touching herself?

Question

i have a 6 years old niece, female. When she is alone in a room she begins like to touch her genital part and fingering into the vagina area, she very enjoy the feeling of doing it. I and my mom very scare about this habit. it is so awful to do tt in such young age. we already punish her by beatting her but tt doesnt stop her to do tt and now even secretly
could any 1 advice us what to do.. and please be serious because this kind of manner if prohibited in our culture. (plus she is only 6 years old)

Answer 1

All kids do this from time to time. It's a natural part of self awareness. Why do they do it? Because it feels good! Don't worry. Unless she's doing this to the exclusion of other activities - i.e. in excess - then you should feel happy that she's developing normally. You should kindly explain to her that touching herself there is private and is something that cannot happen in public places etc etc. Don't set her up to have problems in the future by giving her any hint that this is wrong/bad/abnormal etc.

Answer 2

Wow. The the heck is wrong with you? You have no right to beat on a 6 year old, regardless of what it is they are doing. Did you know she can be taken away because of your abuse? And rightly so I would think.

Ok, now exploring yourself is a normal part of growing up. I'm sure most people have at some point in their lives, even so many of those that feel the same way as you. If I were you I would be more concerned about how she picked that up as opposed to the actual fact that she is doing it.

Could it be possible that someone has done that to her? I suggest bringing her to the doctor and have her her looked at. They could most likely tell if there is some sexual abuse. And if not, then just let her be.

By you beating her, she may feel the urge to do it even more. If she's unhappy at home then why wouldn't she want to do whatever she could to feel some satisfaction, some happiness, some pleasure at whatever cost? Isn't that one of the reasons why so many troubled teens are out doing drugs and having sex?

You want her to know (at the proper age of course) that sex is something to be cherished between two stable adults that love each other, not that it's something disgusting or dirty. You don't want her to associate sex with pain and humilation do you? Remember that this is something that she can carry on forever.

Also, random little tidbit I got from a random fact book I read a while ago: A doctor found once and ultrasound of a (I think female) FETUS in the womb touching their genital area. @_@;;

Answer 3

Please stop !!!! what are u doing, do u think the child understands what she is doing, no way so the more u shout or beat her she will continue the activity. The following action are advisable:
1. Get her under pants and put on a trouser or dress which makes her unable to reach.

2. The next most important thing is to take the child to a paediatrician for a check up maybe there is some problem/infection.

And for heavens sake there is no culture involved in this (I am an Indian too) a child that age does not know anything.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with it. Ever notice a little baby touching him/herself when you change their diaper?? They know that it feels good. There have even been studies on babies that touch themselves while they are still in their mother. Every person touches their self. It is part of knowing who you are. It is not a dirty thing, it is normal-even natural. You just need to tell her that it is not to be done in front of anyone, and tell her over and over, that if anybody ever touches her there, to tell you or her mother. Tell her that it is ok for HER touch, but not the touch of a stranger. (Unless mommy or daddy is cleaning her during a bath) If you tell her that she can't do it, it will make her do it more. This is just the nature of humans. *God told Adam and Eve not to touch the apple...and looked what happened* If it is prohibited where you live, tell her that she shouldn't do it, but if she must, only when she is alone, like a night in bed. Kids will be kids...I wish you the best with this. Just remember, how you handle this now, will affect how is acts to sex and future partners when that time comes.

Answer 5

First off don't spank her because she is doing that. Every child goes through a curiosity phase including exploring their Private parts. Spanking her will only teach her that she is doing something bad. Like most people have already said there may be a reason behind her doing it. Take her to the doctor and have an exam done in some cases when a child starts to explore their body its just that and in others its because of some type of physical or sexual abuse. You need to figure out if its just the normal exploring a child does of if its because of sexual abuse.

Answer 6

My child went thru this phase also, as did I. It is completely normal. Just sit down and explain to her that it is a private thing and that no one else is EVER supposed to touch her in that area. Do not beat her for it! I spank my children so it isn't like I am against spanking. This is a natural part of growing up! I explained to my daughter that she has to do that when she is alone. After I stopped making such big deal about it she stopped messing with herself. I know it is scary and confusing, but if you are acting freaky about it; just imagine how she feels.

Answer 7

I have a six year old daughter, who does the same thing. I talked to our pediatrician and she said it is very normal. Her advise was not to make a big deal out of it. You don't want her to think what she is doing is bad. That she is a bad child. It will cause a complex when she is older. Teach her not to do it in public. Tell her that you know it feel good but it is not appropriate to touch your self while other people are around. Don't spank her again. That is so wrong for lots of reasons.

Answer 8

First sit her down and have a serious talk with her . I know she is 6 but if you yell or beat her that won't make it any better. Sit her down and ask her why she does this and if anyone she knows is touching her. Contact her Dr to get her checked out and if someone is touching contact the police to press charges. She is doing this for a reason not for fun. She either saw someone do it before , someone tell her ( like other kids at school ) or someone is molesting her. Good Luck

Answer 9

6 years old is young, but she does not deserve to get beat for it! She is 6 and does not know or mean to be perverted. I understand that it is against your culture but to punish is not the right way. No matter what you do she is most likely going to do it anyway. Maybe try the Dr. or counseling. But please no more beating!

Answer 10

DO NOT PUNISH HER! This will only make her question why you do not allow this behavior. As she gets older, and begins to see the faults in you parenting, she may make some...bad choices.
Also, why are you consulting the internet for parenting? You should talk to someone who knows what they are doing. Perhaps a pediatrician or child psychologist. Remember, if you think it's weird, it probably is.