Ok this wasnt really my fault, but this i still feel so guilty...
Well this is what happened, i left my phnoe on my table and went in the shower, one of my Femal Friends got it, heard a message from one of my Ex', called her back and basically life threatened her, as a prank, Well the thing is that me and my ex were really good friends, and maybe were even gonna go out again, well after this she said that her life was more valuable then out friendship, and i have told her many times, that this was just a prank, the girl that made the prank wanted to call her herself, but my ex wont listen... Shes very closed on this whole deal, and wont listen...
So what can i do know to prove to here that all this was just a prank made by some girls.... Is there anything you guys can recomend that i do? I really value this girl's friendship, even if were not going out, but i just hate to feel like this, especially beacuse this wasnt even my fault, so is it too late to fix this now?
2006-09-15 18:48:07 · 16 answers · asked by Chuyito 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You screwed up worse than President Bush.
If you think you have a chance in talking with her, go for it, but you have some SERIOUS work ahead of you.
if you plan to do so, you better take more heat than the Sun.
Otherwise, apologize, and walk away like a 5 year old who lost his $5000 Mickey Mantle baseball card.
2006-09-15 18:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Venting out of anger isn't going to help. If you and your ex- are really good friends then the friendship is going to be there tomorrow. There's no need for the girl who made the prank call to call the ex- and apologize , she has done enough damage and your ex- definetly doesn't want to hear from her. What you should do is call your ex- again explain as calmly as you can what happened, and then tell her that the friendship with her is very valuable and you would like for the both of you to move past this obstacle. Then give her the time she needs to give you a response , it may not be today, or tomorrow, but if you man up and handle your biz the responsible way , she would probably be more acceptable to you and your apology and eventually get past the incident. Give her time to think it through friends will always come back thru thick and thin. Watch !
2006-09-16 02:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by J Truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you wait about a week or so ( to show that you respect her wishes). Then send her a nice card ( and a nice simple bouquet of flowers, if you can afford it) saying that you sincerely apologize for what happened. That she is very special to you and it was a horrible joke played on her at yours and her expense. Let her know that in no way was she ever in any danger. If she can find it in her heart to forgive you, you would consider it an honor...for you would very much like to remain her friend. Deeply and sincerely I apologize.
Make it simple. Don't go on and on.
Have the note and flowers delivered. Make the note a card with no words so you can put your own (the above message). Make sure the flowers are from a florist and not the grocery store. Do not be lavish with the flower bouquet. Simple and sweet is your aim. If no flowers, then mail the card. Keep it plain and simple but neat. Do not use a piece of paper ripped out of a tablet or anything with lines. Make sure no words are misspelled. Get a friend who writes well to pen the note. Make sure it is in ink.
At the very least she will admire your presentation and applaud your finesse.
2006-09-16 02:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "friend" who pranked your ex, should be making more efforts to help you repair this situation since it was her stupid doing. Make her kiss your ex's butt if she has too.
Second, if your ex is that adamant about not listening to the explanation, don't push the issue anymore because you may just be irritating her at this point. Maybe let some time pass.
I can't say if it's too late because it depends on your ex, but let's just say that she changes her mind and listens to you about the prank, how will you feel if your ex forgives you, but not your friend? Who would you prefer to have in your life? A woman might make you choose...
2006-09-16 02:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is def. not too late to fix this now. However, you have to be careful what you do and consider the possibility she might get angry over things. You can get your friend who pulled the prank to go with you to meet your ex and explain in person. You ex may feel that you and your friend are sincere and things turn out better in person than on the phone or online. I recommend getting a gift for her. Nothing too personal, and nothing too formal. Just a gesture to show your sincerity. Good luck!
2006-09-16 01:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by FoodLOVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get rid of this so called friend who made the "prank" phone call. It wasn't a prank call at all. She meant that when she called. She is obviously jealous of your ex and wanted her out of the picture and when she got caught about the whole thing, she said she was just joking...So get rid of her as a friend, tell your ex that you got rid of this supposed friend and hopefully she will listen to you...Maybe even send her and e-mail or a letter or something explaining...I'm sure she will at least read it and maybe think about it, but right now she isn't trying to hear anything coming out of your mouth...
You don't sound upset with your friend who made this call and you need to direct some anger towards her right about now.
2006-09-16 01:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be really really nice to her !! Maybe get her some flowers get the girl who called her to call her back and apologise and if she doesnt then get angry with her. I mean, if it was a female friend who called her and ruined it for you then is she a good friend ? Maybe your friend was jealous and didnt want you talking to your ex ? Who knows but i think if you want to talk to your ex again she should get an apology from the other girl.. if that makes sense ..?
2006-09-16 01:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A prank or not, she is only safe to take it seriously. If you really like the ex then get rid of the "friend" cause she is a mean, scary girl to do something like that.
2006-09-16 01:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by treasureisland85 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can talk to your ex to tell your friend what this really is all about. you three should sit down so that she'll hear all sides of the story and get her confidence back on you. until that is cleared, be prepared to feel cold shoulder and deaf ears from her.
the earlier you do this, the better. prolonging it will only mean worse than how guilty you're currently feeling.
2006-09-16 01:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be too late. You could always try a nice letter and card explaining the whole situation like you did here. But, you may just have to cut your losses and move on. I guess pain is part of the human experience whether we like it or not.
2006-09-16 01:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋