i have my broad exams approaching and am very scared about it...i know its not good to get tensed but i am suppposed to do well for the sake of my parents.... they have a lot of hopes on me....my mom wants me to get into medicine.... i know i cant score that much...i cant tell them clearly too because i knoe it will hurt them...can any one tell me what i should do...help me pleaseee...
2006-09-15 20:30:51 · 16 answers · asked by tani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hey dear just chill
i know itz very difficult subject,If u really wana score high & make ur parents happy then u shd b knowing wat2do....all uhv to do is calm down & study as much as u can do..juz think in mind tht uhv to score alot & make all proud of u..with this sentence jus study hard im sure then u will get success...dont worry if u will just stuck with one thot in ur mind or tentions den i tel u, u wont reach to ur goal of success...or upto ur marks...so best luck!Do well & keep all worries n tentions aside
2006-09-15 20:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by ur frnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely agree with the person who said to do your best and do it for yourself. That truly is all you should be expected to do. I have one son in college and I've told him that I want him to study whatever makes him happy and brings him joy, because if you can find that in life, your job won't be drudgery. I would never want my children to worry about pleasing me in their choice of careers. I don't know why your mom is so concerned about you going into medicine. Is it a family tradition? If so, that doesn't mean that it is the right thing for you. Why do they have such hopes on you? I'm sorry for you, b/c I feel that they are putting unnecessary stress on you. Do you think they would be open at all to discussing this with you? It doesn't really sound like it from what you wrote. If this is not possible, then please listen to this -- study hard, get as much rest as you can (I know that sounds crazy, but try), and most of all realize that your parents will love you no matter how well you do or what field you go into to. You know that, right? So, they may be disappointed, but that's really their problem, not yours. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's the truth. They have lived their lives the best they can and now it's your turn to do the same. If you live your life trying to please others, you'll end up not being happy within yourself. Parents want to protect their children from making mistakes, but that is how we learn. Even if you hit some bumps along the way, (which you will -- everyone does!), you take a detour and sometimes that is where you were meant to be all along. My hope is that your parents loosen up and let you live your life on your own terms. Take a warm bath, study, eat, get some sleep, do your best and then relax and let things happen as they will. Good luck!
2006-09-16 04:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by mom of boys 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only supposed to do well for yourself and that is your problem you feel pressure to do well for your parents and what they want an expect.
At the end of the day it is your life and your future have a chat with your parents and tell them how you feel you may be suprised and find that they do understand if they felt that they are putting all this pressure on you and making you ill in the process i am sure they would be a bit shocked. Unless you find the courage to tell them they will not know.
I told my daughter to pick what she wanted to do for herself and not for anyone else because at the end of the day she is the one who will have to do the subjects and the only way she would be successful is if she picked subjects that she not only loved but also enjoyed. She did do this and come out with top marks and more important no pressure to do well as I told her good luck and you can only do your best and that is all I asked do your best.
She is now at college and has picked subject that I thought some may not be suitable but I supported her and now she is loving collage and is so enthusiastic about each and ever subject as she picked them as she loves and has apassion for them. The same for unni she will do what ever she is happy with and not me.
God luck with telling your parents and good luck with your exams you can only do your best and if your best is not good enough for your parents then it is them that have the problem not you. Go with you heart, your love and passion for what you want to do not them. You will be successfull if you pick what you want and ok they may be upset at first but once they see how happy and well you are doing they to will see you made the right choice for you.
To go into medicine is very much a vocation it is a passion that you have always wanted to do and it is no good going into it because your parents want it. It is dam hard work and demanding and it is only when you want to do it will you be able to keep it going. It is better to hurt them now than when you are half way into what you do not want to do.
2006-09-16 06:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're putting too much pressure on you. Why don't you make your mum a cup of tea and sit down next to her. And start to talk!!!!!! Tell your mother everything you said here.
Also, if you don't get the expected results, what will be the worst thing that will happen? You have to redo them? Is that so bad?
2006-09-16 08:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHILL OUT for start, you sound like you have study ed hard and that is all you can do, but if you tell your folks how you are feeling the pressure I'm sure they will help you relax about the whole thing and give you support in any areas your not so hot on. this should help you sore better in the tests. and if not they will know you gave it your best shoot. this you probably already know but what else can you do, (unless you cheat.)
2006-09-16 03:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by delelsbury 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and do your best. Dont be pressured by your parents, its your future so you decide what you want to do.
Are from the States because this parent pressure seems to be a bigger issue over there, yes we do get it here in the UK but not to the same level
2006-09-16 03:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can only do your best and your parents should realise this they shouldnt be so pushy and should be proud of you in whatever you do. Yeah alot of parents probably do want them to be doctors, but all the other jobs that go on in the world make the world go round too. good luck, and try not to stress.
2006-09-16 05:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a smart person once said "find a job you like and you will never work a day in your life" In other words if it is not what you want dont do it or you will be miserable for the rest of your life. Your parents have lived thier lives and now it is time for you to live yours.
2006-09-16 04:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by dgrainger77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need added pressure at a time like this, if you find it hard to talk to your parents it might help to write down how you feel about this and leave it for them to read. Its what you want that matters, your life, not theirs. Good luck
2006-09-16 03:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down and do your best if you can walk away from the exam saying i did my best then that's good, choose a career for you not your mother she will be proud whatever path you take Good Luck
2006-09-16 03:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋