I have a close gf whom I knew since young. She died on an airplane crash in 2000. Till now, I still cant forget her.I have changed alot of gf since then but everytime we make love,my mind keeps thinking of her. I know its unfair to my gf,but I just cant help thinking of her. Sometimes when I sleep, I still will wake up in the middle of the night and cried... Any1 who's able to help me..?
2006-09-15 19:14:24 · 13 answers · asked by porridge0000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In love, you have to know when to let go. In your case, you have to- you have no choice. But until you are unable to let go, do not enter into a relationship because it will be unfair for your current girlfriend. You will show signs of being unhappy and she will not be happy either because you cannot give the love that she deserves.
Maybe it would help if you will write a farewell letter to the girlfriend you lost on an airplaine crash in that way your feelings will be released.
You also have to mend first your broken heart otherwise you will end up with the same dilemma over and over again, it will not matter who- you will still look for your girlfriend who passed away so first and foremost, you have to let go. Memories of her will still live on but it will be lessons learnt and not pain.....
You have to move on....somewhere out there your princess is waiting for you.
2006-09-15 20:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you haven't had closure yet from the previous relationship. You haven't taken the time to grieve properly. Perhaps you should take some time to just be alone - learning to accept the passing of your previous gf. You need to get to a place where you can still love and appreciate the times you shared with the previous gf. Never forget those times. They are a part of what makes you you. But also look forward to what life has in store for you with the current gf.
2006-09-15 19:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regret to inform but there is no way u can forget her. Also nothing anyone says will make it better. The only thing i know is time. Time heals all but, how much time is the key. Something take a very long time to heal it would be one thing if she left u while she was still alive. But since u were dating and she was basicly taken from u it will be a very hard thing to forget. The only thing is to wait for the pain to subside.
2006-09-15 19:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA man
It's amazing that you have been able to find love AT ALL.
Heck, so many people are still searching for that missing piece.
Anyway, you should just get out of the "relationship-run" until you can truly say to yourself that you're ready to move on
SEX has nothing to do with love, especially the love you had with your past gf.
You should find a girl FRIEND who you can just talk to, -----without getting serious and then breaking the girl's heart by allowing yourself to drown in the pain of losing your late Love.
2006-09-15 19:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by What gives? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i lost a b/f to suicide in 2003!I wish I could tell you it will go away but if I did I'd be lying,time will make it a little easier ,she will always live in your heart as so will mine i cherish the thoughts and memories i have but I'm careful for my husband to not see my pain on an on going basis it will only hurt him,so please I know it's not easy try to not sow your current g/f to much grief you can talk to a friend that you can confide in or maybe go to therapy.I am really sorry for your loss words can't express my sympathy I hope things workout for you and your new g/f.tghe reason it's so hard for you and I to have a normal life after these deaths is because there was never any closer,try talking with your dead g/f and tell her you love her but you have a new g/f now and you need her to help you put closer to her death good luck,also don't be alone you may ruin your life if you do just make speacial memories with your current g/f
2006-09-15 19:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are truly not over you first love, try being single for awile, being true to yourself is the only way to over come this, it is unfair to your current girl to have competition since your involved on such a intimate level, give your self some time, now thats fair to both of you
2006-09-15 19:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love and miss her terribly and it's obvious that the two of you were close. No words can explain how you feel, when someone you loved, die's. The fact that she died suddenly makes it even worse because you didn't get the chance to say goodbye.
2006-09-15 19:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you can't help it. Try being single for awhile. It sounds like you and your gf were close. For me, its nice to know men have feeling like you do.
Remember the all the good times. Let it out. Cry. Be glad you kew this wonderful girl and you can feel these powerful emotions from it.
Best Wishes, always. :)
2006-09-15 19:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dex's Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never be able to forget her. She's a little part of you and will always be. I say see a psychologist. The dialogue will help you get it out of your system.
Best Wishes!
2006-09-15 19:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't forget. I would place that person in a special place in my heart and soul. Then clear a space for someone new to not take their place but to be unique to themselves and me. Take things slowly and take care.
2006-09-15 19:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋