My sister-in-law broke up my relationship with my girlfriend, my sister-in law and my girlfriend are very clos

Question

I live in the same house as my sister-in-law, who is very close friends with my ex girlfriend, for 7 months my sister-in-law brought this girl to my house and we eventually got it off and for 3 weeks we had a very romantic time. My sister-in-law tried everything to stop it happening and has been slagging me off to my ex girlfriend throughout this whole time behind my back. She has been giving my ex girlfriend a lot of grief. When our romance started my ex told me she loved me, she starting telling her friends about me and her 3 sons, we both had not been in a serious relationship for years and so we were both excited by this, I met her sons and got on with them really well.
But then my ex girlfriend felt very uncomfortable coming to my house , she was getting very stressed out and getting a lot of grief from my sister-in-law, then for a weekend she did the quiet treatment on me, in that time she was going out with my sister-in-law, only replying to a few texts. when finally we spoke, She dumped me, her reason was, she has know my sister-in-law for 7 years and she did not want to lose her as a friend, I asked what about her love towards me, she did not reply to that and said goodbye.
After a week my ex girlfriend has started coming back my house, we have spoken to each other but everytime in the company of my sister-in-law, I have sent her a few texts, which she has replied. I feel my sister-in-law has this amazing hold over her and has been behind the break up. I want her back, I do love her, how do I do it?

Answer 1

I think you need to tell the sis in law to f*ck off and stop meddleing in your life. If someone i knew upset me this much i would have serious words with them, dont be scared to upset her either as she has done it to you

Answer 2

Its seems you have strong feelings for her.
I am sure it is difficult, since you haven't felt this way in a long time.However, she seems to have decided what she wants, at least at the moment, regarding the both of you.
Also, previously i think you can see she is very capable of being swayed. She seemed overly excited about your relationship, but was not willing to confront you about whatever your sister-in-law might have told her.Not only that, her love was very temporary, which is not at all surprising, since the two of you were only together for a few weeks.
If anything, just be supportive, and make her see you as a friend. Don't act like you're interested in her, and be confident, as though you had moved on.
You should just leave the situation alone and if its meant to be, and if she really cares for you she will come back.
Also, regardless of how long your ex and sister-in-law have been friends, a true friend would always be able to accept the others decision, especially in the matter of love. So if anything, not only did i not find her reason good enough, she should have been willing to give the relationship a try to see if it would work without being influenced by the opinions of your sister-in-law.
Sooner or later either she will come back to you, or not and you will be relieved that it ended when it did, or glad that you didn't have to pressure her to come back to you, when she eventually did.

Answer 3

I think your brother needs a heads up about the pain he is creating for his family, as well as the awkwardness of the situation. For the sake of his children and family, he should come by himself until more time passes. Your brother could come to a separate Christmas get together with just your family, that he can bring his girlfriend to, or go out to dinner with them both. But on the actual event, just him alone would be best. The children may be college age, but this does not mean that they are not hurt by this situation. As far as just inviting your sister-in-law, I think it would be okay as long as everyone knows who is being invited. That way if they are too uncomfortable about it, they can graciously bow out.

Answer 4

How is your relationship with your sister in-law?do you get on well?
I suspect your sister in law may fancy you, strange as it may sound and is bad mouthing you through jealously, this thought aside, I think you should confront your sister in law as to why she is getting in the way of you having a relationship with this girl and tell her to mind her own business and get on with her own relationship which I presume is with your brother.
Also try and arrange to meet your ex outside of the house, take her out for a meal , or a quiet pub, where you can talk, on your own and be yourselves

Answer 5

The only way your relationship with this girl is going to work is if you move out and get your own place. Or get a place with room mates if you can't afford to live alone. As long as you live with your sister in law, she is going to cause you problems with your relationships. She sounds like she is very nosy and a back stabber, you need to get away from her.

Answer 6

Sister-in-Law's are always trouble. Forget the mother-in-law jokes, I've got 4 sister-in-laws & not one is any good. Don't bother anymore mate if she's sided with your sister-in-law now she'll do it again at a later date. Find yourself a new girl & keep her away from this woman.

Answer 7

she is jelouse, make her more jelouse by getting bck wiv ex if u still love her. tell ex that u still love her and u want her back and that coz ur sis in law is such a *****, she trying everything to stop u 2 being happy. be more happy by showing her hw much u love each other by kissing each other in front of her. see/ watch her go mad! record converstaions if u have to. tell ur true lover and make her listen to wot her so called friend is like. she aint afriend if she wants her m8 to break up her relationship just coz SHE wants to. she mean, cruel and insecure and want others to be like her. speak to her on her own, ask to meet sumwhere for lunch. show her u love her. get her flowers, give her a rose, give her smiles and show her u want her more tahn anything and tell her u miss her and her company and that u are not the person ur sis in law makes out. tell her that she just want us to unhappy coz she may be. she is a manace!

Answer 8

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 9

You need to get the hell out of the same house as your sister in law! Can't you get some help from your brother who's married to this *****?

Answer 10

Need to have a talk with your sister in law seems she is mad at you for taking her friend. And has power over her. so if your serious about this girl then talk to sis and straigt in it out. if you really care cause if you dont then youll have family problems.