The girl is a very close friend who I know through family. She is three years younger than me. I'm pretty sure I'm not her type. Is there anything I can do or say, without making the situation awkward, to see how she feels about me? Any advice would be very much appreciated.
We have hung out with each other usually with other people, but just the two of us only once. When we did hang out, I noticed that she was pretty quiet that night.
By the way, I am very shy when it comes to women.
2006-09-15 18:31:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also would hate myself if I ruined our friendship.
2006-09-15 18:36:16 · update #1
We did have fun when we went out. She was only quiet when I was taking her home.
2006-09-15 18:50:33 · update #2
Since you are shy, follow my instructions to a T.
1. Next time you go out, get drunk. Not sh!t-faced, just drunk enough to hide your inhibitions.
2. Bring her home and put on some Barry White or Julio Iglesias.
3. Tell her you'll be right back. Undress and rub baby oil on yourself. Get a sock and make it look like a rabbit.
4. Go to her and ask if she wants to pet your rabbit. Then hit it, and hit it good.
5. If she says no, then pretend to pass out right away. Ask her what happened the next day, because you were so drunk you can't remember.
2006-09-15 19:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're sure you aren't her type then why bother? If you have a very close relation with her and her family, why spoil all that over something that you deep down, feel won't work? If you're not her type there's nothing you can do to change that! I say move on and find someone else, sometimes it's not worth recking a nice friendship over something we're not sure of! And maybe it's not love what you're feeling, you probably feel very close to her but that's all, it doesn't necessarily mean it's love, you know? If you tell her how you feel and she doesn't feel the same way, sure you can probably still be friends.....but things won't be the same, she will probably feel weird, because she will know that you "love" her.....So think about it! Good Luck
2006-09-15 18:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm a good idea is to maybe do stuff with her like if she likes running go on runs with her. Sports or hobbies that you guys share. Then maybe you could get her alone and tell how you feel about her but thats easier said than done. A good way to work up the courage is to use your emotions. Your emotions are a strong force and they can make you do things you normally wouldn't so let your emotions take control for a while and you might even be able to ask her out on a date. Good luck mate!
2006-09-15 18:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by KSJTam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can she be a close friend if, when y'all hung out, she didn't have much to say?
either way, you may as well go for it. if she is a close friend, your friendship can withstand it. you may be very shy, may feel awkard if the answer is no, but maybe she won't be too wierd about it and y'all can work thru it. if you are friends as part of a group of folks, and she isn't interested, well, not much lost. you guys can still hang out with the rest of the group there to buff the wierdness.
carpe deim, y'know? good luck!
2006-09-15 18:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should go to the mirror and practice what are you going to say to boost up your confidence... just be honest with her and tell her your feelings and when you guys go on a date alone make her feel comfortable and she's probably shy too... you should just tell her so you can know what she thinks and not wonder if she does or doesnt cuz it will bug you all the time keeping it in and thinking things and if she doesnt, play it kool i know its going to be hard but just be kool with what she have to say when you are ready to tell her ...oh and when you want to tell her, tell her from the heart well i hope this will help i wish you the best of luck!!!
2006-09-15 19:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by anna_banana♥LALakers. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOOK, MAN!!!
TELL HER how you feel. Seriously, girls dont want the "run-around" from guys. But when you tell her and if she doesnt want to take the relationship to a new level, EXPRESS to her that you'll be satisfied with friendship. Maybe you'll lose your heart, but certainly not your friend.
2006-09-15 18:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by What gives? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my thought is --just try to get okay with whatever her response is --that you being honest with her is the important thing and what she responds is out of your hands. . .
but we'll all be thinking of you my friend.
2006-09-15 18:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her what you feel
2006-09-15 18:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by xsxsxsx36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how you feel. don't be afraid to be yourself and express yourself.
2006-09-15 18:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by m_rae0232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel.
2006-09-15 18:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by booyah-baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋