My gf is a virgin shes never even kissed a guy before and cuz of that I havent put ant pressure on her to do anything. She feels that since I have had sex before that she will look stupid or not be good enough if we have sex. I have told her countless times she wont and just trust me and we wont do anything till shes ready. Today she told me she that isnt enough for me and that I will always want better or more that she cant give. What should I do?
2006-09-15 18:13:12 · 13 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I havent put any pressure on her and I wont cuz I care for her too much. And I have been with her for 8 months.
2006-09-15 18:24:05 · update #1
Don't have sex with her. Be her friend and don't demand sex from her. Try to abstain from having pre-marital sex until you two decide to marry and then have fun on your wedding night. By that point, you and her will be perfect for each other.
If you want to bust your *** with her regardless, maybe you should let her be and move on.
2006-09-15 18:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how old we are or how much experience we are, we are all afraid of not measuring up. She is obviously very self concious of her lack of experience. Words on their own aren't enough, show her will respect and consideration how much you care about her. Let her know that sex isn't a contest but an expression of your feelings for each other. Give yourselves the time to form the trust she needs in you and things will work out for the best.
Good luck and take care
2006-09-16 01:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her so much, then maybe you should stop talking about sex with her. Guess she's just not ready for it. And she doesn't want to appear stupid in front of you for not knowing how to make love. I think you can start off slowly with her. Things like kissing or hugging, till she feels safe and comfortable with you physically. I believe she'll overcome it. Don't worry.
2006-09-16 01:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by gummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her wish to stay at a level of physical intimacy she's comfortable with -- no pressure at all. That's the truly loving thing to do. If you MUST have sex, maybe you need a different girl. This girl has every right to wait as long as she needs to!
2006-09-16 01:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty man it sounds to me and this is just my opnion based on what you have said, that since she is a virgin and has had no sexual experience she feels that she will not be able to live up to what you would expect since you have more expeience than she does, and that all comes to the part of her self confidence. my best suggestion is try to reassure her that if you are with her for her then tell her so and not for the sex, because i myself am a married man and with my wife, her drive has gone down due to pregnancy but her self confidence on her looks went through the floor, try to reassure her that you are with her for who she is and what it is that you like about her, and that you aren't with her for the sex, or her sexual experience
2006-09-16 01:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by draco_401 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
virgin still exist....WOW......let her know that the first time aways feel a little fun that gaves you someting to look back on in the furture.. Next let her know that you cann't just get a lasting realionship out of a box. the two people must grow together and build the seed of love, need for one another, and sex.
2006-09-16 01:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has a self confidence problem and she's too afraid to get close to you. She's young and inexperienced. She probably feels intimidated because you have more experience than her and she's afraid of not performing to your particular level. Be gentle and caring and she will open up eventually.
2006-09-16 01:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being respectful of her. Just stay patient and if it's meant to be things will work out. Hang in there and best of luck to you
2006-09-16 01:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by leos1964 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her then give her a big kiss she'll change her mind
2006-09-16 01:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Biscuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on it, obviously now is not the time. It will work itself out i promise.
thank you, wittle :)
2006-09-16 01:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋