My daughter will not clean her room.I have tried everything from being nice,grounding er,embarrassing her,I .

Answer 1

All you have to do is clean it up yourself. Take a garbage bag and take everything out that you have to pick up. Don't give the 'stuff' back until she earns it! That can include any game consoles, cd players, clothes, etc. If there's a pc disconnect the internet connection. I only had to do this once (not everything got returned) and now I never see anything on the floor! The last thing anybody wants is for me to clean their room! lol

Answer 2

okay, listen here.
go into her room with her. look around. nobody is born organized. a place for everything and everything in it's place. does she have a place for all her stuff? a trash can? a hanging rack? baskets? go through the room with her and start with the floor.pick up the laundry. throw the shoes in a basket. she can fill a bag with stuff she no longer wants, you fill the trash bag. (if unsure, make sure to ask first.) then make the bed. look around at all the stuff that is left. categorize it. put it in piles. and then find the best place to put each of these things, all things in the same category in the same place. i went with stationary and craft stuff, then anything that had anything to do with electronics, then jewelery and small sentimental things, then makeup, then books and so on. you may have to drag everything out and do a complete overhaul. she has never been taught how to do it, so give her a basic idea. and teach her that trash is trash. if it holds no use or value for her then she is better off without it. and do not make it too difficult. it will probably be more likely to stay clean if she can just toss shoes into a laundry basket in the closet floor, put her coat/purse/backpack away if she can just stick it on a hook, a bookshelf close to her bed, where she is most likely to read. a nightstand with her cd player on the top and cd's in the drawer underneath. now the hard part. keeping it that way. schedule a day of the week for her to pick it up. or 2 if she needs to. schedule a day of the week for her to wash her own clothes too. if she washes them herself she is more likely to care about whether or not she leaves clean clothes on the floor. this is very important, you have to take a proactive role and hold her hand, this is a life skill you are teaching her and you are not doing her any favors by "shutting the door." if you do not teach her the basic rules of orginanization and housekeeping she will have to learn it on her own when she is older and on her own and she has 2 kids. and a job. and a husband. and it will be very hard for her.

Answer 3

Pick the things up off the floor and other stuff out of place and take it away.Wash the clothes and hide them somewhere in the house.Attic maybe?Give her one last warning and tell her what you are going to do and if it doesn't get taken care of,do what you said.I had a kid that was horrible on furniture,he would jump from one couch to the other,cut the couch with toys.So we made it to where he didn't get to use any furniture to sit on AT ALL.He could sleep in his bed,but other than than he was on the floor.After 3 days he had a totally new appreciation for the furniture.

Answer 4

Throw it all in boxes and leave only her bed. Don't let her have any of it for a month. After that time give it back and she must put it all where it goes and keep it that way. If she doesn't then make her pack it up herself and take her to a homeless shelter and hand it over to them. There's a lesson she will never forget...

Answer 5

I am a mom of 2 teenagers and through family counseling this is what i've learned. Both of my children have messy rooms. I was pulling my hair out trying to get them to clean them. Well....This is what i was told: their room is their space...they have to live in it...leave them alone. Make their laundry their responsibility. If they run out of clean clothes then simply say "your laundry is your responsibility". If their rooms are messy make them keep their door shut so you don't have to see it. It's hard to do, I know. But they will eventually get tired of living in filth and clean it. Mine still have messy rooms, but I have noticed that running out of clean clothes tends to push them towards picking up a little once in a while instead of never. It will be hard for you, as mom, to just shut the door on the issue, so to speak, but try it and see what happens. What have you got to lose?

Answer 6

I had the same problem. Leave her alone and shut the door. Don't argue about it with her, and when she is wanting that new pair of jeans, tell her you wanted her to clean her room and she didn't, so now she can see how it feels not to get something she wants. It worked for me.,

Answer 7

Depending on her age. Just tell her that you will not buy her anything else for her room, clothes, or anything extra until she starts keeping her room clean.

Clean her room up for her. Then, every night before she goes to bed tell her that anything that it left on the floor, you are going to come in with a trash bag and through away anything that she did not put up where it belongs.

Believe me it works.

Answer 8

I think that the best way to deal with it, is not to do anything. Close her room door and ignore it. This is just part of the teenager war, you will not win it. If your not going o win do not fight.

Answer 9

Number one thing. It's your fault. Kids are born innocent; so all other actions and behavior is learned. So, since she lives with you; she must have learned her stubborness from you. But all is not lost. Show her how to clean it the first time, and after that she;s on her own. Always remember that the house is yours

Answer 10

Try showing her how to clean her room and let her participate... embarassing her especially infornt of other people would only make her resent you. Be more understanding.