i have a very bad temper, how can i calm down?

Question

It's taking over my life, i want to die too. i'm very depressed (see my previous questions). anger mangement probably? i rudely walked out the doctors last time, still haven't apologised to her. so what do i do?

Answer 1

You should try meditation or yoga. And yes probably anger management, also try getting a new hobbie that is calming, fishing, walking, running etc.

Good luck mate

Answer 2

I am sorry you have this problem. Unfortunately the problem is getting in the way of getting you treatment. Is it criticism that makes you angry? Please be aware that everyone gets criticised sometimes, it is not just you! May be you could focus on accepting criticism and learning from it instead of getting angry. Yes, try anger management. See any attendance as positive, and if you do not get through the course go again and aim to stay for longer. How about writing a letter to your Doctor apologising for walking out and explaining you really want help f or your anger? Don't worry about what she thinks though, I am sure she has seen worse! You could show her your questions on this site as they speak volumes! Another thing you could try is counselling. Good luck!

Answer 3

The first step is admitting you have a problem and it is also the hardest step. Try writting down everything you are going through, what has led to these things and how these things make you feel. By doing this it should help you to see where your anger originates from so that you work on dealing with it appropriately. Also it would be a good to write her an appology so that you are able to explain things fully to her. Don't keep anger inside as it builds into an uncontrolable state. Keep trying to go to councillors, etc.as they are objective and do not condemn and will help you work through this time. Good luck and God Bless You. Remember you have done the hardest and most important step already.

Answer 4

A lot of kids your age (I'm assuming your teens or early 20s) get pretty messed up as they try to figure out what sort of adult they are supposed to be. It is some intersection of what you want and what is possible, and if you don't really know very much about either of those categories, it can get complicated. You start lashing out at anyone who seems to be pressuring you to choose when you don't even know half what you need to know about what your choices are.

Because people always have choices, and usually more than they can see for themselves. That's why it's so good to have someone you can trust to talk over serious things, because they will have a more objective view, and can offer useful suggestions that had not occurred to you were an option.

When I got in this situation (one very, very like it, anyway) when I was young, I was lucky enough to have a counselor who figured me out. I was living in a college town at the time, and the counselor pointed out that I was obviously green with envy over my friends who were students, getting the opportunity to learn all sorts of things that interested me, and having way better chances for a job one can actually like doing as a result of their education. I admitted it was so. "So," the counselor said, "why don't you go take the SAT tests and apply for admission?" I was floored. Until that moment, it had not occurred to me it was possible. But it was. The finger that clicks the "l" and the ";" wears a ring that says BA, University of Michigan, 1974.

Answer 5

Turn your life over to Jesus. I too am by nature a very hot tempered person and even since I have become a Christian I find I slip back into old habits at times in regards to my temper. But when I am truly trusting the Lord to meet all my needs (which fortunately is the majority of the time) I find my thinking is renewed and I dont react angrily to things I do when I am feeling discouraged with life rather than remembering that He is in control. Email me if you want to know more. Also I recommend you read 'Run, Baby, Run' by Nicky Cruz. He was the angriest most violent person you could ever meet until he met Jesus. Its an amazing book, even the most devout athiests I have given it too have loved it. You won't be able to put it down. God bless.

Answer 6

I know it may be difficult for you but you should go to your doctor's office and apologise. You will feel better and I'm sure she has also had bad experiences. You are human after all. Don't worry she will forgive you. You need to tell her your problems because she is there to help you. Tell her that sometimes you can't control your anger.
I know it's difficult to control your anger. This is what I also have a problem with sometimes. When you start getting angry, sit down if you are standing, lie down if you are sitting.
If there is cold water around you drink it. Wash your face. It'll cool you down. Try meditating and learning to relax.
Start exercising, it'll direct your energy away from your anger and your start feeling fit and better about yourself.
Most importantly, this is not going to be easy but don't give up hope.
If you need to talk, you can contact me.
Take care of yourself. You are a good person!

Answer 7

you have to take the medication they prescribe.
Listen, I never believed in anti depressants until I got to a certain point. For the first time I stuck to them and I couldnt believe how different and normal I fealt.
You sound like my boyfriend. I dont understand the temper or how he can get mad at ppl and say aome of the **** he does. However, it may go along with depression.

I didnt read the other questions yet but one thing I can say is if you were prescribed pills and are hard headed (like my boyfriend) and wont take them, Ill explain it to you this way.

Becasue untill it was expalined to me like this just like when I didnt want to give my son ADHD meds..........I wouldnt take them.

It's physiological. These pills are synthetic neurotransmitters. They make up for the lack of whatever neurotransmitters causing your depression.
You also may want to try releasing energy through excercise or a punching bag. It actually increases endorphines in the brain. Your self esteem will increase and it will help.

Answer 8

Do you know, there's a reality TV show about this, too. It's called Temper Your Temper, and they basically whip you into shape Supernanny style.
Basically, the premise is this...
1. Remember what your temper is doing to yourself and your family. Try to stay calm for them.
2. Eat healthily, exercise, etc.
3. When you feel like losing your temper take deep breaths, count to ten, walk away if you have to, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I find smiling works. Whenever yuou feel like you are going to loose it, smile, even if it just for you and there is nobody else there. This releases chemicals in your body which will help you calm down quicker and makes you feel better. Plus after a while people you know will get confused by your new way of handling things and you really will be calmer though humour. Good luck!
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Answer 10

Life can be very frustrating. Especially today, with all the End
of the World, Gloom and Doom.
We are not allowed to show anger in our society. Mostly because other people fear we might hurt them when we get angry. So we have to keep it in until we blow up.
One way of relieving stress is to exercise till you get exhausted
a couple times a week.
They tell us when we get angry, to take a deep breath. That
is wrong. We have to breathe in, and blow it out.
You might try meditation. Just concentrate on your deep
breathing and try not to think of anything. You can also say
some words that you can make up on your own. Like, "I am calm, and relaxed." Do your breathing, and repeat those words.

Answer 11

Sounds like you have realised there is a problem. Watch Becker to see how a blunt, fiery temper just makes you look like an immature *** all the time. Calm down, you're very insignificant in the grand scheme of life.
We all are.