unfair? or am i sensitive ?

Question

i was just called all types of bit*ches and whores by my roommate, we are deployed and she is up for promo, and i damn sure know that aint NCO behavior! i am black she is white and my chain of command aint gonna do sh** about this. i am pissed and dont know what route to take to get results.
i want to change this for if my lil cousin ever wants to come in, she will not be subject to this type of prejudice and treatment.
and i also dont want to tolerate this crap anymore.

Answer 1

You must report this to your most superior officer. If that doesn't work, go directly to the media. I know it sounds ridiculous, but a distant friend of mine has had a related experience. That's what they did. They went to their superior officer and reported what had occurred. When the officer, I believe they were a lieutenant colonel if memory serves, reported to do nothing and get over it, but not in those exact words of course. My friend explained they were going to the press. That certainly changed the officer's mind, indeed it did.

I wish you the best. Unfortunately being in a position like this you sort of have to almost hold your tongue and do as you're told. But in any case, this sickens me with the type of nonsense that goes on with corrupt idiots in the armed forces. I now have a personal vendetta against your roommate. I don't wish harm against her, but, I do wish bad karma against her for that reason.

Answer 2

You have three options (1) Chain of Command to involve your Captains open door policy. But if you are already sure they aren't going to do anything about it like you are indicating then: (2) OE rep. Your unit is required to have them. If you don't think they are going to do anything the your base has EO advisors (3) Follow the moron's advise about taking matters into your own hands but this has a huge draw back like an Artical 15 for assult. Look up the punishments before you a make that choice. Its the worst of the bunch. But no matter what you do I can tell you that as an NCO and EOR your going to have to prove the reason she make those remarks. Were they an insult to your race, gender,, etc etc. Without the full story I'd have to say neither of the words she called you shows prejudice. Abuse maybe but without the rest of the story who knows. If not, its not an EO complaint but a chain of command complaint.

Answer 3

"Mom!! Billy's not playing nice! Waaaaahh!" Why don't you try growing up instead of whining? Maybe your roommate is right. Maybe she's wrong. Maybe she's having a bad day and so are you. But acting all thin-skinned and playing the race card to MEO is inappropriate and reinforces a stereotype against black women.

If you came to me and wasted my time with that line of crap, *you* would be the one I'd tear into. Your chain of command has better things to do than act like parents to bratty kids. If you can't act like adults around each other, have your First Sergeant separate you like mom used to. Geez.

Answer 4

First cool down. If you want to be a leader you have to keep your head. Second, you need to explain your situation to your commanding officer in a calm and clear manner. The way you have asked this question is not the way to explain it. Third, don't make a personal attack on your roommate, just tell that the way she acted was unprofessional and unacceptable. If you act like a leader the better your chances of becoming one.

Answer 5

Myself, I don't believe its a race issue. Is it possible that the two of you have a conflict of interest somewhere with one another instead. Maybe your roomate has some stress issues and is taking it out on you because your there nothing more. Take time to think about it before jumping to the race conclusion.

Answer 6

While I agree the behavior was unprofessional, there isn't anything here to indicate that it was racist. If it was racially directed, I think you should contact your ESO--the military has no place for that. If it wasn't racially related, and she currently has no direct authority over you (so she wasn't actually abusing any power) I would tell her you find that behavior unacceptable and that you will not tolerate being treated that way.

Answer 7

If this happened on the job then you have a legitimate gripe.

If it occurred in your living quarters then it's merely an argument between two immature service members who need to grow up and start acting like adults.

Work it out between the two of you if possible.

Answer 8

Don't worry-I know it sucks now, but the truth and the good always prevail-if you can get a tape recorder or a diary to save all the derogatory names that white trash has use on you, I bet it will come in handy-no she should definitely not make rank. Hell, if I was her officer-I'd freaking reprimand the biitch! Sorry, your stuck with such a c U n T! God bless. :) My prayers are with you!

Answer 9

This answer may or may not be valid considering that I don't know whyexactly you were called all that.

She could just be a ***** herself. However; her being of another race and saying all this doesn't make her racist. Saying these things just because you're bnlack are. There are many blacks that are my friends. There are also many black people I don't like. The reason I don't like them is not becuase of their race but generally because of their behavior of because they act like damn fools.

Answer 10

I know things happen in the military that isnt right, and sometimes it is prediuce stuff. and there is favortism and brown nosers. But when you signed up you signed up to be with people who may have the worst additude you can imagine..so what i would do is try and talk to someone about what my rights are and what you can do, and try and work it out and if this doesnt happen then i would ask to be transfered elsewhere...and you may have alot of fighting but many things in life take this to get people to listen..i hope things get better for you i really do..and i am glad you think of your cousin..its really nice..I hope i helped somehow and may your life be better..stay safe