how do you deal with someone calling you ugly?

Question

there is this guy who is calling me ugly and he is not such a nice person. why do guys always look at the appearance of a girl before even getting to know them first.

Answer 1

Just laugh at them.

As for your comment about not wanting to get to know girls they don't fancy .... rubbish

I'd rather spend time with a plain looking interesting person than a bubblehead who rated 10

Answer 2

Examine him closely...Like really really look..Do you see that he is not that gorgeous either? Trust me sweetie, to someone, maybe many people out there you are the best looking chick to set foot on planet earth!!! lol You must care about him to let it get to you..maybe you don't admit it but deep down inside..maybe a little tiny bit..you care. I bet he is the obnoxious popular jock who thinks he is god..lol..I am said to be really hot and sexy but guess what? If I learned anything in this life, I learned that appereance doesn't buy you happiness or get you anywhere in life. It only lasts a few seconds. First impressions people get when they look a me is "She is a stuck-up ***** who thinks she is all that!" I am not. But I always get that. People don't take the chance to actually talk to me and listen to me for ME. Sometimes I feel so alone. It's hard for EVERYONE to find people that like them for them without second guessing themselves as to WHY. I am not saying all this to you to make you feel worse. I am telling you all this because everyone is in the same boat- the beautiful, the ugly, the average. It's all about chemistry. We all have our lonely, sad, happy, crazy, lost, etc moments. But it's called life! You learn and move on. You realize that there will always be people judging you all the time. There are always first impressions. Whether a good one or a bad one. No one can tell what kind of a person you are from your looks. Give people time. Not everyone can or will like you but BE YOURSELF.Be confident and love yourself. Because that's what will make you pretty in the end. Your spirit!!! I think that if you just don't care and show him your true beauty, he too, will see it!Maybe by then it would be too late. God Bless!~

Answer 3

If he's so quick to put others down, then he has low self esteem and this is the only way he can make himself feel important. Ridiculing others is just a temporary fix for whatever self hate he's currently drowning in. Hold your head up high and never let him know it bothers you as much as it does. He'll only get pleasure in that. Instead know that inside he's feeling a lot worse that you do, and that you are strong enough to not have to pull such childish things just to make yourself feel better. Good luck and take care!

Answer 4

No, guys don't look at someone's appearance before judging them, people look at other people and can be very rude and judgmental. Welcome to the human race. You can't let people like that get to you, otherwise your self-esteem will be non-existant. Don't give people like that the time of day, they just aren't worth the time and energy. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good, then you won't have any room for rude hurtful people in your life. That guy that made that comment may see you as unattractive, but there may be guy coming around the corner that will look at you and think you beautiful. Thank goodness we do not all share the same attraction, not all of us girls can look like top models, just you and I. Ha Ha Ha.

Answer 5

I want you to go into the mirror and say "I am a beautiful person inside and out" I may not look like a beauty queen to some people but I am a beauty queen in my higher powers eyes that's why he made me the way that I am BEAUTIFUL!" I want you to always remember the most beautifulist person in the world in the most uglist because of thier attutitude beauty is only skin deep remember that. The person who said that to you see something exceptional in you that they want to have or do like you but they have low self esteem so they are putting thier uglyness on you stay beautiful in the heart body and soul.!

Answer 6

I was actually teased about being ugly up until 5th grade...Don't let the jerk bother you. true beauty is on the inside and in due time it will reveal itself for the whole world to see. I am told now that I am dandelion beautiful...just remember that your looks may change in a year or so and today's Ugly Duckling is Tomorrows Swan. There will come a day that he'll regret ever calling you ugly. karma catches up with everyone. If you think him to be good looking now...wait...all that ugliness inside him is going to expose itself and he will be ugly on the outside when your beauty is shining its brightest.

Answer 7

I am guessing you are still in your teens....I have been there & I know it hurts, you gotta learn not to let it bother you, yeah some people can be superficial, but they are the people you dont wanna know...You need to develop your confidence, because believe me that is a way better turn on to men than anything else.
I am in my 40's have had lover's much younger and very hot, had men wanna kill each other over me. Have brought men to tears...I am not that hot, but I do have a hellva of a lot of confidence as i have got older....beauty really does come from within.....Ignore this imature creature....maybe you could tell him, that he would know...cos it takes one to know one...or just say that is what boys with small penis's say

Answer 8

Honey, some people are just ignorant. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change them. The best way to handle the situation is the old cliche....ignore them. As long as you know that are the most beautiful person inside and out, why would you care what they think. Be strong, be proud, hold that head high. Thay can't change how strong you are.

Answer 9

He is just being a jerk and likes the attention he gets from it,he is a attention seeker and it doesn't always mean what these kind of people say is true , they usually pick out the person whos head hangs lower then the rest so make sure you litterally keep your head up high and smile .roll your eyes at him and say your not to hot yourself (even if he is) and walk away dont stand there and listen.At least act like it doesn't bother you and try not to let it bother you .

Answer 10

this guy is so immature he is just trying to get a rise out of you. He's a little boy who doesn't get enough attention from his parents.
Ignore him, truly. Not in an I'm not gonna pay attention way. When he says something just look at him and then keep going about your business as if nothing happened. He'll try harded at first and then shut up.