Last night I had a second date with a guy and I thought everything was going well. He talked like he wanted a relationship, he took me out, we talked, laughed had a great time. Then at the end of the date we were hanging out in my apartment and he says to me, I can't stand it anymore and he wants to jump my bones. So we end up having sex and I only did it cuz I thought we were kinda on that path to getting serious. Well, he was supposed to call tonight and he never did, I finally texted him and said what's up? He says oh well we decided to stay in OKC tonight and doesn't even bother to call me. I'm sick about this, I don't get it what went wrong and why all of sudden he's acting so inconsiderate. I guess my radar's not working cuz I thought he was a good guy. I feel so hurt and used that I trusted him and now he's blowing me off. What the happened, can someone help me?
2006-09-15 20:30:55 · 17 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mind you he was the one who told me he was going to call and we were supposed to get together and then he doesn't do a darn thing but repond after I tell him what's up?
2006-09-15 20:33:19 · update #1
maybe you should have said 'no' then waited to see how he reacted. then decided if he was actually planning on hanging around. not to give you false hope but maybe he will call in a day or so, if he does and wants to have sex again then you know that that's all he will ever want from you. sorry =(
2006-09-15 21:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, U simply gave it up too soon. U said that it was ur second date. That does not constitute a relationship. Most guys r able to indiscriminately have sex, whereas, most women look for an emotional connection. That's why so many women can have sex with a guy over and over and never have an orgasm, nor ever complain about it. The act of sex or being w/ that guy is somehow enough , at least for the time being. For women, it's all about that emotional bind. U didn't make this guy get to know U for U. All he saw was ur middle "V" zone. U now know what his intentions all the long were; to divide and conquer. Learn from ur mistake. U can't take back what u already gave away, but u can learn not to give away the goods,not before a man gets to know and appreciates the real U.
2006-09-15 20:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was saying all of the right things to get what he wanted. You are not the first person to hope for the best, and won't be the last. Sorry you are hurt. He is not worth your effort and do not give him the time of day- you are better than that. If he did not call to tell you how awesome you are, then he is not into you like you thought and you are boosting his ego by chasing him. Next time hold out. A guy who is really meaning what he says (about relationships etc.) will not mind waiting a while, builds anticipation and makes it that much better. Good luck to you- get back to it, you'll find someone worthy of you!
2006-09-15 20:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad!,but you have fallen for the oldest trick in the Book!
No Decent or Good Guy would even ask such a thing of you on a 1st date!!
Have respect for yourself!
Get to know a Guy for who and what he is before even entering into a physical relationship!!!
Time spent together and taking things slowly can be far more pleasurable than ANY Relationship based on SEX!!
Peer Pressure has always been on Guys to get a 1st date into bed! It's some weird genetic thing that ALL Guys suffer from! Whether they act on Instinct or are Genuine Nice Guys-No one knows!
Move on from this, and learn!
2006-09-15 20:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably had sex too soon. You should have waited a little longer. By having sex on the second date the guy thinks you only want sex too. He doesn't even know you want a relationship. You should talk to him about it and see what he thinks. Don't beat yourself up over it. It's just sex. But yeah, guys will tend to act real nice and sweet in order to get in your pants. Then after the challenge is over they blow you off. If he really likes you he will want to see you again. But make sure you don't just drop your panties next time. Make him work for it and spend some time discussing a relationship to see if it is what he wants.
2006-09-15 20:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's tough.. I don't know what to say except to maybe wait and see if he contacts you again. If he does, take it slowly. If he doesn't then chalk it up to experience and be sure to stand your ground in the future if you really aren't ready for that activity. I'm thinking it sounds like he had no intention of anything serious with you at all - just a one nighter. Sorry to hear it.
2006-09-15 20:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by testrun66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was using you - this should teach you that sex on the first date is not a good thing - you fell for his line that he would call you when all he wanted was sex.......So now you know that it was not a good thing and do not fall for it in the future - sex on the first date is never a good thing!!!
Don't beat yourself over this - consider it a learning experience and don't repear it!!
2006-09-15 20:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dah
if he was a nice guy he wouldn't say I want to jump your bones!!!! not on the second date!!!!!
He got what he came there for. He saw what he wanted and now he is moving on.
and don't think cause a guy kiss you gently he's a nice guy. there is more to nice guys than that!!!!!!
that is why us "real" nice guys get a bad reputation. Nice guys are willing to take things slow to make them work out. you were fooled or not you knew what you were doing and you know how he was.
2006-09-15 20:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple, he just wanted sex and you gave it to him with no second thought. Next time a guy wants to have sex with you, just say no, tell him that you dont see a wedding ring on your finger, so he aint got the right to you that way.
2006-09-15 20:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your judgement my dear let u down. He may have just wanted a screw and u allowed him to. Forget him get on with your life. He is not worth the bother.
2006-09-15 20:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋