My girl and I have been together for a year and a half and she has been faithful, albeit a bit flirty with guys sometimes but she never does anything. She is 21 and I am 20, enabling her to go to bars but I cannot. I worry like crazy that when she's there she's getting hit on by all kinds of guys and may be flirting back, but is it right of me to be this skeptical of her? Who is wrong here, is it her for wanting to go out without me on occasions, or me for getting mad if she goes out to a bar with a girl and there are other guys there? Please help!!
2006-09-15 22:07:52 · 19 answers · asked by Brandon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok dude. I totally understand the situation you are in here. Basically you are uncomfortable with your chick being out there, and vulnerable to getting hit on by other guys.Because lets face it if your chick is tight which I assume, the guys at the bar will hit on her. Its a given.Thats what guys go to the bar for to drink and pick up chicks. Thats the bottom line. Guys go to the bar for chicks.
But its all about your chick. I know with my girl that I can trust her to go to the bar, because she will never cheat. You must realize that she knows and all girls know they will get hit on at the bar .If she loves and respects you she will come home to you and not flirt with anyone etc.
However its another story if she spends every friday or saturday night at the bar or every weekend. I think as long as she spends more time with you and the bar is not first priority over you its all good.
If she is putting the bar over you then you need to let her know that she is spending less time with you and its of concern to you. If she really does care for you she will make changes.
All the best man. Remember all treat your lady like a queen.
2006-09-15 22:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by hennaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm kind of mystified here. Why does she have to go to a bar in order to go out with a girlfriend? Has she heard of restaurants or movies? There are all kinds of places to go that don't involved alcohol and other men.
Does she go there because she wants to dance? There is certainly more going on then just meeting a girl friend for a few hours of conversation and catching up.
Do you know that you can go to a bar even though you are only 20? You just can't order any alcoholic drinks.
If she is going to bars with her girlfriend I don't see any reason why you can't go along. If she protests, ask her why she has to go to a bar alone with her girlfriend when she could just as easily go to a restaurant to have dinner and conversation....and why doesn't she want you at the bar with her.
There isn't any reason why you shouldn't know what is really going on. If she just likes to dance then I can't figure out why you shouldn't know that.
2006-09-15 22:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is in the worng. It's understandable that you're worried but you can't Not let her go out. She has every right to. You just have to trust your gf and know that nothing is going to hapen. Don't worry so much. At the end of the day, she's with you.
PS - you have to be 21 to go in bars there?!?!?!?!? Thats screwed! It's only 18 here - yea Aus!!!!
2006-09-15 22:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nicky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take things as they are. If you have not reason not to trust her, then trust her. Tell her how you feel about it, and that you are feeling unsure, but that so far you do trust her, and you will try to work on getting rid of your fears. If there is anything reasonable that she can do to help ease your fears, like calling when she gets home to let you know she's ok(and hasn't gone home with some other guy) ask her if she will just to make you feel better and get over this more easily, and quicker.
2006-09-15 22:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is meeting other dudes and thats the fact. You are to young to settle down anyways so go do some of your own flirting and girl chasing.
2006-09-15 22:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by lilkin_kingboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is meeting other dudes and thats the fact. You are to young to settle down anyways so go do some of your own flirting and girl chasing.
2006-09-15 22:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by super stud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust her. If her going to the bar is conflicting with time your wanting to spend time with her, then shes not being very nice because you can't go in one.
2006-09-15 22:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pl do keep your spirit high with self self confidence and join her all the time when she feels to go out , if you are serious in this relation or forget her forever .
2006-09-15 22:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a bit tricky, if she has never cheated on you maybe you should consider just lightly bringing it up that her being so flirty bothers you, if you aren't demanding and controlling she'll listen and if she doesn't be weary!
2006-09-15 22:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brandon as long as she isn't going to the strip club don't worry about it, my question to you is , Who is she coming home to? That is the question...if you know what I mean???
2006-09-15 22:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Phill klueyain Jr. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋