I fell so alone in life and fell no one cares. My parents child abused me. My friends walk all over me. Im not the best looking dude in the world and i know that but people dont have to rub it in. I am 19 never had a girl friend and im just afraid i will be alone all my life. Just to day i was talking to friend i told him all i want in life is to find someone i can love. He told me theres no chance i should stick to my hand. I just want to know why me. Im very shy and dont go out as must as i should. I spend 80% of my time alone.
2006-09-15 20:21:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-15 21:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was severly abused growing up and can relate to well.Self esteem is something you must learn as for your friend I hope he was only joking if not then with friends like that who needs enemies. I know it's hard but try not to focus on the negatives you see in your self others can see that in the way you carry your self.Try to pick one thing at a time and keep working w/your self untill you naturally feel good admitting the positives you have.And at the risk of sounding like gr.ma(which i am 1) Looks fade w/time.True hearts and inner beauty do not.If you can find it theres a wonderful book called "levels of higher conciouness" it's the only self help book I have ever found worth while and I have been through a LOT of counseling
2006-09-16 03:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by hardworking_ct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could speak to your school counselor. They can help you though everything. I don't know how bad the child abuse it, but if your parents are hitting you, you have a right to stop it. You should talk to them about that to. You could call a kids help line. I understand what you are going through at school. I was very shy at school. I didn't have many friends, spent a lot of my time by myself, people who I thought were friends would bully me. Kids can be mean, they pick on people who are differant. Don't feel down about yourself. Everyone deserves love, so don't listen to your friend. And everyone is beautiful in their own way. It's what's inside what counts. I'm sure you are saying that because people tell you that, or you think that must be the reason why you are treated like that. Hey, if kids are being rude to you, maybe you could talk to your parents about changing schools, that's what I did. Good luck!
2006-09-16 06:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by doggie.days 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you meet someone you love, you will know. They will come at the most unexpected time, but when you meet that special someone you will know. If you have friends that put you down, they aren't friends. I recently found this out. I had a "best friend" since elementary school, and when I met my bf, i learned what it was like to have a true friend. Age doesn't matter, never compare yourself to other people. Everyone is different, that is what makes us human. As far as going out, do things that make you happy, cuz you might meet someone who enjoys the same things you do. Don't try for a girlfriend, let it happen on accident. Hope this helps, and hang in there.
2006-09-16 03:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by curly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you're 19. Life will get better. Do everything you can to take care of yourself (exercise, hygiene, proper nutrition, wardrobe). Get up to speed on world events, local events, and try local clubs and groups for social interaction. You're self-esteem and self-image seems very low. Some counceling to get past some of your personal demons might be good. Check your jobs benefit package for possible counceling opportunities. That's the place to start. Good luck, again - life gets much better after the teenage years.
2006-09-16 03:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by testrun66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw them and i dnt think u can classs those fags as friends... love isnt so great at the best of times so appreciate freedom while u can... take up a hobby play a sport, write a book... being alone isnt the worst thing in the world being surrounded by idiots is.... lol dont worry youll do fine im sure of it... id say good luck but u dnt need it bro.... take care tho ok
2006-09-16 03:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by FoB_NoZ_hIs_S*** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit feeling sorry for yourself for starters. you're the only person who can make your life better. and sitting around moping about the things you wished you had isn't going to make your situation any better. you need to learn to love yourself before you can even think of having a relationship with a woman. you're only 19, you should be in the prime of your life right now. go out and enjoy it!
2006-09-16 03:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to act more confident...people react to confidence....im sure u have a lot of issues due to abuse...have u had counselling or come to terms with the situation? u need to get new friends if they are saying things like that...it doesnt matter what u look like....i have dated a lot of guys that arent that good looking but they have great personalities so it really doesnt matter...i wish u the best of luck and please get new friends
2006-09-16 03:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by sangwhich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude! no one is going to like you when your lethargic and down in the dumps .. first of all get all your ducks in a row .. learn to love yourself first .. and I don't mean palmala ... stop looking at women as a source of sex and more as a companion ... find some interest to enjoy : movies-bowling-bicycling-gym-beach-boating-diving or what ever and be happy doing it .. then you will find someone with your same interest in mind .. if your just looking for sex ..find a hooker...
2006-09-16 03:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mi amigo...."its better to be alone then have bad company around"
also, plz dont give a damm what people say or think about u. Its not worth it. i had a friend like u b4...i helped him out like a friend should...he is doing a lot better. he has found a girl who loves him. ..mi amigo, i dont like when some1 feels like u feel. if u want my help....just im me
2006-09-16 03:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋