How would you react if your significant other of 10 months went to Europe to visit family and only emailed once and called once right before coming back?
2006-09-15 19:58:00 · 19 answers · asked by naturegirl1017 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pissed off
2006-09-15 19:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what the relationship is like. Personally I would think they were trying to tell me something, but didn't have the courage to tell me. So, I would broach the issue. However in some relationships people don't need to communicate with each other all the time and if they're apart, just get on and do what they need to do and then when they come back into contact with each other they just pick up where they left off. Relationships like that can be difficult unless both parties really believe in that way of thinking. The fact you've posted a question would probably indicate you don't think that way or truly believe in it. Therefore I would just come out with what you feel to your partner and ask for some respect.
2006-09-15 20:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make me feel kinda low. I would be sad and upset at the same time. Because that let's me know that he was not thinking about me, when guys think about you they call you, and that's with out a shadow of a doubt. Being that he didn't take the time out to call me until he felt the obligation of at least e-mailing or calling me right before his arrival would give me the definition of our reationship. So now you know exactly where the relationship stands. It's all in his actions. If he's displaying these effects now, can you imagine how it's going to be in the long run? It does not get beeter it only gets worse. Don't let him instill the "It will get better." line in you, because all that will do is leave you to be waiting in vain for this illusion he has created for you. Whenever your left wondering or feeling aprehensve and stressed about where his feeling and thoughts for you lay, then you know you must move forward. Personally I would end the realtionship before it gets deeper, leaving the oppurtunity to be- come stuck in his world of "supposedly" caring for me when in reality it's all a merage. I know your thinking, it's a peety reason for break up, but that's the world problem..we don't look deeply inside anothers actions, and we write it off as being petty until it builds and stacks itself up soo high that were stuck up there and can't come down.
-Really sit back and analyze the whole situation. You'll see that his previous actions as well as his future actions are contained in his aura and character. Base your decision from that and act on what you think is best for YOU!
-Luv, live life.
2006-09-15 20:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're used to calling each other or talking to each other in some form almost every day, then it's a little iffy that the person hasn't called or emailed as often as you're used to. I had a friend whose boyfriend went on a trip for a while and they emailed every day and called almost every day. But then he cheated on her, stopped emailing and calling, and broke up with her in a text message. Although he was gone for several weeks, not just two.
On the other hand, two and a half weeks isn't a very long time. He was probably really busy, and he'll probably come back bearing gifts and not knowing that you wanted him to call more. I wouldn't worry about it too much, but definitely don't confront him about it when he comes back. Welcome him home with open arms and hear his side of the story before jumping to conclusions.
2006-09-15 20:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider it a wake up call. Actions speak louder than words. I would not rush to see them and wait for them to call or come by. Then I would not show much enthusiasm for the reunion. After some coaxing I would relate that you were very enthused...every day when you waited to hear from them. Slowly you began to feel unimportant. Out of sight...out of mind. Ask them how would they feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
If you continue to pursue the relationship pay very close to their behavior. Make sure he/she earns any trust that you would be willing to give. Build your character to the point that you not let yourself be taken advantage of...by any man/or woman. And absolutely let no man rule your life...ever.
Be determined not to be easy. It is ultimately up to you to guard your self respect and maintain your dignity.
2006-09-15 20:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that they'd met someone there. There's really no excuse for them to only call and write once. Also if the call was just before they came back, it's like they're securing their spot with you back home. I'd be pretty pissed and be asking quite a lot of questions!
2006-09-15 20:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in an same difficulty. except mines lengthy distance. Its worked for decades now... i might want to prefer to be sure the position yours is going. For me, the large second is on the marketplace in 2 months, after shall we be at the same time. in spite of the actual undeniable reality that her artwork wont substitute. Shes a nurse, and oftentimes human beings in basic terms have diverse priorities. It doesnt recommend you arent major to him as a female friend. it would want to nicely be achieveable his artwork in basic terms has the front seat at this element in his existence. you need to ask your self, is this worth pursuing on your eyes? if so, perhaps you need to assert to him, is this the way he consistently treats his girlfriends, or is it in basic terms a momentary difficulty. If something, you may chop up for now, and pursue possibilities contained in the destiny, even as he's extra loose. No experience in being unhappy.
2016-11-27 01:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pissed, but distract myself with other things such as reading a book, going out, excercising..... since he wants to act brand new.....then when he did deceide to call I'd answer or reply and say sorry boo, kinda busy got a lot of things going on, made some new friends, they're a riot....see you when you get back chow! When he got back into town oh it would BE ON! No @$$, no welcome home, NU-THING......matter of fact you should leave his @$$ stranded at the airport! He'd have to explain himself but by then I would have convinced myself he wasn't worth the time and politely dismiss him from my prescence....yup that's what I'd do.
2006-09-15 20:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Progress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats not a problem at all .he/she may be busy.never mind.
i'm experiencing this right now.he is not my bf but a good frnd indeed.he hasn't send me a single mail from last 5 days n' i too became miserable but i'm ok now.
don't worry at all!!!
2006-09-15 20:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u feel sad, be as cool as you are and take things as light you do , let the other save his face.
2006-09-15 20:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not really sure. i mean i would be upset to say the least but phone calls to and from other parts of the world are expensive as is internet.
2006-09-15 19:59:52 · answer #11 · answered by tonyspurplekitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋