact that he did love you once and was hurting as much as you're hurting now. Then act like you're fine and move on.
2006-09-16 00:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mountaineer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be moving on after the break-up. You have to get over with it too. Don't have to act as if you're fine or block him. Live life just like before.
2006-09-16 01:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by gummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make a fool of yourself and humiliate yourself, keep in touch with this guy. When you decide to face the fact that this guy has moved to another country and is not interested in you but in someone else, that will be the first day of the rest of your life.
2006-09-16 00:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept what happened. God has a good reason for everything. Maybe he's not the right man for you. Move on. It is not the end of the world.
2006-09-16 00:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by lyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He couldn't wait for you forever, now could he? He had to move on. I'd do the grown-up thing and hide your tears, be brave and give him your blessing.
All the best. Love hurts.
2006-09-16 01:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act as if nothing has happened,still talk to him, he is a long way from you u could be friends,it will hurt but in time u will meet some1 new it wasn't going to work anyway why grab on to something that's not going to happen move on babe
2006-09-16 00:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be his friend and thats the best you can ask for, these things happen, and you can't expect much from a long distance relationship anyway.
2006-09-16 00:11:18 · answer #11 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋