we have a child on visitation due to ugly custerdy battle we lost her while she was 3 and she wants to know who is lieing to her
2006-09-15 23:09:34 · 8 answers · asked by meandragon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is 8 now
2006-09-15 23:11:39 · update #1
WE DO NOT SAY MEAN AND NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT THE OTHER PARENT. AND TO THOSE PEOPLE THAT HAVE A BIG ISSUE ON SPELLING CUSTODY and it was not a divorce
2006-09-15 23:40:20 · update #2
Ohhh believe me, she's old enough to figure it out. Probably has been for a while. As long as the vibes, and the people and facts are there, she can probably figure it out. Children are a lot more perceptive than what adults give them credit for. I'd just tell her as much as you can that you think she can handle. It should be obvious what you can or can't share with her at this age. and let her know if there are things that you can't get into. You don't want to tell her anything that she may try to seek truth from her adopted parents and then have them fighting to let you see her at all. So be careful with what you say, but say as much as you can. I know it may not make much sense, but just think as you go and think of everything you say as being told to her adoptive parents. Don't ask her to not say anything to them about what you tell her. That's too much responsibility for an 8 yr old.
2006-09-15 23:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPELL CHECK, PLEASE!
It is a child CUSTODY battle and the fact that you use the word battle is very explanatory.
Be honest with the child, but never lose sight of the fact that this child is only 9 and the person you want to talk bad about is the other parent and will always be in their life. DO NOT SAY MEAN AND NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT THE OTHER PARENT. THE BATTLE WILL ONLY CONTINUE.
A young child does not need to know all the truth in a nasty divorce, child custody. You have to put that away and forget about it. Deal only with the day to day responsibilities of raising a happy, well adjusted little girl.
It is not her fault that her parents can't be civilized adults. No child wants to believe her Mommy or Daddy would lie to her about one another. So only be positive and upbeat about the other parent.
The Father and Mother should be the only ones to deal with each other in a civilized manner. Even if it has to be by E-Mail, messages or voice mail. That is if you just cannot get along.
Bring peace to your life and her life . Don't contribute to making all of your lives miserable.
Be flexible and adaptable in her schedule.
DO YOUR BEST TO MAKE HER LIFE A HAPPY ONE. IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
2006-09-16 06:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-16 06:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by hani h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children expect truth from birth. Why spoil the lifetime trust they should have with a parent?
2006-09-16 06:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is older enough to ask she is older enough to know the truth but only give as much information as you really need until she is older or ask for more information.
2006-09-16 06:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they have that dumb look on their face that says i know your lying but i cant prove it..11
2006-09-16 06:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 3 b/c my brother is four but when he was 3 he said "she is layer" .
2006-09-16 06:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by aselef 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-16 06:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by cute girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋