my child was extremely unhappy in the school i had put him in, so i changed him to a new school he is my little boy again doesnt cry all the time is interested in sports again, i felt i didnt give him time to settle in his new school as he was only there for 2 weeks but on day one his teacher gave the kids sweets for being so good on there first day and because my child was playing with his school bag he got none this really upset him and us too, as we disagree with this type of punishment for any child, but from there the trouble started, he had two years of playschool before this and done really well never had trouble with him. im not saying my child is a saint he can be a bit hyper at times but he is a good kid. i just felt that if it is like this in the first weeks of school that it would keep going, i just want my kids to be the happiest they can be because i had a not great chilhood, they are not spoilt just loved. he is a lot happier now, what do u think?
2006-09-15 23:55:58 · 15 answers · asked by EMMA O 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you absolutely did the right thing. teachers should be fair and they shoud understand and realize when a child is not settling in. you won't be able to protect him forever - but while you can - DO IT...it won't hurt him. nothing wrong with a happy child. my hats off to you for doing what was right for your child! eventually he'll have to go to high school - you will need to see him struggle a little there and before that too. but kids - little kids need to like school or it ruins their view of it for life and you don't want that! good luck. you are a great parent!
2006-09-16 00:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by firenice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can definitely see why you moved your child.
I'm guessing that because of the playschool comment you are talking about a kindergarten class?
In K the teacher's focus should be on intrinsic motivation (encouraging the child to do good work b/c it gives them personal satisfaction) not on extrinsic motivation (treats, candy, prizes). A child should learn that school is something they are doing b/c it is what's best for them not b/c they get a treat for it.
Secondly, a teacher that will be exclusive like that and leave children out in such a harsh way needs to find a little empathy and will therefore not be good at helping the children in her class to become empathetic to each other which will not help to build a positive community in her class.
It's within your rights to discuss a teacher's philosophy of education with them both before you trust them with your child and while they are your child's teacher.
However, I don't think that moving your child from every unpleasant situation is the answer. At some point you have to teach him to deal with unpleasant situations and not run from them. Which I'm sure you will as you seem to be a responsible parent.
Good luck with the new school.
2006-09-16 11:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by Cassafrass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have given it more time and spoke with the teacher as well about your child. Children sometimes need tough love and they definitely need to learn cause/ effect and consequences. If the child is misbehaving or not paying attention to the teacher there is a consequence... no treat. The teacher uses that system to teach the children that they will be rewarded for good behavior. I would be upset too if it were my son but I would talk and explain to him why it happened that way and if I had any other concerns I would have had a talk with the teacher. I would have waited it out. Although I care for my sons happiness as well I also care about his future happiness so I want him learn the importance of behavior as it will effect his future when he is older with authority figures etc. You always have to keep in mind his future.
2006-09-16 09:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by jenn87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing. I did exactly the same with my daughter. She was miserable always crying,it just cut me up. I changed schools and she was the happiest little girl in the world.
She is all grown up now at the ripe old age of 24 and she thanked me for doing what I did. She was 8 at the time. Don't ever regret making the world a better place for your child. Good Luck
2006-09-16 07:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by lyndell v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind, you are asking a bunch of strangers around the planet if you did right by your kid.
It is your child and your responsibility. If you feel that you did the right thing, then you did right. If you think you made a mistake, seeking reinforcement from the Internet will not make it better.
Good luck
2006-09-16 08:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by damndirtyape212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. If your child is unhapy at school this would also affect his education. The teachers action in excluding him from the sweets was irresposible and though it does not sound like anything major could actually knock his confidence permenently. Well Done.
2006-09-16 07:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by malcy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving and listening to you child is not wrong nor is it spoiling.you saw a situation and your mothers instinct kicked in,and you did something about it.he's happier and that alone answers your question.thank God for mothers instinct.I believe in spoiling children yes I do , but I also believe in discipline.there is a difference. you did a good job, you paid attention to that child and you made the changes you felt were right, remember you,thought the changes were right. you made the right choice so keep trusting yourself.
2006-09-16 08:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have given it some more time. We all want whats best for our children but did you get this information from your child or did you talk with the teacher? If you got this info from your child i think you should have gone to the teacher, and talked to them about the situation.
2006-09-16 07:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by carla b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have given it more time and spoke with his teacher about your concerns. Sometimes it takes longer than two weeks to work out a problem and your child needs to learn that. If you solve all his problems quickly by taking him out of the problematic situation, that's all that he will know and he will learn to solve all his problems this way.
2006-09-16 07:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by RKC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ RKC. You made a good choice about removing the child from the other school. Now it is time to let your child explore a little with consequences. Please don't try to solve problems that your child can do himself. You are there to guide him and be there when he falls to pick him up and let him learn.
2006-09-16 08:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by always 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋