The girl is a very close friend who I know through family. She is three years younger than me. I'm pretty sure I'm not her type. Is there anything I can do or say, without making the situation awkward, to see how she feels about me? Any advice would be very much appreciated.
2006-09-15 17:40:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The girl is a very close friend who I know through family. She is three years younger than me. I'm pretty sure I'm not her type. Is there anything I can do or say, without making the situation awkward, to see how she feels about me? Any advice would be very much appreciated.
By the way, I am very shy when it comes to women.
2006-09-15 17:45:18 · update #1
I know this sounds kind of like high school (which I am in right now), but you could have a friend casually bring up the subject when you aren't around and ask her if she is attracted to you.
2006-09-15 17:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tread very carefully here. You have a lot to loose...mainly her sincere friendship. You cannot be sure however, that you are in love with her...more than likely a deep infatuation...and possibly lust.
If you are bound (obviously at all cost ) to try and change the relationship, be prepared to suffer the consequences.
Take her on a casual lunch, or something similar...nothing fancy. When you have her absolute attention, look her in the eye and say with a smile, there are so many things about her that you admire. To you she is ideal. Say if you feel anything similar lets try for something closer.
Do not stutter, be confident.
Go from there.
Don't tell her you love her or anything like that and reassure her that if she feel different, in no way will it jeopardize the friendship...and mean it. Do not appear like a love sick puppy during the conversation. If she does not go along with you, drop it immediately ( with something like I knew that I wouldn't be that lucky), continue to smile and to enjoy the lunch. Don't act hurt!
Let it go. You don't want her to feel that this idea is lurking in your mind and you are waiting to spring it on her again.
What can happen though (if you are indeed lucky) she will start to think about it and begin to observe you closer. At the very least she will admire the class and dignity in which you presented yourself. Therefore from then on put your best foot forward and keep her laughing.
But not with Stupid, Classless jokes..just your wit.
2006-09-16 01:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever gone out with her? If not ask her out for dinner and see how she reacts. If it goes okay after a few dates then try to give her a kiss and maybe talk to her about how you feel. She may have been feeling the same way. Take the risk. There is a chance it could ruin the friendship but if you do it casually and don't go nuts about it you should be okay. Don't pledge your love to her at 3am under her window or anything. Just be normal and smooth. Ask her out and go from there.
Just take it slow.
2006-09-16 00:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well why don't you ask her how she feels about you. There is no harm in wanting to know. If you are as good of friends as you say then she will understand.
2006-09-16 00:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know what u feel and go from there
2006-09-16 00:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by jlnunez06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel
2006-09-16 00:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Giggles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get into a conv. and work your way into it( trust me, im a girl)
2006-09-16 00:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Bunny Luvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋