if your boyfriend text you over 50 times in one day, just talking about day to day things and seems to really like you. Then you tell him you love him and everything changes and then all of a sudden he doesnt want to go out with you? Whats that supposed to mean. I really do think i love him. He always tret me like a princess when we went out together and now he doesnt even return half of my messages. What should i do?
2006-09-15 23:25:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Foget texts and speak to him face to face. thats the problem with mobiles they have given people an excuse to avoid personal interaction.
Give him a phone to meet up and sort it out
2006-09-15 23:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are only in it for the chase.
They say whatever they can to get a girl to say she loves him/sleep with him and then move on once they have an ego trip.
This is one of the most upsetting things that can happen, it doesnt make sense to you and is very frustrating.
However look at it hthis way. You have now found out that he is not sincere and trust worthy,, nor does he respect you. If you resprected someone even if you didn't love them - i am sure you would not just dissapear.
This has quickly demonstrated that he is not worthy of your love. IIt is his problem not yours.
Spend one evening wallowing, listen to every sad love song you have, eat chocolate and watch girly movies. THen go out with your friends and have a good time and forget about him.
Pretty soon he will be - just sombody that you used to know - still a loser though! You on the other hand will be happy with a boyfriend who you deserve. Also this kind of guy is like a disease that is really horrible. You get it once and its awful, then you are immune to it. THe next time a guy pulls this crap you won't let it effect you. You will realize you had a lucky escape.
2006-09-16 06:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he freaked out because he's new to the whole relationship thing, and he doesn't know how to handle a girl telling him that she loves him.
If he's not returning half your messages, the solution is NOT to flood him with more messages. Back off to a pace that he's comfortable with. Under NO circumstances should you ask how come he's not replying to your messages - that'll make him feel you're the clingy/smothering type, and it'll just drive him away.
When you next see him in person, you can try saying something like "Did I really freak you out when I said I loved you? Don't worry about it, it just means I really dig being around you". However, if you tell him that, make sure you do it in person - not via text message.
He still likes you, there's no reason to throw that away. It's just that when a guy first hears the L-word, he feels like there are a ton of responsibilities that just came crashing down on his head, and he doesn't know how to handle them. He's backing off because this is unknown territory for him - he doesn't know how to proceed, and he's afraid of screwing things up.
This doesn't make him a "loser", it just makes him inexperienced at relationships. Hey, we were all there once; fumbling around like this is how you learn.
Give him space, let him control the pace.
2006-09-16 06:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that maybe he needs some time to adjust to the shock of what you told him. GIve him some time, a week or two and if it doesn't change, tell him you are noticing a difference and you two need to talk.
2006-09-16 06:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probobly scared the life out of the guy, maybe you said it to soon into the relationship, talk to him about it ye will get nowhere if there is no one to one conversation(no texts).
2006-09-16 06:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by EMMA O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend has stopped commincating with you, and is ignoring your text messages, ignore him when he text's you!!!
I would guess he has someting else to occupy his little man mind!! Or he is now bored with the chase and is chasing something else. Good luck!
2006-09-16 06:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Marlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it REAL cool.
Text him hardly ever. every time he doesn't return your text wait twice the time before you send the next one! This isn't playing games, it's a great tactic and it works!
2006-09-16 06:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by tuthutop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have scared him some men just cant or are to imature to handle love! leave it hun ive just sort have gone through something similar the way i see it its their loss,find some1 who isnt scared and will love you back,thats what im going to do and hey you will have fun trying to find some1 see it like that! luv and hugs x
2006-09-16 06:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you most have done something bad to him or something that he dont like , or probably you just try to go over his place and talk to him , cuz me my self i been trying to call my girl for over 2 days and she dont want to talk to me , but when she picks up the phone she says she loves me , i mean i cant understand whats going on , so your ptoblem is so simple you just talk to him . good luck
2006-09-16 06:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by puretruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some time & space. If he likes you as much as you think he does (because of all the calls) then he'll get back to you later.
2006-09-16 06:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Joukai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋